....and she said that she is not going to hold back, she is totally going to break out all the "naughty" stuff, so she said that I can choose who is invited to this so that i am not totally imbarrassed. I don't know what to do because I am very close to my future mother-in-law, who is also paying for the entire wedding, and I'm affraid that it would offend her if I didn't invite her, but I would be totally embarrassed if she came. It would be my prefference to just invite a few of my close friends... What should I do?
2007-05-08 03:36:26 · 18 answers · asked by Mrs. Wifey! 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Note to MariChelita: I haven't had any contact with my biological mom in a fews years....
2007-05-08 03:53:45 · update #1
if you are very close to your mother in law you should invite her. i'd explain to her what will b there and let HER make the dicision on whether she can handle it. and by that i mean, handling just being there.. and handling see her soon to be daughter in law by things MEANT for her Son. = ) good luck
2007-05-08 03:45:29 · answer #1 · answered by *DiZzLe* 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Is there a possiblility that you aren't giving your MIL enough credit? Obviously, she's a grown woman and knows about such things that go on in a wife and husband's bedroom. Maybe she's a little more up for it than you might think. Just be up front with her about the party. Tell her a friend of yours insists on throwing it and you would love for her to be there if she feels comfortable with it. Or, if you really really just don't want her to come, don't tell her anything about the party at all and make sure your few close friends and the girl throwing the party keep their mouths shut. I could understand the issue that maybe you aren't worried about her being embarrased, but you know you will be. If she doesn't already know about the party, and you don't want her to come, keep it hush hush and what she doesn't know won't hurt her feelings. If it comes up later, you can always say it was a surprise and you didn't know who was coming. Whatever you decide to do, have fun and congratulations!
2007-05-08 12:04:07 · answer #2 · answered by tehuskey513 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Invite her but tell her what is going on. But remember you are not the one buying the naughty stuff someone else is. You cant help what others buy you. Just because it is naughty stuff doesn't mean you will ever wear them. The whole fun in the lingerie party is to buy embarrassing stuff. Just have fun with it all.
2007-05-08 10:50:51 · answer #3 · answered by gizmo0013 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Then just invite a few close friends. I'm sure your mother-in-law understands that this is a kinda bachelorette party and she wouldnt want to intrude.
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*If I can give you some advise... Even though you get along great with your mother-in-law dont ignore your own mother or choose her over the MIL because your mother can really get hurt.
2007-05-08 10:50:27 · answer #4 · answered by MariChelita 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have a small lingerie party with your close girlfriend (which would be a blast) and then have a more traditional party for the rest of those invited. Unless you are close to the bride, it is VERY akward to attend a lingerie party...no matter what anyone says.
2007-05-08 10:45:39 · answer #5 · answered by mdrndncr 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Just tell her that it's a lingerie/adult novelty party and you are inviting her but you feel you should warn her in advance that there will be plenty of adult toys and you weren't sure if she would be uncomfortable with it. This way you give her the option of coming or not.
2007-05-08 11:09:08 · answer #6 · answered by Steven's Mommy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just pick up the phone and explain it to your mother in law. Tell her that it is not a party that you planned, and would love her to be there but understand that she might not be fully comfortable. You may want to host a Thank You tea for her.
2007-05-08 10:45:43 · answer #7 · answered by Tara C 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is a lingerie party. Not a bridal shower. You invite your friends not family memebers unless you are close to them and know that they wont be offended. Your bridal shower is supposed to be people giving you stuff like cooking ware, sheets, have finger foods, ect.
2007-05-08 11:01:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your future MIL won't be offended if you keep things at a classy level. Being overly vulgar or sexual might be a bad thing... but I am sure that you are a woman of high standard and have nothing to worry about
2007-05-08 10:57:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would say ask her about it. Ask her if she would be comfortable attending:) She may decide just to go to the other showers and leave this one to the younger women - which is usually what happens with these things.
2007-05-08 13:30:11 · answer #10 · answered by Chrys 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋