how do i move on??????????

Question

I really want to move on from a relationship i was in...I've been told move on, but it's easy to say and very hard for me to do, any suggestions..on how to forgive, forget a loved one

Answer 1

Well ask yourself why do you waist your emotions on someone who doesn't want you?

Answer 2

i totally understand how hard it is to move on when everyone else tells you to. How in the world would they know?! Don't they know how hard it is to do? Well, I do. The only thing I can really tell you is to occupy yourself with things that you love.

I was stuck in this situation for almost 2 years! But what helped me is to surround myself with friends (who aren't a couple if that's possible) and take up hobbies. I took a hip-hop class and joined a beach volleyball league. The hobbies helped because you make new friends and your doing something that you think is fun!

I planned nights out with my friends and it's funny because I met my fiance on a night out with friends and wasn't even planning on meeting anyone! At first I didn't take it seriously (which is what you should do in the next relationship...take it easy...the last thing you need is to get stuck in another relationship and God forbid moving on again) and realized that the relationship went farther than any other, without even trying!

What have you got to lose? Go ahead and look up what kind of hobbies you would like to get into and just do it! You never know who you might meet. Or better yet, you could learn something that you might be so into in the near future you could start a business from it or something! The world is your oyster and the last thing you need is to be pining over someone who has broken your heart.

Oh, it will take time to get over your relationship. don't think it will happen over night. And with time you will find forgiveness. It's so much easier to forgive when you have a life full of fun things....also easier when someone else waiting in the wings. haha! good luck!

Answer 3

If you are done and thru with that person and you just want to forget and move on- then try taking up some new hobbies, something that always interested you but did not have the time- that should take your mind off things. Get involved at work, do some fun stuff with your friends etc. Maybe try volunteering at a local shelter or help out others. If you are still in the relationship and you want to be with that person even if she betrayed you, you need some time to heal. If you feel it's not going to happen, maybe it's time to end it and start fresh.

Answer 4

Breaking up is never fun. The end of a
relationship means the beginning of a
period of mourning and healing for
both people. If the break up was
mutual both people will experience a
period of adjustment where they are
getting used to no longer being
together. If the break up was not
mutual the person who ended things may
be dealing with guilt and feelings
that they may have made a mistake. The
person being broken up with will
definitely have to adjust, first to
being rejected and second to life
without somebody they still care for.
How do you get through those first few
weeks? Here we list eight essential
things everybody must do in the early
days of a break up to let the healing
begin.


1. Avoid the former love. Yes, avoid.
No, this isn’t being immature. Seeing
your former flame can bring out
emotions and may cause you do to or
say something you will regret. In the
first few weeks the best thing you can
do for yourself is not be where you
know they will be.

2. Talk out your feelings with close
friends. Get everything out so that
you won’t hold it inside. Your friends
may get sick of hearing you talk about
the situation but you need to let out
all your feelings and thoughts or they
may come back to bite you later.


3. Cry if you want to. It’s OK to cry
over a loss. Don’t hold back, let the
tears roll just do it in a safe and
private place where it is unlikely to
get back to your ex. You don’t want
your tears to be used as a guilt trip.
Their purpose is to cleanse you of any
pain not make your lover come back.

4. Let go of mementos. Put away or
give away anything and everything that
reminds you of the relationship. Hide
them out of sight so they will be out
of mind until you are able to remember
the relationship without longing for
it to still be going strong.

5. Don’t slip up and get together with
your ex. When you are feeling sad or
missing a relationship it can be very
easy to fall back in to the arms of
your ex but DO NOT DO THIS. This will
only set you back and let’s face it,
if things ended the relationship
wasn’t perfect to begin with so why
would you want to rekindle things?

6. Focus on all the things about your
ex that drove you crazy, turned you
off, or that you just plain found
annoying. Think about these things
often and replay them in your mind
over and over. Dwell on them. It will
make you feel better to remember that
your former flame was not perfect and
that there are things you won’t really
miss.

7. Think about the mean, cruel or rude
things your ex may have done in your
relationship. Really give these things
play in your memory. Remind yourself
that somebody who truly cared for you
would not have done such thoughtless
things and tell yourself (over and
over) that you are better off without
that kind of ego crushing behavior in
your life.

8. Maintain a strict no contact policy
and stick with it. Don’t pass notes
through friends. Don’t make any calls.
Stay away from instant messaging or
texting on your cell. Just don’t
contact your ex until you are totally
and completely sure you no longer want
to be with him or her. It is the only
way.



Mending a broken heart is not easy but
it can be done. Just stick to the game
plan outlined above and before you
know it you’ll be just fine.

Good luck!

Answer 5

You don't forget a loved one ... ever. Don't try to forget. The end of relationship is like a death, and do you know how long it takes the average person to reasonably complete a grieving process? One full year. Don't expect to "move on" according to anyone else's time table but your own. Only if it has gone over a year is there any issue involved here, at all. Give yourself time. Be patient. And allow things to go along easily and slowly. A quick return to dating will only lead to disaster.

Answer 6

agreeing with almost all those answers, it's hard to ever fully let go of someone you loved. it IS easy to say because it's just words. but when it comes to the action, it's pretty hard. Forgive...just forgive them. but forgetting them, it isn't easy because as i said. it's hard to get over someone you truly loved. as for moving on...if you really really want to move on, think of all the negative things that happened in your relationship and slowly, you'll realize it was fun, but waiting and thinking about the relationship when it's over isn't worth it

Answer 7

Gosh, it is a hard thing to do after being crushed. You feel lonely for that person and you have so many memories. You just have to know that you can be happy again. You can meet another person you'll have great times with and have a compatible relationship. You do have to just force yourself to go out, have conversation, go to the gym, meet people. Being active and involved in other things will make the pain diminish much faster than to stay home brooding over something you can do nothing about.

Answer 8

You have to spend time alone and do some soul searching. Get yourself involved more with your friends and hobbies you enjoy. Come to realize you don't need the company of another to be happy. Learn to create your own happiness and it's easier for you to accept the end of crappy relationships. The hardest part is always the timetable of healing.

Answer 9

its hard..im going th rough that right now...you will never completely move on from a situation like that..it is impossible for EVERYONE...just try to fill your time with hobbies and friend / fam time...don't be alone and bored to long all the time...it helps start up the process of healing. but if you really need it...let yourself be alone a couple short periods of time a day..we all need to be alone sometime or other...

are you sure she is completely gone?...if not...try talking to her about it...she may feel the same way

Good Luck my friend
This is a ahrd concept to do
trust me
I know

any advice or questions needed
im here

luv,
~Shannon~

Answer 10

It's not going to be easy ut their right you need to move on. take things slow, one step at a time, be freiends with someone before you start geting into a relationship with. sometimes friends are the best people to get involved with.

Answer 11

Go do things that you used to do before the relationship that made you happy. Was your life okay before you met this person? I bet it was and it will be just as okay after you have moved on.