I have 2 boys and 2 different fathers I have been through hell went them . I met someone that I always dreamed of having. We only knew each other for 5 days and so far we have gone to church 2gether and took the kids to the amusement park and it has been wonderful we even plan on being saved 2gether but the only thing is he lives with another woman. Which he has been searching for his own place with me because he wants out of the relationship. He says she is not what he wants. Me personally has always had my guard up when it came to men since my 2 bad 1's with my kids father. But I trust in this man like this is the best feeling I ever had. I just want 2 know am I being crazy? Honest answers only.
2007-05-08 04:21:07 · 20 answers · asked by lsdhaiti 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Be careful on this one..5 days is too soon. if a man loves you a man would be there for your.. just a friendly reminder sex does not always mean love... a man can treat you nice, take you out for dinner and bring you roses... that is nice....but know if that man would be there for you if you don't sleep with him or when things don't go well... is this man supporting you emotionally, reading the bible with you, taking extra time with your kids and loving them just like his own or just focus to you? well you as the mother knew when this is the right man and when your answer is yes to all of the above I think you are ready for relationship....
- A good relationship is to have someone who stands next to you and listen you and give you advice when needed.
- A good relationship is knowing someones boundary and respecting others boundaries.
a Good relationship is when someone know what is the meaning of NO and YES.
hope this helps
2007-05-08 04:37:52 · answer #1 · answered by Xam the Monkey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my honest opinion, you can't even think about a relationship with this guy, until he is free of the other woman & is living on his own. Sure, he is living up to your expectations, but what's not to say, he won't want someone else, & do to you what he's doing to the woman he lives with? You say you always have your guard up when it comes to men, then your guard should be up now too. Save yourself some heartache. Tell this guy you can't see him anymore until he is free of the other woman, once & for all. Right now, he wants his cake & is eating it too. Don't let it be this way. You have the rest of your life to find the man of your dreams if it doesn't work out with this guy. If he doesn't leave this woman soon, then you'll know where you stand. You will then find a man who is unattached & will love you & accept your children. In situations like this, you have to think with your mind, not your heart & it's not always easy, but you can do it.
2007-05-08 05:01:25 · answer #2 · answered by Shortstuff13 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can tell if it's ready for you to have another relationship. Make sure you are emotionally and physically available . And as for him he shouldn't mess with the other woman's feelings tell her straight that he wants out . It would hurt her feelings but its better to get hurt by the truth than get hurt by the lie. Tell him that you would only go into a serious relationship with him if he's single again . Trust me its best for you and your two kids . But for the mean time just don't stress you got two kids to worry about . Good luck
2007-05-08 04:30:36 · answer #3 · answered by Deniece Lei A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to slow down I mean you have been hurt and that he is the first guy in a long while to treat you with respect and so you are falling fast and hard but HE IS LIVING WITH ANOTHER WOMEN so tell him while you like him a lot until he moves out all you can be is good friends save your self and your two little ones the heart break that could happen
2007-05-08 04:26:07 · answer #4 · answered by weeping_spirit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I can tell you now that you are getting involved with someone that you will end up regretting having got with. This man is living with a woman (being unfaithful to her, with you). If a man will cheat WITH you he will cheat ON you. He is telling you that he is looking for a place of his own...and he may be; but I guarantee you that his woman does not know that he is seeing you. You have only been seeing this man for five days and already there are signs of him being a lying cheat. Seriously, don't go any further with this man he will end up cheating on you and treating you the same way he is doing this woman now.
2007-05-08 04:34:21 · answer #5 · answered by kristin747 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 2 kids and I am single mother. I have made a descision that it was okay a long time ago to date, but at the same time I decided that it would not be okay to let my daughter's meet them until I had been with them at least 6 months, and I knew that it was going to work out. Kids get real confused about dating, and as long as you protect their fragile minds, then I don't see anything wrong with dating. Good luck!!!
2007-05-08 04:27:37 · answer #6 · answered by ellasdaughter2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, he is not the one for you. If God wanted him to be the one he wouldn't be trying to date you with a woman at home. 5 days is nothing. I'm 27 with 2 children and I have never exposed them to a man within months never the less 5 days. You appear to be desperate. Go to church with your children alone. You will know when you find that special father for your children, husband and friend for you. I did so and you will.
2007-05-08 04:32:48 · answer #7 · answered by micky mouse1214 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you know he isnt just telling you what you want to hear just to get you into bed? He is already with someone and you knwo what they say..Once a cheater always a cheater...but hey thats not for us to decide it is for you to decide and make your own decisions.
If you feel that he is going to change for you then go for it but you need to do what is best for your little boys before you make your decision. they shoul;d be the most important part of this and I think that you already know that.
Good Luck Dear and congratulations on getting saved
2007-05-08 04:29:37 · answer #8 · answered by dede 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats dirty. No matter how wonderful he seems, he is a cheater. Its not like he is moving out tomorrow. He is "looking"
thats just an excuse to do you and her at the same time. and he is using your kids to get to your heart. he wants to move in with you after 5 days? sounds like he wants a mommy and a maid and a financial support.
id run from this guy. he sounds creepy.
if its too good to be true, it usually is.
2007-05-08 04:28:06 · answer #9 · answered by sweetblueyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think tha tyour being crazy, but i would say to slow down and look at the situation for what it is... he's living with another woman, you never know he might be looking for someone else when he's bored with you, and you would never know it.. see how his relationship with his family is and how he treats his mother, cuz you already see how he's treating the woman that he lives with. everything might be all good now but wait until things marinate...
2007-05-08 04:30:47 · answer #10 · answered by new jeroo dime 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋