2007-05-07 15:17:29 · 52 answers · asked by pmtelt 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
it's a wedding! of course!
2007-05-07 15:19:43 · answer #1 · answered by Rainey 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
It depends. Are you wearing a tux because you are a member of the wedding party - your son's best man or a groomsman? Or are you wearing a tux because it's a formal wedding?
If everyone is dressing formally, then, yes, your wife should wear a formal. If you're only in a tux as part of the wedding party and she is not a member of the wedding party, then she should wear whatever nice dress she would normally wear to a wedding. Seeing as how it's her stepson who is getting married, looking nice is a compliment to him and his new wife on your wife's part.
If your wife is on friendly speaking terms with your son's mother, she might ask what your ex will be wearing. That way, your wife can dress to be sure she won't overshadow the Mother of the Groom, just look nice.
Congratulations to your son and his bride!
2007-05-07 15:28:36 · answer #2 · answered by mhact 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Traditionally, no. Only the mother of the bride and the mother of the groom are supposed to be dressed formally outside of the wedding party itself. Your wife should wear a nice dress, but one that she would wear to any other wedding. She can try to match the wedding colors if she likes.
However, ask your son. If you two have been married for quite some time (since he was little), then maybe he thinks of her like another mother (just because she's his stepmom doesn't mean he thinks of her as a mother, that just means you married her. lol) maybe he wants her to dress as the mother of the groom as well. Just make sure that she doesn't outstage his biological mother if he says to go for it!
2007-05-07 15:41:30 · answer #3 · answered by laird6372 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Understated formal attire is what is needed in this situation.
She should wear a formal that is in keeping with your attire, however, it is very important that her dress remain modest and understated. There is such a thing as an understated formal.
This is not a time for the new wife to upstage the old one.
Perhaps it would be a nice gesture to ask your son's mom what she is wearing so that your wife can find a dress that is all together different and understated.
2007-05-07 15:30:14 · answer #4 · answered by SelfnoSelf 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your wife should NOT dress as nicely as the mother of the groom. She should wear a dress, but something along the lines of what the average wedding guest would wear. Wearing a formal dress is an honor that is ONLY to be bestowed on the mother of the bride and mother of the groom. Unless specifically requested by the bride or groom, your wife should gracefully step down. That will be a very classy way to show respect to your son and the woman who bore him.
2007-05-07 15:23:09 · answer #5 · answered by momof2bru 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If the wedding is during the day she should wear a tea length gown if it is after 6:00 then a formal is more appropriate. She should also ask the bride if she wants her to wear a color similar to the wedding colors or not. Some brides have her mother and grandmother wear one color gown and the mom and gma of the groom wear the other color and some want them in neutral or navy colors.
2007-05-07 16:51:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should wait and see what the mother of the groom and mother of the bride are wearing and she should wear something that is as formal as their outfits. She shouldn't try to outshine your son's mother and she shouldn't wear anything that clashes with the colors of the maids dress or what the other moms are wearing. I assume since she's your wife she's going to be in some pictures so she should dress accordingly.
2007-05-07 15:32:00 · answer #7 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From what I understand...and my Mom made me look this stuff up in Amy Vanderbilt's Complete Book of Etiquette when I got married...no woman should wear white except for the bride. No woman should wear black because that is an insult to the bride and her family (as if you're mourning the marriage). The women are supposed to wear long formal dresses if the wedding is in the evening and it is stated on the invitation to be "formal." Otherwise, a knee length "cocktail" dress or a dressy suit would work.
2007-05-07 15:31:35 · answer #8 · answered by K. F 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
No offense. But if you are divorced, who cares. I would tell your son that he should request what your mother wears and discuss it with her.
However, if you two are going to be seen together for the wedding celebration standing beside one another in the ceremony that is a different story. But why try to determine something about someone that is no longer in your relationship. This ideally is between her and your son.
However, I would tell your son that he should voice his wants and needs for his big day to all members of the family to ensure that they all match the event and how he wants the evening to be represented. Remember this day is about him and his new wife so I feel that if it is his wedding he needs to call the shots on how he would like it to be.
2007-05-07 15:23:06 · answer #9 · answered by RandomChaos 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, I don't think so. You are wearing a tux because you are part of the wedding party. Your wife is not. Depending on the time of day dictates what the guests should wear. So if it's early evening or evening, your wife can wear a very dressy dress.Otherwise, just a pretty dress or suit.
2007-05-07 15:24:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I think I would ask my son what he and his bride to be prefered and go that route, it would make things so much more comfortable for them if they have a say in it. As your son's stepmother, I would say wear a formal, just keep it low key as to share in the spotlight, not outshine in it!
2007-05-07 15:44:31 · answer #11 · answered by mrsmommaid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋