Was breaking up with my 2 1/2 year boyfriend, who i lived with a good idea?

Question

I just recently broke up with my boyfriend, we both bought a condo together 7 months ago and now we're trying to sell it. I broke it off because i never felt that special to him, and he hardly ever wanted sex (and i am attractive),plus he never even tried to fight for me and our relationship the day i broke it up. Please, anyone i need advice, he was happier than me because i was doing everything i could to make him happy, but i just felt taken for granted. Do you think i made the right decision or do you think im blowing things out of proportion? We are both still in love and things are in limbo now since we haven't sold our place now, just a little advice is all i need, Thank you!

Answer 1

As long as he can have the milk, . . . why buy the cow? You entered into a relationship, that after 2 1/2 years, he didn't know whether to marry you??? Didn't propose? You didn't get a ring and a commitment???? Of course he'll try and keep things as they are. Why would he want a change?!??!? He's got no real commitment to you, sex when he wants (no matter HOW good you look), no reasons to make any changes.

I'm sure you still love one another. But your love is one of a much deeper emotion and psychological basis. His is still only physical. You did yourself wrong by moving-in together without a commitment . . . ring and a date! Sorry. The best move you could make is to move-out. The ONLY other option is to ask him to marry you, with a ring and a date as proof. Then, the selfishness will have to be worked-on. You did a good job of focusing on his needs, but he did a poor job of focusing on your needs. That's YOUR job to teach him what you expect, and not settle for anything less. You're the one with the power! He'll follow your lead.


Dave

Answer 2

First of all,your happiness is the most important issue here! u CANNOT keep anyone happy,if he is not happy within his self than u can't make him happy. Also u were doing everything to make him happy? What was he doing for u to make u happy nothing? Ask yourself if u were getting what u what out of the relationship? If he worth fighting for? And no matter how tired a man is, he is going to want to make love to his woman. Even if he falls asleep in the pu**y, he is going for it. If he does not show the same effort in the relationship than he did'nt want the relationship no way! I always say that men use love in vain and if his words don't coordinate w/his actions then leave him alone. Every woman wants to be happy and secure in her relationtionship w/ her man. Your are going to have some ups and downs but is he worth keeping?

Answer 3

You did the right thing. You were unhappy and couldn't stand it anymore, so that's that. Don't look into the past anymore, think about the here and now and how you can improve your life during this instant.

Give it time.

But, keep in touch w/ him. Things may just spark up again...And the right way, this time.

Sometimes people just need time apart.

Look up statistics on "cohabiting" thru google.
Once you get past the religious crap, you'll find that it's really bad to cohabit if you are not engaged or together for over 3 years. [This is for Americans]

Answer 4

the most probable reason behind him to split and then opt to come back with you is that he has met some different person and it did not exercising consultation. you're merely some thing to fall back to till he meets some different person and back repeats the cycle. He has damaged up with you 3 circumstances and isn't any longer prepared to make a dedication to you. it really is time to pass on. you pick make a sparkling destroy. This probable ability making a clean set of acquaintances and it really is the complicated area. What are your hobbies? indexed right here are some thoughts to satisfy human beings. connect a gym or the YMCA. connect some communities and get entangled in exciting events. check out the nearby park interest centers and different community events. in case you attend a church, check out their singles communities. pass out with some coworkers for a females evening out. i ought to point on-line relationship, in spite of the indisputable fact that it quite is difficult to quite get to understand someone and there are frequently too many expectations. Hasn't worked for me, yet I nevertheless attempt it each and every now and then. good success! Sloop

Answer 5

if you felt that the relationship that you had was one sided then yes you made the right choice. but next time if you want to buy something like condo or a house buy it by yourself. and don't give it up; until there is a proposal, this way if you break up there won't be anything as important and as expensive to get rid of. also it sounds like you had a man that wasn't able to or didn't know how to show affection to a woman. was he like this from the beginning of the relationship and whose idea was it to buy this condo?

Answer 6

sometimes men just miss the obvious!i would do some soul searchin and way out the pros and cons maybe you will than find ur answer.he may have been going thru a tough time and had some issues with other things that he was tryin to sort thru.if u were together that long i think u can resolve ur differences if u BOTH work thru it together lots of luck

Answer 7

Oh, yes, yes, yes. You weren't looking for a roommate, were you? If you care enough to buy a condo together and want to share your lives, you should care enough to marry each other. That is love!
By breaking up, you can at least rethink what you are doing.

Answer 8

did you just over reacted? was he a real bad person....do you think he have another girl or seeing one? if the answer is "no" then try patching things up....2 1/2 years living together is quite a long time to just throw away....sit him down and talk things over...if it works....make up sex will follow

Answer 9

How well did you communicate your needs to him?
Face to face.
Flip a coin.
One talks until finished, the other listens then repeats it all.
Switch.
Now you are communicating and relating.
Try it! Don't break a love match!
They are not easy to find! Communicate!
Every day.

Answer 10

If he doesnt value u sweets...its a good decision on your part to move on with your life.u deserve someone who values u right back...He would also have to realise his part in keeping the relationship alive and safe...
It would hurt for now...but u have to be strong...do fun things..with your friends and family..keep yourself busy...
love will find a way in your life again...
good luck:)