I fell in love with him, i did everything I could to make him happy, i let him do whatever he wanted and never stopped him in doing anything, satisfied him in every way. What more could guys want from a girlfriend? Then he dumps me out of the blue, saying that he was unhappy but doesn't know why. I was so heartbroken, but me loving him so much i let him go and gave him what he wanted. Now all of our friends are telling me that we as a couple didnt do anything and we were boring, and becoming single was a good idea, and are all looking at me like it was all my fault like I ruined his life, like he was the f*ing victim out of all of this. I feel like a total fool and a failure. He still hasn't told me an explanation as he "doesn't know", but it feels like he was influenced by his mates as they are all single.
2007-05-07 23:48:42 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I encouraged to go out with his mates by himself and go on holidays, travel and that, i was totally supportive but he didnt want to he wanted to stay home with me.
2007-05-07 23:59:54 · update #1
He dumped you because he said he was unhappy but admitted he didn't know why ,,,,
I know why and will tell you if you want to bear with me a few minutes ,,,,
With the exception of a very few almost all guys let their glands do their thinking for them ,,,, With them it's always "I DO" until they don't want to any more ,,,, It's a male thing ,,,, It starts right at or around puberty and lasts up into their 30's and 40's and with some even beyond that ,,,, Some guys have this problem their whole lives and never settle down to just one woman ,,,,
Regardless of what you do for them or how often or repeatedly they start looking around for some one that excites them more than their present girlfriend or wife and the next thing you know they start cheating on you or just plain leave and there you are ,,,, You are left high and dry and used and abused and they could care less who gets hurt in the process or how bad ,,,, These guys never realize just what they have until they no longer have it ,,,, Their glands blind them to reality ,,,, They can't see past their noses ,,,, All they know is that they are ready for the rutt ,,,,
There are allot of circumstances and situations that could be brought out and discussed about this but that would take too long ,,,,
The basic reason ,, bottom line ,, and most accurate answer to this question is his glands ,,,,
He would never admit any of this to himself or anyone else but he has to come up with some kind of a plausible reason that's acceptable and satisfactory to him or anyone else ,,,,
This is why you are catching all the crap and flack now ,,,, It's much easier for him if he can just blame you than it would be for him to accept the truth and responsibility for his short comings ,,,, It would also give him a reason to feel sorry for himself and make up a good sob story to lay on his next targate too ,,,,
If you are rid of him now then definitely keep it that way ,,,, You need this guy like you need a broken leg ,,,, In fact you'd be better off if you did have a broken leg ,,,,
You don't need this crap and you don't deserve it ,,,, Don't let him come back either no matter what he says or how he acts even if it would include tears ,,,, Guys are good actors too and they are capable of doing or saying anything they have to in order to get what they are after which could include tears if he thought it would do him any good ,,,,
Don't take him back ,,,, He's done this to you now ,,,, There's no reason to expect that he wouldn't do it to you again if you ever got back with him ,,,, Just write him off and move on with your life ,,,, Don't put your life on hold for anyone ,,,,
He's by far not the only fish in the pond so to speak ,,,, Go fishing ,,,, Find some one that's fun and exciting to be with and will treat you the way you should be treated ,,,, Most of them come trouble and problem free besides ,,,,
Stop letting him and these other so called friends walk all over you about this ,,,, Dump him like a hot rock and stick to your guns on this and don't let anyone compromise your resolve ,,,,
Good luck sugar ,,,,Just be wise and use your head ,,,, Think about everything and from all angles before you make any decisions or moves ,,,,
Yoda told you this ,,,,
2007-05-08 01:52:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The problem here is you don't know what he is telling his friends. I highly suggest you slow down a bit and not give so much in a relationship because you are opening yourself up for doing it all for the rest of your life. Then one day you will be posting here saying, he doesn't help with the housework, he doesn't take out the trash and so on. I also suggest you never, ever move in with someone and always maintain your independence. There is nothing worse in the world than a woman being thrown out of the house, in a strange place and no where to go. No one can make you feel like a fool and a failure. These are emotionially feelings and you have total control of your feelings. Be thankful this relationship is over as it will give you sometime to look inside of yourself and mend from this and go on with life.
2016-05-18 01:05:56 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find you someone more like you. Find a leader, not someone that will be influenced by his friends. In other words, find a real man that will make you happy, and has similar interests. He will realize that "the grass isn't greener on the other side of the fence" and want to come back after he has played for awhile. Don't sit around waiting. Tell him that once you start moving on, there is no coming back.
2007-05-08 00:04:29 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Good riddens to bad rubbish!!! Sounds like you did all the giving and he did all the taking. Get on with your life, stop worrying about what all those people say, if they are talking sh*t, they really aren't friends anyway. We are all responsible for our own happiness, if he was unhappy in the relationship, that is no one's fault but his own. Don't let these people make you think that it was your fault, after all if you feel bad because of someone else, it is because you allowed them to make you feel bad. Keep your head up, move on and enjoy life. There is someone out there for you that won't make you feel like the dumping ground for their unhappiness!!!
2007-05-07 23:57:21 · answer #4 · answered by Austins Mom 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh,you poor girl!!!I've done everything for my boyfriend too...we split up later coz he left England...but I still feel a bit like a fool!!He started to think it's normal that I'm doing every single thing for him.So...maybe that's why...did he get bored?Anyway,when i asked him to go out tonight(we lived togeher),he just said "no,let's stay home"...there was no fun with him at all...I think you're better off without him!When you find a next boyfriend,dont do everything for him!He should make you happy too!!!
2007-05-07 23:57:12 · answer #5 · answered by **Diana** 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
letting go is a good thing...it show how much you love the other...but if he starts blaming you for the breakup, then he is an unworthy fool & so are his mates...you have to accept things the way they are or you will never be truely happy. some of us are lucky in love some not..but the true success in love is by giving & not expecting any in return...
2007-05-07 23:57:42 · answer #6 · answered by Urban Hermit 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you should listen to what your friends are telling you. Did you and your ex ever go anywhere or do anything? Be honest. Perhaps you were too possessive and didn't want to take a chance on losing him by letting him get out around other people. Just staying by yourselves and having sex sometimes just isn't enough.
2007-05-07 23:56:27 · answer #7 · answered by don n 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like he was influenced by his mates. Well at least you know he is going to always get other peoples opinions about his lovelife, really sad how he chose to end this situation without explaining anything, shows your better off without him and deserve a guy who will treat you so much better!
2007-05-08 00:04:34 · answer #8 · answered by Starjarus 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You haven't done anything wrong. The right man will appreciate what you have to give. Just enjoy being single for a while, and make sure you have a whole lot more fun than he's having!
2007-05-07 23:54:48 · answer #9 · answered by rollacoasta 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
doesn`t know why, is hard to believe, he has reasons of his act,
but not prepared to tell you,
perheps you can assure him and ask for that,
he might open up and you can find a way out, if
this doesn`t work, give him time, wait till you decide, a week or so
if nothing comes up then forget it and start a new life,
set aside that every-one against you, you know the facts,
so do not take that oppose on your mind,
2007-05-08 00:11:03 · answer #10 · answered by Karsan 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋