About 6 months ago I became involved with a man who's intelligent, kind, understanding, and patient. However, since we've become involved its been one obstacle after another because of our differences. He's older than me, of another race, divorced, and a single father. While, I'm younger than him, in college, and don't have any children. My family has been against us being together for as long as I've known him. However, I can't help but notice that he's made me happier than I think I've ever been with anyone. I mean despite it all we manage to work thru things. Yet, I have pushed him away a million times and given him just as many reasons for why I would never want to be with him. I have always had an idea man and he doesn't fit the description-but he makes me happy and I care about him a lot. My biggest fear is that I will oneday regret being involved with a man who's lived so much when I have saved myself in the hopes of finding someone who'd done the same. What should I do?
2007-05-07 23:13:27 · 11 answers · asked by Mille_D-Gurl08 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like you are really happy with him and really honest with us on your feelings, but there is something holding you back and it is big................that my dear, would be your future.
You see, your family is "against" this because they know you have a future and they do not want you to waste it, they want you to experience life before you settle down, maby they are against this becuase maby someone in your family went through the same thing and they do not want you to go through what they went through, talk to your parents for more information.
And honey, there is no perfect man, it is what is on the inside that counts and the many wonderful things men do for us and to us that makes all us women call them "perfect".
It is their qualities that make them wonderful, inside and out!
Just like there is no perfect woman.
I think you should rethink you situation, and talk to family and friends, and if you want to grow and spread your wings, then I suggest you do so.
There is no law that says that you can't still be friends with him, while you are spreading your wings, you need to experience life, and I think you know that, talk to him and express you feelings.
Communication is so vital in any relationship.
2007-05-07 23:25:01 · answer #1 · answered by carriegreen13 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are playing games. Why else would you push him away million times, and your so called reasons. If he doesn't fit the bill, let him go so he can be with a woman who really appreciates him and will love him as he is. You may need some counseling for your problem.
2007-05-07 23:19:31 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Follow your feelings. Deep down inside you know the answer. You just hate to lose the other part of him that you do like. Sit down and make a list of the pros and cons of this relationship. Then you will be able to make a better decision. Good Luck. I hope all of your dreams come true!!!
2007-05-07 23:22:41 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Gift card for Home Depot. That's a man's mall.
2016-05-18 01:03:23 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you are trying to decide is simple. Do I turn away a good thing in order to run the risk of never finding something that might not exist?
Life is short. 5 years from now, you could be dying of cancer. How will you have wanted to spend the years prior to that is up to you.
2007-05-07 23:22:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Take your time.Concentrate on school. You have plenty of time for the really right one to come along.
2007-05-07 23:21:34 · answer #6 · answered by cookie2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you meet someone and fall in love with them in the strangest places --- if the time is right for both of you then you will know if not --- then your relationship will not endure.......
2007-05-07 23:20:50 · answer #7 · answered by gorglin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Better end now than be sorry.
But if you love him, than I have nothing to say, cos Love is Blind
2007-05-08 00:37:39 · answer #8 · answered by butterfly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just have to wait and see. sometimes really time can tell if you two are really meant to each other.
2007-05-07 23:17:36 · answer #9 · answered by My Dear 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you really love and cared for him go for it.. dont think of other's feeling or ur family.. u love him anyway..
2007-05-07 23:20:55 · answer #10 · answered by chic_girL 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋