my bf gets defensive so easily and he blows things out of proportion. for example, i ask him "what did you do today" then he shoots back with "are you INSINUATING that i'm CHEATING on you?!" it gets really frustrating b/c i feel like i can't have a normal conversation with him. what gives?
2007-05-07 20:23:03 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He sounds pretty unstable. Ask him, and if he blows up at that....I wouldn't even bother thinking about it. Just break it off if he's being so impossible. It does sound like he has a guilty conscious, but I can't judge that.
2007-05-07 20:28:23 · answer #1 · answered by Cherry 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Regardless if he's cheating he's not the man to spend the rest of your life with. If he can't answer a simple conversational question then leave him! He definetely has a guilty conscience, and i'd say he is cheating. Leave him and move on. My ex did that and he was cheating on me. It hurts, but in time new love will come your way, and the old wounds will be healed. It takes time to get over a love, but it's better than being hurt by their actions all the time! Good luck!
2007-05-08 12:52:54 · answer #2 · answered by trisha l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt say he's cheating on you, but youre obviously having some issues. He's getting defensive, so he's looking things to complain about in the relationship, and seems to be jumping on every little thing. He could be thinking about leaving. The fact he gets so defensive so fast may also mean he's feeling guilty. Just be honest and have a talk with him, the sooner you do it, the better you'll feel. If he is cheating on you, know you can do so much better. He's not worth your time then....
Good luck!
2007-05-08 03:29:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If this is a new attitude for him, then there is a very good chance that something has changed (and usually this something IS cheating). However, if he has always been like this - then there is the possibility that he has some issues from his past...
Does he give the same answer to "How was your day?" (rather than focusing on what he specifically DID, move it towards what specifically HAPPENED).
2007-05-08 04:24:54 · answer #4 · answered by kr_toronto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He most likely is, sorry to say.That is one of the questions
ask in the list of ( Cheating questions ) 1 out of 10 questions
ask and if you can answer 5 out of the questions yes then odds are your man is cheating on you. Anything more then 5 he is definitely cheating on you.
2007-05-08 03:49:28 · answer #5 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if he was the one that brought it up without you actually badgering him about his day, then most likely something is going on. I'm not saying he is cheating, but I am saying something is wrong with him. How long have you guys been together? Do you have any reason to think that he may be cheating?
2007-05-08 03:29:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
time to move on without him. unless you have accused him in the past and blown something out of proportion and he's sensitive to what you ask him.
if you can't ask him a simple question like what did you do today. regardless of who's fault caused this situation, sounds like it's time to move on.
2007-05-08 03:29:27 · answer #7 · answered by tangomikeone 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but it sounds suspicious, If your gut tells you that he is, he probably is. Say to him, "yes, i am saying that I think you are cheating. what do you have to say?" Listen. communicate. Let him know why the things he is saying make you think the way you do. If he is not cheating, he will want to explain it to your satisfaction, and not his.
2007-05-08 04:23:44 · answer #8 · answered by Searching for answers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he is cheating on u. if u just ask a simple question and he is screaming about cheating i think he is. but u should look for other signs not just this one this is just the beginning. good luck in searching.
2007-05-08 03:29:58 · answer #9 · answered by papushyk 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he may be to respond to you in such a manner, however it may differ depending on the way in which you have asked him. I'd say he isn't if he is home a lot and there on time. You should definitely talk to him about it though.
2007-05-08 03:29:45 · answer #10 · answered by Matt Fincham 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋