okay. well am i not respect myslef / am i too easy / a **** if im allowing and wanting to have sex even when my boyfriends dad is home? because my parents saw a hickey i had on my chest and my mom said that i had no respect formyself and it made me feel really bad.. was she right ?
2007-05-07 13:28:34 · 45 answers · asked by ♥ Lyss 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Not necessarily. Everyone needs some pleasures during their life. As long as you are having fun for yourself and no one else I think your fine. :)
2007-05-07 13:34:11 · answer #1 · answered by Erica 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You may want to tone it down a bit with the sex and wait until you are alone. You will stop giving each others hickeys when you grow up which by the way when you should start having sex.
If you do not respect yourself then can you expect others to? Do not be upset with your Mother, she is just looking out for your best interest.
2007-05-07 13:40:33 · answer #2 · answered by Big K 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Everyone has a different line of ethics that they follow, and yours seem to be different from your mom. So you think its ok to have sex at your bfs house or show off a hickey, when she thinks its not. It's ok if you don't care what other people think about you. But in terms of respecting yourself, you may want to be discreet about what you do, because then your reputation might be affected. It all depends. Ask yourself...am i disrespecting myself? but honestly, i dont think you are. Now, if you were going out with provocative clothes and being very promiscuous, then yes i would say you were disrespecting yourself.
2007-05-07 13:37:14 · answer #3 · answered by empyreal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No she is wrong she is probably mad cuz she knows ur sexually active and thats really a weird thing for a parent too find out about their kid and there is nothing wrong with wanting too have sex while ur bf's parents are home. If u really didn't respect urself u would be out there sleeping with any guy that showed some kinda off interest.
2007-05-07 13:36:31 · answer #4 · answered by D.C. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, there is a time and place for everything and when your boyfriends dad is home is definitely not the time or the place .
well, your mother is right to a point.
you could have had a sweater on and that would not give her the opportunity to see it.
well, you did not mention how old you were but you are not a bad person and you should not feel real bad but you just need to make wiser decisions in the future.
good luck
2007-05-07 13:41:24 · answer #5 · answered by maureen s 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, it sounds like you're looking for affection and love and acceptance... Very often, when a woman is feeling down on herself, doesn't love herself as much as she should, we reach out to physical affection in this way. It's easy to get. Unfortunately, it won't get you the love that you want, because guys can very easily disconnect feelings from that act.
Your mom is right in a way... you do need to respect yourself more. You're special and unique, and you're worth a LOT - work on loving yourself more, and don't just give the gift of you to just anyone... because you ARE a gift.
Try to find the love you're looking for within yourself.
2007-05-07 13:38:02 · answer #6 · answered by *huge sigh* 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you have respect for yourself? You're the only one who really knows that.
Wanting to have sex is normal. Getting hickeys is normal. If you feel you're being too "easy," then tone it down a bit. If you're more "liberal" sexually than other women, then you will be labeled as all kinds of colorful things.
When people say these things to you, don't take it to heart. If you believe it, then it's a hard thing to fix.
From what you are telling me, I don't think you're a loose woman.
Best of luck to you!
2007-05-07 13:34:35 · answer #7 · answered by a gal and her dog 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Girll no!! u just being human. I personally dont have a set boyfriend but I do have friends & they all know that they are not the only 1. If they are good then i give them some nukie but if they start trippin & gettin jealous then i give them the nukie then tell them this friendship is not workin out. Now i think that would be worst in ur moms eyes dont u?
2007-05-07 13:37:50 · answer #8 · answered by mswatts_51402 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont you feel you DESERVE to be better? Despite what some may say, women (and men) should have respect for themselves. There is nothing worse than when everyone knows you are easy, they lose all sense of respect for you. Sure guys may want to **** you, but they wont consider you as a long term gf. The fact you felt bad means you have some sense of feeling that you are better than that.
2007-05-07 13:36:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your being a bit hard on yourself. I dont know about not having respect for yourself, i guess its totally possible looking at your picture seems to suggest you may not. Or i could be totally wrong and you just happen to be an outgoing person who isnt afraid to do whatever.
Dont know enough about the situation to make a solid judgement
2007-05-07 13:38:23 · answer #10 · answered by ChAtMaN 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She had no respect for yourself, more like.
(My mom told me I had no self-respect because I wore torn jeans, punk style, as a teenager).
However, make sure your lust (mix those letters up and what do they spell?) doesn't become more than your undoing ...
You're having it off with one friend, so your not an easy thing runnin' all over town, yes? And you have a desire for comfort, and the dad's not tormented in hearing/going to do the wherewolf thing is he? So, take it easy.
More power to ya.
Master Anarchy.
2007-05-07 13:39:16 · answer #11 · answered by Master Anarchy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋