Hi... i never thought this story will happen to me... i am married with a lovely husband and 4 years old daughter.. we are a happy family till i met this man 2 months ago.. at the start i didnt serious but now i feel like i am in love with him..i dont want to leave my family but also i dont want to hurt him aswell... what should i do?
2007-05-08 03:34:40 · 16 answers · asked by patitebrownie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Have your cake and eat it too.
2007-05-08 03:39:10 · answer #1 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should sleep with him and wait until hubby finds out and then wait for World War Three to kick off -
You want your cake and to eat it as well - that is selfish beyond belief - you do not care about your family because if you did you would not have let things like this develop - you are using this forum as a sounding board for what you should do - when in reality you have two choices - leave your hubby or stay.
2007-05-08 10:43:40 · answer #2 · answered by jamand 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go there, you love your husband and daughter. Why risk losing them for something you may feel when you already have it. Concentrate on your marriage put the spark back in there do something you haven't done for a very long time.
This other guy will understand if you stay away if he does not then he did not respect you and was only after one thing.
Remember you are already in love don't waste what you have
2007-05-08 10:43:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should make it very clear to this guy that your happly married and that you dont want your friendship to go no more than that.
you have to look at the pros and cons would you really wanna break your happy little family up to be with this guy ?
if i was you i would stay with my family and make things work if it bothers you that much try not to see this guy as much and your feeling for him may go away.
trust me i know were your coming from the same thing has happened to me.
also leaving your husband is not fair to your little one, its better to stay and make things work. and even if you did leave your husband for this guy what if it does not work out and you have left your husband for nothing and broken a healthy marrage up. your really need to think quick and fast before this gets out of hand.
hope this helps you.
good luck and think about things before doing it.
babybear x
2007-05-08 10:50:37 · answer #4 · answered by babybear3550 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you need to decide who is more important and make a decision.
You cant lead a double life as you will inevitably be found out and end up loosing everything - as a married woman you should not have allowed yourself get into this situation - think of your husband and daughter- do they deserve to have their wife/mother to be carrying on like this?
The grass is not always greener on the other side - are you willing to take a chance of loosing your family on a whim?
At the end of the day you cant have both - so you need to access what is inevitably more important to you and make your decision from there
xx
2007-05-08 10:43:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with the others. don't even go there, girl!! you have a family. not everyone has a good husband and a kid. for you to just throw that away isn't good at all. i'm not going to tell you what to do but my advice to you is leave the other guy. what if you lose your family and the other guy breaks up with you later. what will you do then?
make the right decision xxx
2007-05-08 10:49:28 · answer #6 · answered by Zelly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uh... Ma'am I think you have a responsibility to your family. Dump the guy, it takes two to tangle and he apparently has no respect for you or your family. There are plenty of eligible single women... as unbelievable as it may seem.
You have a good thing going, a happy family, don't ruin it with this home wrecker.
(I also believe in "What comes around goes around." If you turn your back on your family... something just as terrible will eventually return to you.)
2007-05-08 10:43:40 · answer #7 · answered by Darren 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you're a mature person and you already know what to do. Of course, you should not break your family and you should be faithful to your husband especially you have sibling.
You should get rid of that man before you end up into a big problem to your family.
2007-05-08 10:44:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you cared for your family then you wouldn't have feelings for this other man. Don't leave your family for some man...Just tell him you are married and you want to stay that way.
2007-05-08 10:39:21 · answer #9 · answered by Tiffany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do the right thing...dont assume the grass is greener on the other side...its not the case..u will b uprooting yr child/chidlren...i do believe history will repeat itself ...stay where u are....the one u think u love if he had any morals and beliefs he would keep well away...whats wrong is wrong...
as a adult think deep and hard...weigh the good with the bad and u will find change is not always good and theres no way back.....dont do it>>>>>>
2007-05-08 10:44:52 · answer #10 · answered by knightrider9799 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart... If your marriage is in the gutter and there isnt anything to do that can fix it then you need to be happy... and more than likely if your unhappy then your husband is unhappy... So you need to talk to him... see what he's feeling... Because you may just need to SPICE things up in your MARRIAGE.. Good LUCK
2007-05-08 10:41:30 · answer #11 · answered by Jessica 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋