What do I do!!!!!!!??????

Question

I'm desperately in love with this girl but she already has a boyfriend. I don't want to interfere with their relationship because i beleive in letting them finish it out but I want her to know how I feel. What should I do?

Answer 1

This is when you have to go with what your heart and gut are telling you. You definitely want to respect their relationship, but I am also a big believer in telling people how you feel, especially if you know you are in love with them.

It makes it really tough on you if you have to carry that weight without any release.

The other thing you might want to consider is your current relationship with this person. If you are really just acquaintances, then you might not be in a good position to tell this girl these feelings.

If you guys are good friends, and talk frequently, then I think you need to tell her.

Just go with whatever feels right, and be confident about it, but just know that it might not work out the way you want it to. Don't lose your positive perspective though, because then you are already counting yourself out.

Answer 2

Just write her a letter. Then you have to leave it up to her. Maybe some day she will give you a call. I hope her boyfriend is not the jealous type, I hope he won't do anything to hurt you if she tells him or shows him the letter. Keep that in mind when you write it.
I feel sorry for you, but you sound young, get out and date some other girls in the meantime. Don't sit around like a bump on the log. She may see you with another girl and think about it . Maybe it will make her want to go out with you. Sometimes things work out that way.
Although I am in no way telling you to pursue her if she is not interested. That is actually against the law. It is called stalking.
You can be arrested for following someone or calling and pestering someone. Just tell her 1 time how you feel then let it go. Good Luck. Go have some fun. thats an order.

Answer 3

It's all in your body language.We can usually read that.When you see her you should just give her a 'half' smile. The kind that says 'I notice you'.And keep her gaze for about 3 seconds. 3 mississippi's. Then just go about your business. Do that everytime you see her. By the 3rd. time she should stop you and make conversation.If she doesn't though,back off. Then she'll wonder why you don't smile at her anymore and she may make conversation to find out why.Her curiousity will get the best of her. Coy is the key,remember that.It'll take some patience but anything worth having usually does. If it doesn't work, it may be she's into the guy she's with.Also,be careful not to cause problems for her w/her bf. You'll come off looking like a trouble maker & that would suck.Good luck & remember 'coy is the key'.

Answer 4

Dear Trev,

The general rule when dating is that unless there is a ring on her finger, she is "available." However, that being said, today's couples are less likely to exchange rings despite the serious nature of their relationship and couples can and often do have "rules" that apply to their relationship, including whether or not they are exclusive or not. The gentleman will ask her whether or not her relationship with the other man is exclusive or if she would appreciate knowing how you feel about her. Asking her in this way will save you the embarrassment when if she tells you that she and he are already a "couple," and are "exclusive." If she tells you this, you simply say, "well thank you for letting me know and I wish the best to both of you!" However, if she tells you for any reason that she's not 100% sure of their "exclusivity," then you are free to say something like, "well, I just wanted you to know that I am crazy about you and if you'd like to go out sometime, I'd love to hang with you - just let me know. . . ." Something like that oughtta do! Good luck!

Answer 5

When she ditch her bf, then you can let her know how you feel.

Otherwise what's the point? All she gotta do is throw you a, "I have a bf, did you forget?" then you are out of the picture and so's any chance you might have with her if she were single.

Meanwhile, hang out with your friends, meet other girls, practice how to be charming and learn how to date (or get better at it). Then when it's your turn you will be ready. Who knows, if you give yourself a chance you might even find someone better and forget about this girl.

Answer 6

Date around...and just wait. Your time will come if it is meant to be. Sometimes the timing is off.

So work on yourself...explore other options and if she gets an opening...ask her out. Remember that there could be a rebound guy...be patient.

If it was meant to be, it will happen. Otherwise, don't miss out on life right now. See others.

Answer 7

Defineltly wait it out put yourself in his position. Don't be a home wrecker lol. You dont want to be put in a position where you're the reason they broke up cause it doesnt make the situation any better for you. Respect the DUDE

Answer 8

well i've been there but as the girl trust me u dont wanna tell her now cuz that's just gonna confuse her and she's gonna feel guilty and everything's gonna go wrong just let her know that u really like her but dont make it seem too serious but also not to trivial ok but just be like yo u know i like u so let me know when u could be mine iight dont be too strong or to emotional cuz she's gonna feel weird everytime she wit him and u come around then she's just gonna start avoiding both of yall so just take my advice u dont need nobody else own

Answer 9

tell her how you feel just not in front her boyfriend tell her i really think your cute and you are a nice and beautiful girl and your boyfriend is very lucky to have a girl like you smile say something nice again or say goodbye and leave probally she'll something back 2 u like we could be friends and thankyou 4 saying that i appreciate it

Answer 10

Wait for her. You just said you "dont' want to interfere" and doing or saying ANYTHING to her at all would be interfering.. Move on or wait.