1. we are both muslims so I have no idea why he's asking me out in the first place.
2. he's a workmate and I feel thats a no no to mix work and personal life
at any rate, I've tried to let him know I'm not interested but he aint taking the hint. I dont want to be rude but maybe i have to be in this situation. any ideas?
2007-05-07 20:22:03 · 9 answers · asked by coolred38 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
How did you "try to let him know?" That sounds like you didn't actually let him know - all you did was give him a hint.
Ladies - men don't take hints! If you say to a guy that the chances of you ever dating him are one in a million, he will think he has a chance. It's as simple as that.
If he asks you out and you don't want to go out with him, then you just say "I appreciate the offer, but I'm not interested in going out with you. Thank you, though." If he asks why, you can, if you want, say that it's because you work together, although I recommend that you just say, "Because I'm not interested in dating you. I'd like to remain work friends. Okay?"
Let me validate this for you: saying no is not rude. Choosing not to date someone is not rude.
Word of advice: anytime you are dealing with us men, you need to speak with clarity. Do not leave openings. I know you want to "be nice" and not make the guy feel like he doesn't merit going out with you, so you want to say no without actually saying no and have him just go away. But that will, oftentimes, lead to the guy pursuing you, thinking that you haven't said no and he just needs to do or say certain things to get you to go out with him. In short, if you want to go, the answer is "yes." If you don't, the answer is "no."
2007-05-08 02:05:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you could be nice and explain the same reasons you gave us. But you don't owe him any reasons either. You are allowed to say "No and it will probably always be a No so please stop asking".
If he's harassing you that's another thing, and you should look at what to do about harassment in your workplace, like policies and chatting to a boss and things. If you get someone else to speak to him - like a boss - that should help sort it out. As most people wouldn't want to lose their job or anything.
Goodluck
2007-05-08 04:34:06 · answer #2 · answered by Compliments 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
tell him next time he asks you out, that you will report him to HR for harassment, as you've told him several times you are not interested.
THAT might be the wake up call he needs. Just make sure you follow through with it if he does ask again.
2007-05-08 13:29:00 · answer #3 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't explain! don't flatter..
those are two mistakes you can make. he'll A-think those are just "random excuses" B-when you flater, he'll think you want him or are hesitating.
just say "i don't like you"..."i don't date people from work"..."no means no".."don't get your hopes up"...or whatever it is you want but keep it short. maximum=2 sentences. seriously. the more you expand, the worse t'will be. keep it simple and to the point.
2007-05-08 05:16:25 · answer #4 · answered by pokerface 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think youll have to be rude to get him to back off, if he cant see the hints then, you gotta be more blunt.
2007-05-08 03:28:40 · answer #5 · answered by Redbull 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
"I don't date people I work with."
2007-05-08 04:42:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Just say....
"I have 2 go with my boyfriend on date"
2007-05-08 06:40:44 · answer #7 · answered by Ash 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You only need one reason. "I don't wanna", If he keeps asking that harassment.
2007-05-08 13:23:19 · answer #8 · answered by NOLA 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him that you're flattered...but not interested.
If he asks why not, tell you don't feel any chemistry with him.
2007-05-08 03:28:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋