Whenever I suggest dinner or a movie, it is like he wants to hang out at his house or at a party, to save money. I know it is the twenty-first century and it is not required for a guy to pay, but I am kinda of old fashion and I think it is out of respect. I have made a few dinners and take him out some times.
2007-05-07 15:44:34 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
go to a restaurant... order everything on the menu... watch him squirm... he will get the message.
i might add...its not about the money, its about how much he values you...don't sell yourself short...he has enough money for one nice dinner date.
2007-05-07 15:53:53 · answer #1 · answered by Max 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On my last date the guy paid for most of dinner instead of all of it because, as he put it, he's not cheap, he's just poor.
Paying for dinners and movies isn't something that means a guy respects you. At least not necessarily. It's in how he treats you and how he makes you feel, not in what he's willing/able to pay for. Maybe you can suggest going dutch or you can hang out at your place instead of his. Go to a park, find a free museum day--there are a lot of great dates that are free or at least really cheap if you're willing to be creative! :-) In a lot of areas there are free movies at churches, libraries, or old theaters, or at least some really cheap movies--like a dollar or two--and sometimes the ambiance is way better than at a fancier theater.
Yeah, it's nice to be pampered, but it's nice not to have to worry now or down the line as much about money, and saving is wise. Now, if he's leaching off of you, that's problematic, but you didn't make it sound that way, so that's why my answer is what it is.
Best of luck and enjoy spending time with each other, in whatever way you do it!
2007-05-07 15:55:03 · answer #2 · answered by joy_like_a_fountain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be sure to allude to the problem when you talk to him, and make it clear that it will be much more serious if he does not fix it.
Say something like: "You know, wouldn't it be nice if we went out to the movies or dinner for once? It's not something we do every day. After all, it is worth spending that bit of money once in a while."
2007-05-07 15:52:23 · answer #3 · answered by excelblue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do move on. I have the reverse problem. He always orders the most expensive steak, never goes to the cheap movie, and buys $108 shirts from Saks, when a $30 shirt from JC Penny's would do just fine.
2007-05-07 15:51:44 · answer #4 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not possible. I tried, for 12 years of marriage, and failed miserably.
One strategy that I didn't try because we shared the acct anyway - is to take him out on a dinner and order expensively for yourself and for him as well. Maybe he'll feel the need to reciprocate. If no - then there is no way.
2007-05-07 15:51:14 · answer #5 · answered by Everybody's Favorite 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ha ha even some of us in the UK have that problem,if you find out the answer tell me please I've been with my boyfriend nearly 5 years and if he does get anything for me I'm supposed to show eternal gratitude or I'm termed as being ungrateful which is not the case I just don't like having it shoved in my face every minute.So sorry I can't help you but I can sympathise.Good luck.JO
2007-05-07 15:56:30 · answer #6 · answered by joanne a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jiggle your Jello all day long, get him in the mood and stuff. Then when he's finally ready to pounce on you tell him you want to go out first. He'll naturally say no, so you just get up and leave the room until he comes around.
My old GF used to do that to me and it loosened my purse-strings to no end.
2007-05-07 15:52:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if hes gonna be a cheap a$$ tell him to take u to the dollar movies and for a restaurant to go to boat n net. also if u really like this guy, and he really likes u, I'm sure there's sum way that y'all will figure something out
2007-05-07 15:53:03 · answer #8 · answered by wolfmdogg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys don't really like to spend too much money on their girlfriends because Alot of relationships end and that means they spent alot of money on something and now its gone. Don't force him into it. My boyfriend wants to spend hundreds on me but I don't let him. I want him to save up for something that he wants. Like a car.
2007-05-07 15:51:12 · answer #9 · answered by gottaluvme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You won't be able to change him, he'll probably be this way for the rest of his life. Decide if that is something you want to put up with, if not.. move on.
2007-05-07 15:51:32 · answer #10 · answered by Genie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋