I asked my closest girlfriend to be my maid of honor. She said she'd have an answer soon...it's been like 36 weeks! I understand she has to check with work and lives a couple of hours away...Is this too long to respond? I figure she'd say YES in a second.. What do you think? Ask someone else or wait a little longer...of course I know I probably should ask her again,,,or should I?
2007-05-07 15:29:15 · 10 answers · asked by ♥poppy honey♥ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
OH Sorry it's been 3 WEEKS!!! not 36, sorry typo.
2007-05-07 15:29:58 · update #1
Ask her point blank what her answer is. Why hasn't she gotten back to you yet? Maybe she's broke and can't afford it and doesn't want to say.
2007-05-07 15:34:49 · answer #1 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's been 36 weeks?! That's just crazy talk! yes, ask her again, but bring up your concerns. If she says yes, ask her why did it take her so long. OR i say, ask your second choice. If your friend gets upset you can say, "Um, yeah! You had 36 weeks to figure it out?!" If she's your closest friend, she should of said yes in a heartbeat. There should be no rhyme or reason to it. If you are her closest friend, it is a no brainer. remember, this is YOUR wedding and the Maid of honor has certain duties. If she can't give you an answer about being in your wedding, what makes you think she will plan a bachelorette party? Or bridal shower for you? Go with your next choice. In weddings, you find who your true friends really are. Good luck.
2007-05-07 15:38:01 · answer #2 · answered by bittersweet1435 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your wedding date is still several months away then give her some more time. If It is less than 6 mos. away then give her a few more weeks then tell her it is very important to you that she be your maid of honor (it is indeed an honor), but gently tell her you will understand if she doesnt want to, but if she is going to say no that you will have to think of someone else to ask. She'll understand. Congrats.
2007-05-07 16:19:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well...I had the same problem with a bridesmaid. She would never give me a straight answer, so I just said forget it. (i put it nicer than that, though!). If she really wanted to do it, she would have said yes right away. Just tell her you have a friend that really wants to do it so she can be a bridesmaid instead of maid of honor.
2007-05-07 16:11:14 · answer #4 · answered by bustylaroo99 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her she has one week to decide or else you will pick someone else to be maid of honor.
If she is being a slacker getting back to you about THIS, just how will she be when she finally is a maid of honor and has to do things?
2007-05-08 08:47:22 · answer #5 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i in my opinion do no longer merely like the robe yet thats a stupid reason no longer be MOH. i replaced right into a bridesmaid at my sister's wedding ceremony and did no longer like the robe, I nonetheless think of it replaced into an poor decision. yet on the top of the day, it replaced into her day and he or she spent a while figuring out on them so I wore it. If she refuses to be MOH, it relatively is a extensive privilage, then in step with probability she isn't a stable pal regardless of each little thing. i think of you should communicate along with her and clarify which you like the robe and if she nonetheless does not choose to positioned on it then ask somebody else by fact shes for sure no longer a stable pal.
2016-10-04 13:18:14 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have called her the week after. Make sure she has enough info so she can decide - for example, any duties you want her to do, the costs that will be involved, etc.
2007-05-08 02:45:11 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are going to have to just call her and ask her again.....and if she says no, it has nothing to do with whether she is your friend or not......that's ridiculous that people say that, she may just not want to stand up there...it's not a big deal if she doesn't want to....but you need to get her answer
2007-05-07 16:01:04 · answer #8 · answered by abc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, a true best friend would jump at the chance...unless she hates weddings to begin with, hates dressing up, or simply is jealous that you are getting married.
2007-05-07 15:40:22 · answer #9 · answered by theblackenedphoenix 4 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Check with her soon.
2007-05-10 02:57:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋