Sex help Im 16 (i dont need ppl telling me im too young...)?

Question

Hi so i need some sex advice
Basicly i know that me and my girlfriend are becoming more and more sexual almost everytime i see her and i know it wont be to long befor we have sex i was just wondering what are some signs i should look for coming from her that she wants to have sex like maybe shell keep biting her lower lip or something just as a werid example anyways help if you can


Thanx,
Ben


Here is a picture of us ^^

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See alot of people are like no wait your to young...but if you are turly in love why should you wait?

Friday i drove 14 hours to see her, she is in Everett Washington, and im in San Fransisco Cali.

I drive up to see her twice a month

Im pretty sure im going to be spending the rest of my life with her, 2 days ago i gave her a promise ring ^^

Anyways i just want advice on body language

I DONT WANT ANYBODY TELLING ME IM TO YOUNG!!!

i had to make a new post cause the last one was filled with ppl saying i was to young..

Is there anybody effing here that can help me???

not just keep telling me im toooo youunnngggg

please do not post that im to young im pretty sure i can make that desicion what i cant do is find out body language which alot of you dont seem to be understanding right now

and uh there is the pic sorry

http://img224.imageshack.us/img224/1114/thefirstkissar8.png

http://img224.imageshack.us/my.php?image=thefirstkissar8.png

that link should work i hope

and alot of you are right about the promise ring and hows its only a ring...but its the meaning behind the ring not the price of the ring (which was 300$ lol)

i dont know alot of you have given good advice some of you no...

Answer 1

Ok, I'm not going to tell you that you're too young. All I'll say is that sex is such an intimate and binding experience with your partner, why risk putting the both of your hearts, emotion, and feelings on the line without the concrete desicion of marriage to back up the act of sex. However remote it may seem, anything can happen between now and whenever you two are ready to marry.

If you know she's the one, then the decision to wait will concrete your solidarity for her and confirm to you both the reason for your love. And then you'll have the justification of knowing you both gave yourself to the right person within the safety of the marriage.

If you should possibly break up after having sex, then sex is all you had because no committment was made and you were only acting on emotion. And, the decision to share that intimacy outside a binding committment will not have a positive effect, especially on her.

Answer 2

First off you are not too young. Love is something that comes, and so is sex. It happens because it just does. It all depends on the level of maturity and development that people are at. Never force her into it. You seem to be doing well. I think that you truly care for her. You drive a long way to see her 2 times a month and you still haven't tried to make her give in. You seem to respect her decision to have sex, and by wanting to know what gives off hints that she wants it shows even more how you want her to be ready not when you are ready. Don't go for hints, men tend to read them wrong and every woman is different. I advice you to talk to her. It is as simple as that. By doing it this way you can even plan ahead for something more romantic. Would you rather have a night in the back seat of your car or wait for a night that your parents are out for the night and you can get nice an cozy with each other. Although sex is not necessary in any relationship, it helps create a bond unlike any other activity. But before you even get in, make sure you read in on everything about sex, pregnancy and abortion. It is better to be educated beforehand than during or after something unwanted occurs. Needless to say wear a rubber and always practive safe sex, and be gentle the first time, it may take a few tries if she is a virgin. Other than that have fun man.

Answer 3

I don’t need to tell you that you are too young, cause you are not. In fact, I think today, a lot of people if not the majority, have already an active sexual life at 15.

The problem is not about age, but about how prepared you are mentally. And as per your question, you are not ready for sex just yet. That doesn’t mean you can not have sex, it just means you need to prepare yourself for it.

It is not about body language, or protection, but about responsibility. Still I can give you some advice on each.

First, responsibility. Both of you need to understand what comes with sex besides fun and excitement. You have STDs, and of course, pregnancy, which it can be consider a STD as well if you don’t want to have a baby right now. You should know by now that condoms are the best protection, and the pill is also the best when it comes to pregnancy.

Also consider both your feelings, not just hers or yours, but both of you. Make sure she is ok with it, and make sure you are ok also. At your age, you have no clue what is to be in love. Don’t lie to yourself, you think you are in love, but you are not. You just like her, and maybe you know you would do anything for her. That is a start, but from there, it takes many years of living together, sharing your lives, house, money, problems, fights, good times, bad times, etc, etc. Why do you think there are so many divorces out there every day? Because they though just like you they were “in love”.

So I would advice not to put the “we are in love” as an excuse to have sex. Just don’t.

Now, you wanted to know about body language. Well, that lip thing you asked is very stupid. It could be, but is not what you are looking for. I mean, the real signs a woman can give you that she wants you, are simple: she will get naked and jump over you while ripping your clothes off. But I don’t think that is going to happen with your girlfriend, is it?

For this, I suggest you just let it be, and let the situation lead to whatever direction, and if is the right time, and the right place, then it will happen. There is nothing more frustrating that to plan for sex and then not to have it the way you planned it. But casual non planned sex is very good, and usually brings the couple closer together if they are in love as you claim you two are.

Let me also give you some other advice:

Don’t post pictures of you here, or worse, you and your girlfriend kissing. Just don’t do that. Is not safe. It shows you are not mature at all.

Discuss with your girlfriend the possibility of having sex. Forget a little bit about body language and use the real language. Be honest with her, and she should be honest with you. If she wants to have sex too, she will let you know, trust me. And if not, then you have to accept it because you love her, and wait for the right time when she is ready.
Finally, if you two have sex, then do me a favor, and concentrate on her. Forget about you. You will probably c u m in no time, and that can make her get frustrated. Try to please her, show her how much you love her, and don’t be afraid to ask her anything. Take advantage you both have no experience, and try to help each other exploring your sexuality. It will bring you two closer, and hopefully it will help you both stay safe.

Good luck, and calm down, don’t rush it, let it happen when it has to happen.

Answer 4

Agent 10017,

With all due respect, you are too young.

Sex is really so overrated that it is causing our youth to just get buckwild and just have to do it. It is on our TV, in our movies and elsewhere. Sex is more mental, than physical

I know that you THINK you are ready to do this but think again. Sex would be so much better if it was with your wife.

Just because you gave her a promise ring doesn't make it forever. Take it from a man that spend oodles of his hard earned money on some chicks wanting a promise ring in his own youth.(It was like a promise to buy her that ring, and that was it)

Even though you think you are ready, You are not.
take this advice, ask your parents for some pointers on sex, first. Tell them that you are ready to make the big plunge and you would greatly appreciate there advice. Also ask her parents if it is okay to have sex with their daughter.

I am writing this so that you won't make a mistake that later you will regret.

I hope this letter deters you from making the decision to have sex.

Keith

Answer 5

Ok dude, u sorta asked for the kinda responses u are gettin by the way u say stuff.

But, 16yo ain't too young if u truly love her and all.

But I think there ain't any one way to tell if she wants to have sex or not...chicks are different. U should just go with whatever the moment brings. U will know.

If u are all horny and comin on, she will let u know if she ain't ready. And if she's ready, it will just happen.

Sex can really add a lot of bonding to a relationship...it did massive with me and my gf. We got told all the crap about not being old enough so much it made me wanna puke (we were 14yo first time). But for us it made us closer every time man.

I guess it can go the other way too tho. I'm guessin it just depends on what kinda couple u guys are.

And yeah dude, the link don't work.....

Answer 6

Good God, what do you expect??? Here are some things about your post I wanted to comment on:

1. "Biting lower lip"??? LOL come on!! Who does that??
2. You are not "truly in love", believe me.
3. A "promise ring" means nothing.
4. Your link doesn't work.
5. You are too young.
6. I have to wonder about your parents' commitment to raising a child, if they actually let you drive 14 hours twice a month to see some ho.

Answer 7

O.K. so, your not to young. I joined the Army at 16 and went to 'Nam, they never did find out. I guess that's just as crazy as what your considering but, where are you going to work? you can't use or operate any type of moving equipmentt or machinery until your 18 years old, some States certain equipment at 21 years old.
You won't get any credit for anything, without help from a "signer" and where will you live. No one is going to give you rent at your age. Did either of you finish school? if not what are you going to do for a living, pack groceries? for minimum wages.

See, I didn't say you were to young.

Answer 8

Go for it your both in high school and if you were 18 and she was 14 then that's a problem. Just do it man live life to the fullest she wants you she even told you I say go for it bro good luck

Answer 9

I bet you're 14 have a relationship with your dog (sexually)
and you just want some advice because fluffy ran away to washington
I'm sorry man, but you sound like liar and If I were ya' girl I'd be dumping her in a seconds
since you have time to post a link to a picture of your dog that doesn't work, instead of asking her YOU LOSER

love ya mother

Answer 10

your not too young if you feel ready, you will know when the time is right but you can test the waters,
see how far she will let you go (taking clothes off etc) if there is any hesitation make sure you stop and tell her you don't want to make her uncomfortable and you never know she may be the one taking your clothes off or you could try talking to her about it (if your ready to go that far then you should be able to talk about it)- good luck and remember to play it safe!!