Can a pretty girl keep a boyfriend without having sex?

Question

Because me and my boyfriend have been together for almost two years, and he is really starting to bother me about having sex with him. He says he NEEDS it badly, which I don't understand because I am a virgin. We are totally in love with each other and he is NOT trying to pressure me, but I do feel kinda bad, I mean its been almost two years. He said if I gave him a bl*wjob I would still be a virgin. I am not really sure about that, I don't know what to do, I am afraid he will break up with me :(


Other Info:
*I'm 21, he is 22
*I was planning on saving myself until marriage
*He also said its not fair because I dress to sexy and I act sexual ?? (He's just being weird)
*He said its getting boring, just making out all the time :( He also keeps trying to get into my pant, literally.


Thanks for your help :)

I really want to have sex with him too, but I also wanted to wait until I got married.

Answer 1

There's some good advice here. Just one more thing to add to the mix: whatever you do, don't get married just to finally have sex.
The definition of virgin is really up to you. In my opinion, even though some girl's health teacher claims giving a bj will somehow take away your virginity (it wont...unless you're going by some religious definition of virginity), quite honestly it may be something to consider. Sex is a big part of a relationship and while it isn't everything, it provides a level of intimacy that has a binding effect.
Your desire to stay a virgin will likely help you make the right decision when it comes to choosing who you want to marry. For right now make sure you're honest with yourself, have fun, and don't give in to outside pressures regardless of where they're coming from.
In the meantime I wish you good luck, and good luvin'

Answer 2

As much as I hate to say it, at age 22, he will probably break up with you sooner or later. That doesn't mean you should give in--- if you really want to be a virgin till you are married, then you need to find a man who accepts that. And it does not sound like your boyfriend can live with that. By the way, that doesn't make him a bad person; he just has a different sex drive than you. But sex is a very big, very important part of any relationship--- you must have compatible sex drives or the relationship will be strained.

So you must decide which is more important to you: being with him, or being a virgin. And he must decide if having sex is more important to him than being with you. If your priorities don't match up, it's time to move on.

PS if you DO decide to stay together, and you're going to stay a virgin, you may want to knock off the making out or at least tone it down a bit because I am sure it is not making things easier for your boyfriend to be able to kiss and touch you but never get satisfied.

Answer 3

Well lets see....Since you two have been together for two years I can imagine why he is getting antsy haha. If you really want to save yourself for marriage do that...if he truly loves and respects you he would wait....Although I have a hard time seeing why people want to save themselves till marriage because sex is a good portion of a marriage....What if you get married and you are not at all sexually compatible? If you do dress sexy then shame on you! jk ...You have to expect that a guy, especially your boyfriend, will be going crazy after being with you for two years the whole time you dress hot and tease. Not sure on what else to say hopefully there is something useful in here. Good luck : )

Answer 4

If he loves you, he should respect your decision and wait until you are married. You say he isnt trying to pressure you, but hes literally trying to get in your pants. I would hope he would understand your decision to wait and not go for the pants everytime.

I do have to say, alot of guys wouldnt wait 2 years so the love must be there. Im sure he loves you to pieces and will be there no matter what you decide. Follow your gut, and dont do anything you may regret at a later time. Im sure everything will work out great for you =)

Good luck!

Answer 5

Well if he held on for nearly two years I don't see why all of a sudden he "needs" it..

Even if you weren't saving yourself until marriage, he still is trying to make you do something you aren't willing to do.

You will be a virgin if you give him a *******, but to be honest, why would you? You're being told to give him one, and what benefit does it have for you? He'll stop complaining...until he wants more.

And dressing sexy doesn't mean anything! You're not a eunuch, you're interested in having sex, but later, inside a marriage. He shouldn't use clothing as an excuse for sex.

If he can't take no for an answer, you should re-evaluate your relationship. I think he's taking your love for granted.

Answer 6

I think the guy your with needs to respect you, and your decision to wait till your married, I think what your doing is great and you should stick to your guns, from what your saying about your bf is he just wants sex, if he is going to break it off because of this he is not worth it, look at it this way you could give in and he could still break up with you anytime, marriage is more of a commitment so is waiting..
Good luck

Answer 7

if he is making you guility, that is pretty much considered pressuring.
Don't give in, if you give him a bj, you won't be a virgin, my health teacher told me this, how do you think lesbians have sex?
Don't give in, its a good thing to save yourself from marriage, and you should be proud of yourself.
The thing that scares me, you dress to sexy? I doubt it, I mean you can be sexy, but no ones too sexy. It's not your fault you havea great body and know how to show it.

Either tell him to fight the urge, or kick him to the curb, no guy is worth loosing your virginity to if he's pressuring you, and or blaming you. Plus, he's not respecting what you really want!

Answer 8

oral sex DOES mean youll still be a virgin, so your boyfriends right on that point.
but if your planning on saving yourself until marriage, then thats very applaudable and no guy is worth it to you if he cant respect that, and if your boyfriend knows your waiting - then he should understand.
in true love, no guy or girl NEEDS sex. you can have a very fulfilling relationship without it.
and dont give it up to him just becuase you feel bad. you have to do whats best for you! and if he really loves you he wont want to break up with you just becuase your not ready.
good luck hun!!

Answer 9

Oh for christ's sake, in this day and age who the hell saves it for marriage???, sex is a beatifull expression of love and if you two truley love eachother there is no reason why you should be waiting, I mean you have been together for 2 years!!!! And guys do have needs, if he has been sticking arround for two years he is pretty damn paitient (I dont think i could last that long) but he has need and if you cant put out and marriage isnt in sight he may not stick arround.

Answer 10

I think its really cool and responisble for you to save it untill marrige(its safer). Look. i'm only telling you this cuz its the truth and I'm a guy.It sounds like he just wants sex and thats it. Hes waiting it out patiently, until you break. (he knows your gonna break). I knw you love him and all, and you want some too. But trust me. Its gonna feel a lot better once your married