one of my best friends who is almost 13 has a drinking problem...about 6 or more bottles a week, most was 17...should me and my other friend go to the school counsilor so we can get her help even though she will hate us for a long time?
2007-05-07 14:35:02 · 7 answers · asked by Ashley 1 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Other - Diseases
Oh boy...this is really sad. Is she having problems at home? If not, I would say something to her mother/father and give them a chance to take care of their child. If your friend does not have a good home life, I would voice your concern to your friend and let her know how important it is for you to help her get better. If she rejects your help, then I would turn to another adult (school counselor, teacher, etc.) that you can trust, to help her out. I wouldn't do any of this behind your friend's back as this isn't about her getting mad at you or how your friend may treat you, it's about getting your friend help...but I think it's important to give your friend a chance to help herself because she's the one that needs to WANT help and find other ways to deal with difficulties that come with life and she has to WANT to stop drinking.
I wish you luck.
2007-05-07 15:03:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this person is truly your best friend, then your concerns for her welfare should outweigh all other concerns. Even if she discovers who told, and ends your friendship in anger, you need to do what is right. There is no reason the councelor should have to tell her who gave the information, and you can request her to keep the information confidential as well. Perhaps you should consider how badly you would feel if you said nothing and your friend suffered or died as a result of her drinking. You would feel incredibly guilty for having done nothing to try to help. Your friend may not thank you if she finds out you told, she may not thank you for years to come. But you will have the satisfaction of knowing that you gave her a chance to save herself. From that point, it becomes her responsibilty. Love doesn't mean you accept and permit destructive behaviors, it sometimes means you do the tough thing. In this case, if you care, tell.
2007-05-07 21:45:07 · answer #2 · answered by The mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes... You are a true friend. Most alcoholics and drug addicts who have the hardest time quitting are ones that start when they are 13-15 yrs old. My best friend is a drug addict. He started drinking at a very young age. His family and him are really suffering now because of his disease. If you value your friends life, you will get her/him help now. Maybe you can do it anonymously. Talk to your school counselor about how to go about it. They will guide you in the right direction :) Good luck and remember that no matter how hard it is, seeing them laying in a coffin will be much harder!
2007-05-07 21:44:40 · answer #3 · answered by jms62394 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
heck I would rather be rejected as a friend,than to have a boozer hanging around and making a complete fool of herself and embarrassing the hell out of her friends.just imagine what it would be like to be on a bus or in a car going to the mall with this girl and having her puke all over everyone!look,do everyone a favor and tell the school counselor about this who knows she may be sent to a place to dry out you will be helping her in a way and her parents will thank you for saving their daughters life.
2007-05-07 22:02:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Help your friend. He might be mad for a time, but you might be saving his life and helpping him deal with whatever is bothering him.
My son died at age 21 and started drinking around the same age. I wish his friends and cousins would of gone to the school or me and we could of gotten him help before things got too bad.
2007-05-07 21:40:30 · answer #5 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she may get mad at you now but she will love you in the long run for saving her life. she's young enough now to take care of this. your a great friend for getting her some help. good luck sweet pea!
2007-05-07 21:41:18 · answer #6 · answered by That Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
help your friend. could you live with yourself if he did and you did nothing? better to do something and get it over with. Why not send an anonymous letter to counselor or parents?
2007-05-07 21:42:32 · answer #7 · answered by AMANDA d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋