ok so my dad had his b-day a week ago, but he wasnt here to celibrate it with me and my sister, so he gets back and i made him a cake and everything. but then today he decides to treat himself to a happy b-day dinner without even consolting with the rest of the family. so as he's getting ready to leave i decide not to go cause its stupid. then he calls me and says "im selfish and i dont deserve him..my mom says i should not let him treat me like that, but i love him and he always stands up for me..what should i do?
2007-05-07 14:31:04 · 5 answers · asked by Blondey 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Do you mean that he wanted to go out to dinner and take you and your sister along? That would have been alright, since you only baked a cake, you could have had that when you got home for dessert. I am thinking maybe he thought he was doing something nice for the two of you while celebrating his birthday too.
I would apologize and let him know you acted that way because you spent all that time baking the cake and thought dinner would ruin, but you know better now!
2007-05-07 14:39:47 · answer #1 · answered by mrsmommaid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Brit, your dad's day is a special day for him. It is a day where he wants to have this special meal! Age becomes more an an issue for people after becoming 30, so it is best for you to understand that getting older means that we have to face not being on this earth. Allow your dad this special time to do something that has him feeling better about himself. He only said that you were selfish, because you mentioned to him that you were not going. And, it might be a little selfish, but is only because you don't understand his thoughts and feelings about aging. Just let him know that you feel special to spend his special day with him. First, apologize for appearing selfish and that you should have thought more about him on his 'special' day. Unfortunately, parents don't always see the small things. You can nudge your father by asking him, 'do you like the cake that I made for you?" This will serve as a reminder of the those times when parents overlook the small, but special things in life.
2007-05-07 14:47:54 · answer #2 · answered by Dotch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your dad should not have called you selfish and he should not have said that you don't deserve him. I would tell him that he hurt your feelings by saying that. Everyone makes mistakes, give him a chance to correct it.
2007-05-07 15:00:16 · answer #3 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let your father to celebrate as he wants;ignore his words;a father sometimes says something wrong;i know is not correct,but accept his wishes.
This year you have your father, next year who knows....
2007-05-07 14:41:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him celebrate the way he wants to.
2007-05-07 14:44:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋