I feel very sad and alone...?

Question

I had a relationship that ended nearly a year ago and it was not on my terms. The thing is, I miss him very much and I am still hurting. He on the other hand seems to care less about me. I know this because when I tried to tell him how I felt, he did not respond to me at all. This was my first real relationship and it was serious. I just can't understand how even though he ended things for reasons, he doesn't even miss me. I feel he probably does not even think about me. It just hurts very much. I try so hard to move on, but I just wish he showed some remorse or regret, or sadness. He has heard me cry and cry and he could not even respond to me. I was there for him through so much.I know I don't want to be in a relationship with him....but I miss him terribly...now I know we will never speak again because he does not want to. I forgave him for things most wouldn't.... How do people just move on?

Answer 1

Go purchase the book by Byron Katie called "I Need Your Love....Is That True?" You won't believe what you are doing to yourself and how easy it is to stop!

Answer 2

Relationships are never easy when your in them and they are not easy when you have ended them... If he is not acting like he cares then as harsh as it sounds he probably does not, and yes that is what hurts the most... do you think you would have this much pain at this point in time knowing that you yourself does not want to be with him but he was feeling the way you do at this time (the hurt, the tears)...?? Also, be careful the emotionless *** could be getting off on your pain, do not let him do this... they thrive on it.... The fact that you forgave him for many things most would not shows that your a kind hearted and loving person; should he be worthy of your hurt and pain and the last year that you have been feeling this pain and being consumed by it? Just think, when we are not in the right straight of mind, in this case being "emotionally" dis-stressed", think about all the stuff around us that passes us by? Could you have just passed up somewhere in the last year Mr. Perfect? Things will get better, try harder to not think about all this hurt, think about everything great going on in your life right now.. Surround yourself with family, friends, and activities that you enjoy... show him you do not need him...... I wish you so much luck and happiness.. It will pass!! : )

Answer 3

Darling there is no easy way or a formula to move on that works for everyone. For me getting over my first real relationship was hard, but when I got out there and met some really nice people that wanted to be with me, I began to see that maybe I had been selling myself short. As my girlfriend says '"It's a big man buffet and I'm hungry as hell". The point is there are lots of other guys out there and you'll find one that treats you the way you deserve to be treated. It's scary being without this person, but it gets easier and you'll be fine, just think of what a jerk he's being to you and how he broke your heart and couldn't care less. You'll forget him in no time!!

Answer 4

People DON'T just move on. It's not that simple.

It hurts. It hurts like fell for a while, particularly the first time your heart is broken.

All you can do is try and hang out with your friends as much as possible. It will get better with time, but you can't force yourself to change the way you feel. Much as we'd like them to, emotions don't have an off switch.

You aren't alone though, we've all been there :/ Just hang in there

Answer 5

Time will heal how you are feeling.
But in all things in life there are lessons to be learnt.
If you try and get a guy to stay by crying and using emotional manipulation by saying "look how at how much I've done for you! how could you leave?" , it will push him further away, I've learnt this along time ago.
I'm not saying this to be harsh, but please think if the shoe was on the other foot and a guy did that to you, used tears and made out that you 'owed' him, you'd run fast for the hills.

Answer 6

aw! I feel so sorry for you girl. I think u have to move on. I know its very hard but if u know deep down in ur heart that he won't come back to you...just move on and live a fresh life again. Start dating again. Fresh ur mind. Take him out of ur mind by doing some activities. Not all guys are worth of tears. Be happy again...Good Luck in everything u try to do girl!!!

Answer 7

People just move on. They lose interest. You need to start looking elsewhere and once you get back out there dating it won't hurt as much. Trust me, even if you think your in love it's not worth worrying about it if he isn't interested. I would find a hot date for this weekend!

Answer 8

This has happened to me before. I onces like this girl, but she wasn't interested in me. Just like you and me, the person we liked didn't care for out feeling for them. One time i called her and she hung up on me. It made me very depressed. I got so depressed, i ended up in a mental institute for 3 weeks. I almost died before my hospitalization...:(
It's been several months now since it happened. I've learned that you can't get down on something like that. I may be on prozac now, but it's better than being dead and having your family suffer from it. You MIGHT need to see a doctor on this and get real help than my jabbering LOL. Don't worry, you'll feel better...:)

Answer 9

life is too short to worry about him, its the same when you have a loved one that passes away, you need closure, hes trying to give it to you letting you know its over by moving on, im sure when you find someone new you will stop hurting

Answer 10

People don't just move on. You have to give it time you can't force yourslef to be happy. But try to throw everything of his away and forget about him. Later on you will find someone who will make you happier. And someone who doesn't care about you isn't worth the time. Find someone who will care about you. :)