we have all the deodorants,shampoo etc but she will not use them,i hate to think what her friends think when they sit by her.she has a boyfriend but idont think he takes much care either.I just end up nagging.
2007-05-07 22:10:00 · 17 answers · asked by sleepybetty 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It is the job of every teenager ever born to test the limits laid down on them by society.
It is the job of every parent to love them.
You have explained the reasons why, made the tools available, explained the consequences, reminded more than once. Your job is done.
Let her make her own decision in her own time. It's part of the growing process. It's a way to develop her own judgement.
Go for dinner and a movie with your best gal / guy.
2007-05-07 22:27:36 · answer #1 · answered by d4dave 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It might be a form of rebellion on her part. And it might turn out to be a tricky problem. Has this started fairly recently or has it been all her life. If it's recent I would say it is a form of controlling her parent. Or possibly drugs.
You also didn't mention how old she is. If she is early teens I would stop her having a boy friend till she started behaving. If she is older then I would put very strict curfews on her. And if she receives an allowance stop it. If she doesn't have chores to do at home invent some for her, and don't make them easy ones.
If you give her a rule to abide by and she breaks that, then you will have to get tough and keep tough till she is back on track. This could be the hardest thing you will ever have to do. Once you tell her to do something you absolutely must not back down. For if you do you have lost her, your control is gone. If you have already tried these type of things then seek counseling. I'm not a Dr. I'm a mother of two. And I've had other parents and teacher come to me for help. The school psychologist even complemented me for the way I brought up my kids, said I did it right. That might not be all Dr's. opinions though. The main thing is don't give in to them, make them work it your way.
2007-05-08 05:37:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anothername 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) Maybe she would prefer herbal deodorants and shampoos? There are many products available.
2) Don't nag her. One day one of her peers will tell her, or she will see the look on someone's face when they smell her.
3) You could try not washing her clothes, sheets, towels etc. Tell her if she wants to smell like a pig, then she can live like one. I don't mean to be disrespectful, as I know you love your daughter, but sometimes the Short Sharp Shock works.
4) There's no underlying depression is there?
Good luck.
2007-05-08 05:18:56 · answer #3 · answered by Jaza242 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take her swimming regularly...
Seriously it's a difficult one but it's just a case of insisting she has some sort of wash each day as it really is not nice for others. It might be she feels embarrassed in the bathroom. Can it be locked? Is there a window that can be seen through?
How about refusing to wash her clothes as what is the point when she puts them on a dirty body. She might find that too much to bear.
If she still refuses then tell her you will speak to her teacher about it, that might make her do something.
The good thing is that it is probably just a phase and soon she will be hogging the bathroom for hours.
2007-05-08 05:18:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
make sure the stuff is there for her to use, she will do in the end. If you go on at her she is probably not washing etc just to get back at you. If she wants to smell let her, the phase will pass soon enough I'm sure
2007-05-08 13:05:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i nag too, in fact it's one of my ground rules that my teenage lad washes, i just say if he wants clean ironed clothes then they will only be going on a clean body! i run his baths for him, or he wouldn't bother, then you can put in some nice smellies, so even if she doesn't wash with soap, she will smell better! try telling her in a way she'll understand that being a girl especially, she needs to keep clean, or she will stink especially on her period, praise her without patronising if she improves even a little, hopefully for us parents, this is a phase that'll go soon!
2007-05-08 05:21:33 · answer #6 · answered by chakra girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run a bath for her when she comes in, if its already there full and waiting for her she is more likely to have one. Leave some perfume deodorants in there and when she comes out tell her she smell beautiful. she just needs to get into a rountine so just try to help her get into one
2007-05-08 05:17:49 · answer #7 · answered by mudfish 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave her alone she will come around I did .I was like that when I was a teenager I got out of it when I was around 15.You couldn't keep me out of the bath then I wash my hair everyday .Not anymore with the hair I don't have the energy
anymore.
2007-05-08 05:22:53 · answer #8 · answered by Teenie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a case of 'watch and wait' I'm afraid. She'll know soon enough. You've pointed it out, it's up to her now to take note. It'll probably come from someone else to point it out now though.
2007-05-08 05:15:31 · answer #9 · answered by Say It Like You Mean It 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if she don't keep herself clean she will defiantly have body odour and will get infections if she is having sex and not keeping herself clean but you already know this i would not say anything because she will not listen any they never do, i will say i would go to the doctor ,may be her doctor and tell him your concerns now you know he cannot divulge any information about your daughter but with out you telling her he may send for her maybe for a check up and then he would check her out .try it see what happens. silver fox
2007-05-08 05:33:07 · answer #10 · answered by aidanj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋