A question of courtesy and respect for my boyfriend?

Question

Last night my bf and I were messing around, and there was no penetration but a little pre-ejaculation leaked out and soaked a little onto my bed. Now I am worried that it may have gotten on me, possibly causing pregnancy, even though I had panties on and he had shorts on. He doesn't know that I saw the leakage on my bed, and he tried to cover it up due to embarrassment.

But now I'm worried and I want to ask him if there was any chance it could have gotten on me. Yet I don't want to embarrass him or cause him any disrespect by asking him or telling him I noticed it... I know this sounds really stupid but I really need your advice.

Thanks!

Answer 1

Well if you are "messing around" then you should be in a relationship with open communication. You should be able to talk about these things.
But if you both had under ware on and what you saw was on the bed the likely hood of you getting pregnant is very very slim. For you to get pregnant the sperm needs to enter your body, they are hardy little guys but if your panties never came off not likely to be a problem. If you don't feel comfortable bring it up to him call and make an appointment with family planing or something

Answer 2

It IS amazing how simple it is for someone to get pregnant. No matter how many precautions you take, there is no 100% way to protect yourself from pregnancy; the only way to prevent it is to not put yourself in situations where sperm may present itself.

Penetration is not a requirement as far as conceiving a child is concerned; it only makes the chance of conceiving a higher probability. Sperm and semen are two different things. A sperm is a free-roaming organism, and the presence of semen introduces MILLIONS of sperm into the vicinity.

It is ironic how, when we have sex for the right reasons, we never seem to be able to fertilize...but as soon as it's just an act of "messing around" it puts us in places we don't want to be. I would have to say, if you're not ready to have a child, you should probably put a hold on fooling around with your boyfriend.

As for your boyfriend, it's his responsibility to be a mental, emotional, and physical support for you. Though women are extremely independent, and in many cases better suited for life than men, the men are expected to make the sacrifices of life and allow women to maintain a higher class of living. Call me old-fashioned, but I've talked to a lot of women who enjoy being with men who support them and make the necessary sacrifices instead of the men making THEM do it.

If it's a concern you have, it's serious enough that you should probably share it with him. And he should be prepared to be there with you, no matter what happens. If he can't commit to you for ANY situation that may arise, you should tell him to say so now and leave, sparing you the hurt that you'll feel if he leaves later.

I know that was a lot of information and it was all kind of jumbled, but I hope you understood.

Answer 3

i very much doubt you would be pregnant --- he needs to be involved and he would be even more embarrassed if you became pregnant