a friend and i just decided that we are going to report a friend of ours to the councelor's office tomorrow..he of ours has been talking about suicide, and he has started cutting himself...he's getting SO much worse than he was...so tomorrow i will lose my best friend...adn the other person involved...becuase she is as bad off as he is...they are going to hate us...but we can't hide it anymore...it's not safe...i am SO torn up about this..i've been crying all day...either way, i'm going to lose him...but at least this way i'll know he's safe....
2007-05-07 14:00:14 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
tough love...
that's exactly what it is...
you are such a good friend!!!
he may not see it now, but he will know when he matures...
i wish more young people had your maturity, showed that kind of love, and weren't so dominated by peer pressure...
hang on to your honesty, and continue to be true to yourself...
you sound like an awesome friend, and anyone would be blessed to be called as such, by you...
Proverbs 27:6 it says that "Wounds from a friend can be trusted, but an enemy multiplies kisses."
It means, that REAL FRIENDS are willing to hurt your feelings, to tell the truth - or protect you from a bad decision...
but only AN ENEMY would encourage destructive behavior.
Be strong and courageous. Tomorrow will go well for you, though it will be tough initially.
Here's a virtual pat on the back for you!
2007-05-07 14:11:40 · answer #1 · answered by Amaris in Wonderland 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey. I kinda know what you're going through...but from the other side. When I was eleven I tried to hang myself. Actually, I did hang myself, but lived to tell the tale thanks to some friends that found me in time. You see, it was my friends that saved my life. I didn't really want to die. I wanted a way to end all of the crap that was pulling me down and the only thing I could think of was just to end it all. After the emergency room visit I was placed in a mental ward for a month and received lots of therapy. I have been up and down ever since and still lose it a little bit every once in a while but, I am still here. I am now married and have a beautiful daughter. I have a great life and think your friend deserves one too. Good luck with it all and definitely get him some help. There are other ways to deal.
2007-05-07 21:14:46 · answer #2 · answered by wentomp 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The school counsellors should protect your privacy, but your friends may guess that it's you. Yes, they will be mad at first; but hopefully they will get the help they need, and in time may recognize that your decision was truly an act of love.
That's the way it is with love, sometimes doing what is best for the people you care about will make them angry or drive them away from you. But you know that while it may hurt, you will sleep better with the knowledge that you didn't stand by and watch them slide down the path of self-destruction.
Kudos to you for being mature and caring enough to do what you can for them. Good Luck to you and your friends!
2007-05-07 21:02:53 · answer #3 · answered by HearKat 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You might loose them as friends but you could have saved their lives. If you love them and care for the then you have to let them go. They are sick and they need help. One day they will relize that you did this for a reason. Most likely they will be mad at first they will feel betrayed by you.......but you didn't you made the right decision. Doing the right thing is not always fun. It doesn't always feel like its right. Its awsome that you care so much about them and want them to be safe.
2007-05-07 21:09:13 · answer #4 · answered by starynight39 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You did somehting a great friend would do and probably saved his life. when they're all better thry'll apprisiate it and realize how great of a friend u are. Im a bad situation would you like to spend the rest of your life thinking maybe if I had of told he would be here now. Dont question yourself you did right and are a great friend and will be realised.
2007-05-07 21:05:43 · answer #5 · answered by Nikki C 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are definitely doing the right thing! I have been close to someone in a very similar situation, and we didn't report it soon enough. She almost died. Things like this are bigger than we are, and things like this are beyond our control and understanding. Deep down, your friend knows he needs help, and hopefully one day he will realize what true friends you were for caring so much about him.
2007-05-07 21:04:45 · answer #6 · answered by betty 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You most definitely are doing the right thing. I know it must be really tough, but like you said--he will be safe now. It's always difficult to intervene in a situation like this. Good luck!!
2007-05-07 21:03:33 · answer #7 · answered by Jen due December 09 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You may have helped saved their lifes. You are 100 percent doing the right thing. They may be mad at you at first, but if they accept the help and get better, you will be the first they thank. They just don't see it right now.
2007-05-07 21:16:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should tell bc you want to help him and you want the best for him. Yeah he may get mad at you but who knows maybe he'll end up thanking you in the long run. You do what you think is right
2007-05-07 21:10:33 · answer #9 · answered by Selah 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, your friend needs to get help, and you are trying to do the right thing by him. A nudge in the righth direction can only help. Good luck!
2007-05-07 21:04:02 · answer #10 · answered by Lineya 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋