I may be pregnant. I am 16 going on 17 and I'm not exactly scared. My boyfriend and I are both very excited.

Question

But we both know that our families are going to flip. We will tell them when we know for sure. Is there a certain way we can reduce the flippage?

I just found out that yes I am pregnant, and yes I am scared, but I am also happy. At my old highschool it isn't the cool thing to be pregnant, and I know this is going to be the hardest years of my life, but the fact of the matter is I have an awesome support system who has been here through everything with me.

Answer 1

Well you can guess right that your families will flip, what you have to do is get a game plan together before you tell them. You have to show your maturity to them because in the long run, you are going to be someones parent. 17 is young to become a mom, and you are going to need not only your boyfriends support but yours and his families also. They are still going to flip at first but they get over it pretty soon. Take that from someone who knows, I was 16 when my son was born. You and your boyfriend are taking a HUGE step in your life and you will need each others and each others parents support. Its a long road but a great journey. ~Good Luck~

Answer 2

You might not be scared now, but give it a little while! I had twins when I was 16 and at first I thought I was ready because I'd always wanted a big family of my own and I loved children. I quickly realized I was in for a huge awakening.

That being said, there is no way you can reduce the flippage. I'm assuming you both are probably living under your parents roof. You also didn't mention the length of time you and your boyfriend have been together or if either of you have jobs to support this new baby or plan on finishing school or going to college......these are some of the things that will run through your parents heads. Who will take care of the baby while you are finishing school or working full time to put food in the baby's mouth? Where will you live? Things like this. Just be prepared for the flippage is all I can say. Good luck to you and your boyfriend.

Answer 3

Baby, there is somethin VERY wrong with you if your exited about that . Because your life hasn't even started yet and you're having a baby. A baby is more than a cute, bundle of joy. It is hard work. You're not going to be so exited when you gain about 80 lbs, more than likely get stretch marks, and go through a lot of emotional and physical stress. But thats just the pregnancy. What about childbirth? And what happens when the baby is waking you up every two hours? And what about raising that baby to be a self-respecting, adult who respects you and others, and makes the right choices in life? Also, while you are doing all of this, your boyfriend will be living his own life, and you'll probably be in court constantly for child support and custody of the child. Honey you should be scared to DEATH coz your life is ruined. Even if you do manage to graduate from high school, you won't be able to go to college and fullfill your dreams, no matter what they are or where.

Answer 4

You're both irresponsible children, and if you want to have a baby, then you're also idiots. Having a baby this young will ruin your life. Were either of you planning on finishing high school and going to college? You'll both be too busy working and taking care of a kid to do that. Were either of you planning on living above the poverty line? Sorry, you'll be living in poverty for the rest of your life because you had a baby at 16.

Your parents should flip out, and with good reason. If you had any brains at all, you would find out if you were really pregnant, and if you are schedule an abortion immediately. Then, go on birth control so you don't have this problem again.

Answer 5

I suggest you find someone who's 20 or so and has a kid or two, and ask to take over and take care of the baby for a few hours or a day. Ask what it's really like, the late nights, the sick baby crying, the never getting to go out and have fun. If you do this, at least you can tell your folks that you know what it's like to take care of a baby for a few hours. Then if you're really pregnant, think about an abortion or adoption. Having a baby ends your own growing up years; you have to work, get your own place and take care of it, make meals for the next twenty years. You rarely get to go out dancing or to socialize or even to shop for yourself or get a haircut It's a lot of very hard work and it will cost all of your money and time. I think you have a romantic notion that will quickly go bad. Also, your bf probably won't stick it out, so you'll be alone. I hope you're not pregnant, but think about adoption or abortion if you are.

Answer 6

Don't worry about how much they will flip out. At your age people tend to live in the now and not in the big picture. They'll be mad, they'll flip, but time will go on. It won't last forever. I didn't tell my parents for the longest time, now looking back I wish I would have told them sooner. Just get it over with, it will be really hard and emotional, but refreshing.

On a side note, you may love your boyfriend very, very much (I know I did) but don't plan on staying together. We all say this from experience. We're not trying to bring you down, it's just how it is. Just look out for you and that baby, and we'll pray that he's a good guy and sticks around.

Answer 7

Not really, i think if the two of you sit them all down, maybe both sets of parents together(by the time they are all sitting down together im sure they will have a fair idea)and tell them together as a couple in a mature calm way, at least this way if they do flip out when they are calming down they might think hmm well they are handling it well, and explain to them that you both understand this is a huge responsibility and maybe look into some changes you are both going to make and tell your parents your plan, this will be alot more reassuring that, just hay mum im pregnant.

Answer 8

Trust me, being pregnant isn't all it's cracked up to be. The "Thing to Do" in my old high school was to be like 14-17 and pregnant. All the attention, and the thought of having a cute little baby to play with all the time. Lol. But then they realized what you will realize soon if you are pregnant: you gain weight, you get stretch marks, you get moody, and on top of that you have to deal with your boyfriend. Of course he seems excited now, he hasn't thought about all the money it's going to cost, and plus you do know that it won't be him staying up all night with the baby. You won't be able to drink (which you're 16 so you shouldn't be drinking anyway, but then again most teens these days do that too), and after you have the baby you won't be able to hang out with your friends or do practically anything without a baby glued to your hip.

Don't get me wrong, babies are a wonderful thing and are meant to be cherished but they are also meant to be created in a responsible environment: two married parents who work and who are moved out on their own, who don't have to worry about what their parents will say because they are old enough to make their own decisions.

Regardless, there really isn't anything you can do to reduce the flippage, cause your parents know the hard truth and they are gonna be scared for you....Good luck, I do hope everything works out for you.

Answer 9

Realizing your lives are now changed forever, start approaching the issue as adults and not timid scared children of your parents.

Let me suggest that the option of adoption be discussed between you all, if you are not both prepared to start taking the roles of an adult mother and adult father.

Otherwise, if you plan to be adults, and raise the possible future baby, . . . learn now that life will be lean, days in-school are over for a while, your b/f needs to be ready to pull-back from full-time school, and start working full-time and school part-time. You too will need to be frugul with what costs will soon be incurred with diapers, and nursing pads, hospital costs, possible complications during the pregnancy, and possibly rental on a place to live.

If you want to behave as adults, then act like adults, and plan like adults, and be adults.

Also remember, neither of you can be so selfish as to only think of yourself any longer. You pull together and work together as a couple. Your circle of friends, parties, etc., must now change.

I do hope you plan ahead for the possibilities that are bound to change your lives, even if this time, you aren't pregnant.


Dave

Answer 10

No, there's not. They're going to be upset at first... but they'll come around. Eventually they'll be excited when it comes closer to them being grandparents... but they'll always give you their love. You should be weary though, your entire lives are about to change drastically... don't be scared... cause it's a blessing when you have a child, but it's going to be hard. Don't listen to that girl that posted first... just because you got pregnant outside of marriage, and young doesn't mean that he's going to leave you... that's a really dumb statement. My parents had their first child at 17... married at 20.. and have been married for 22 years.

I wish the best of luck to the both of you, be strong... and try to make the best life for your child.