Military Wives... whenever your husband is active duty, and you go with him.. what do you do???

Question

My husband is in the Air Force. We are newly weds and he was just sent to Charleston SC. i am here with him in a Hotel room. Until July. I am applying for a few jobs to make some extra cash and to get out of the house for awhile. Sitting at home all day everyday gets a little boring. So please if you could, tell me what you do. As far as hobbies go, my husband and i both love video games so i spend my day Cleaning, cooking breakfast at 6am, lunch at 11, and supper whenever. The day goes by fast but still, i find myself with no ambitions. i want to be a mother and a good wife. He supports that. But he also brings it to my attention often that i am doing nothing with myself. I can't exactly get a steady job. Every job i get an interview for will not hire me because i will not be here until july. I want to study psychology. how would i go about that, being on the move. I need to be productive. For whenever i do have children i want to give them my knowledge. Anything will be appreciated.

Answer 1

well, first off...why are you in a hotel and not base housing? OR are in in temp quarters??
that's probably the case.

look, go out and get a job. i'm not in favor of lying to people, BUT in your situation, don't tell them that you are leaving in july. simply tell them that you are military and you know that you are here for the time being and don't anticipate moving anytime soon, but you just don't know what uncle sam has in store for your husband.
this way when you do leave in july, you can just tell your boss that your husband got orders somewhere else and you're sorry. be sure to give 2 weeks notice.
have you tried hotel chains, banks, substitute teaching could be a great thing for you! you could be with kids, you could make some extra money and it'd be part time so if you wanted to surprise your husband at work with lunch, you could.

basically, it sounds like your situation is tricky and not very permanent so that makes it hard to get comfy there.

hang in there until you get stationed somewhere permanent. then get active! go to the gym, find a job, make friends. have your husband invite work friends over for dinner or drinks or to play games. have them bring their spouses or girlfriends.
find a hobby or volunteer somewhere.

there are lots of things out there, you just have to get motivated!

take care.

Answer 2

I know how hard it can be to be with a military guy and not be working. I went through the same thing and ended up going back and forth to England to work just to get some money coming in. As everyone has said go the onlinr learning route. Also there is a course that you can do where you learn to put medical records on the computer it takes 18 months to learn and then you can work from home. I know that you can do that from base to base. Also volunteer on base there is so much to do there. Even if its working part time in the coffee shop at least it is something. Great choice of degree but make an appointment and sit down and talk with the education worker that is what they are there for is to guide spouses in what to do next. It is a tough life being a military spouse but its the most rewarding one. Just get out of the hotel room invite some of the wives to like a coffee morning at the local cafe they also may give you some ideas as to what to do and where to go. Good luck and congrats on marrying into the military

Answer 3

Military life is not easy. But in only a few years you will be a pro and they should offer degrees to military wives!! Definatley look into taking online classes, that is the best until you know you will be stationed somewhere for a long period of time. My husband has been active army for 13 years and I have been married to him for five. I have never had a job since being married to him. My husbands MOS keeps him gone a lot so I take that opportunity to go home and see my family. We also have a 1 year old son now and he keeps me on my toes. They have many programs on the bases for wives and children. Join the FRG and get involved with them. They stay busy planning things and plus when your husband deploys you will have other wives to lean on. It is way too difficult to make it in the military life without friends. My suggestion, get on the base, go to the YMCA and find a schedule of their activities, such as scrapbooking or something and join up (they are always free) and start making friends. Good luck to you and may God bless you....Welcome to Military Life!

Answer 4

First off, I'm not too clear if you are in Charleston until July or the hotel until July. Anyway I look at it I would explore that city to no end. Go buy a map and just let it lead you to new and excitiing places. Get a bus schedule and just go, go, go....
Now, as for your education....there are lots of courses that you can do online. I am starting at American Military University in about a month. All the classes are online and when you move you don't have to worry about transferring credits. They offer to a Master's Degree program. But there are so many you can choose from. Plus, I would research grants....there are grants for everything....from being blue eyed, left handed, or a military wife. I would recommend that you visit the Fleet and Family Service Center on the base.
Congrats on your marriage and your marriage to the military. It's a tough, but exciting life. Take advantage of everything they have to offer and every place that you visit.

Answer 5

First of all, congratulations for marrying a military man!

Hotel life is fun, isn't it? Seriously, you'll get out of military life exactly what you put into it...

Buy a Charleston map, get out of that hotel, and see the town. It's a beautiful place!

Have you looked into temporary employment services such as Kelly?

Obviously you have access to a computer, so look into a college where you can take Psychology-related courses and even get your degree online. Then no matter where you are, you can finish at the same college and not have to worry about what credits will and won't transfer.

**EDIT: As you can see from the responses to this question, you are confusing people when you talk about July. Are you moving from the hotel in July but staying in Charleston, or are you leaving the area entirely in July? Are you sure these potential employers understand exactly what you are doing? When I initially answered your question, I too thought you were leaving in July. That's why I didn't mention anything having to do with the base.

Answer 6

Go to base and find out what colleges are on base, a lot of times those colleges are on other bases and so you can stick with one college, or go the Internet route, just make sure the college is regionally certified and not just nationally certified. If you can't find a job then volunteer....trust me that will keep you VERY busy. Go to the base and meet other wives through base events and as everyone else has said Charleston is a beautiful city. If you like the beach got to Folly beach, its about 15 minutes from historical Charleston and it is really amazing you are on the interstate and in a city one minute and in a small beach town the next. Very nice with a pier and has a small hometown feel to it. If you want to try something really adventurous go to Walterboro, SC there is a Drop Zone there where you can go skydiving. My husband was an instructor there when we lived in Beaufort and they are a great group of people that run the DZ and the regular skydivers are great too. You can also go to Hilton Head, its probably about 45 minutes to an hour if I am remembering correctly...great shopping and golfing there. Just get out of the hotel before you go crazy.

Answer 7

Well I have been married to my husband for almost two years. He is active duty air force and we are stationed in New Jersey. Unfortantly has a military wife, your life will revolve around the military. I had a very difficult time finding a job, but I eventually found one.
As far as school goes, I am going for my masters in education. You just have to apply somewhere and hope you finish before you get orders!! If you don't well, just transfer.
There is always the online learning route, however, if you want to be a teacher, nurse, lawyer etc etc you can't go to school online for those professions.

I love video games and movies. I got really active in my husbands squadron, because thats one place I know if I volunteer my efforts it reflects well on him as well as myself. It's also a place where I can spend as much time as possible with him. He is a flier and assigned to an air craft so he is away from home a lot. You just have to find your nitch. I have been married for almost two years and it really took me about a year and our home base station to get into a routine of things.

I hope this helps you out. If you need anything email me! Trust me I can relate!!!

Answer 8

There are plenty of colleges that offer classes online. Lots of spouses get their degrees that way, or at least get quite a few classes out of the way! Check with the base education office... they should be able to help you. Volunteer, either on base or off base. No organization will turn down a volunteer, whether it's for 2 months or 2 years. Check with the Family Readiness Center on that one... they should have a volunteer resource person. Explore... check out Charleston. Find some cool shops, check out the history of the area, drive or walk through some of the historic districts.
Whatever you do, don't just sit and vegetate. Hubby's day is full and he's not going to want to entertain you when he gets home. And if you just complain about sitting there all day, he will be miserable as well.

Answer 9

Ok, I'm also a new military wife of a US Marine and he's stationed in Quantico VA. Yeah there are times where it's very boring, but you have to keep yourself motivated. If you wanna pursue school, think about some online classes. That would make it easy for you to go to work. As for keeping yourself busy, try taking in some of the sites and whatnot. There should be a website for that base and on the website try looking for clubs and organizations or even the gym! I hope this helps!! Congrats!!!

Answer 10

If your only in Charleston until July that would definitely make getting a job hard, but you don't have to tell them that either, you could wait until 2 weeks before you leave, I just wouldn't use them as a reference later. As far as studying, how often will you be moving? My husband was Navy (until last week) and we had to move every 3 years, as far as I know Air Force moves less than that. Once he's settled into his duty station you could look into going to school. Check with the family support office (i don't know what it's called in the air force, ours is fleet and family support) they will have some good information on financial programs for mil. wives (of course you will have to be a wife to take advantage of them) They also have job placement assistance. For now, just get out, go explore the city your in.