Hi! I was wondering why people think age is so important when you are dating someone?

Question

I am 15 years old and I am attracted to guys between18-21 years old. I know the law about minors and stuff. But why cant girls my age date older?

Answer 1

Hey,I know whatcha mean.I was engaged at 18 to a 32 and now at 19 to a 26.The first was really a giant mistake.All he did was take extreme advantage of me and took my virginity.I paid for everything and all he wanted was sex and money.But older isn`t all bad,like my fiance` is the best in the whole world.Just wait a little (at least 18),and be very,very careful.Feel him out first and don`t give up anything till awhile. Keep your heart and body in check for awhile till you figure out motive,ok baby girl,wish you all the luck in your life and decission

Answer 2

Yes, age is important, but some people take it too the extremes. There is a stereotype that a younger person can act immature and an older person may be too uptight. Age is immportant as far as psych issues, that's something to look into. Younger people can be aided by the oloder people and encourage drinking, smoking, and early sexual activities. there's a lot of stuff to look into when there's an age gap of three-five+ years. You don't have an issue dating an eighteen year old as long as you keep those laws in mind, you wouldn't want your lover to wind up in jail, would you? Stay away from sexual activity, don't drink with them, and do not posses illegal smokes and you can be okay. It sounds really dumb and parent-ish, but it can work. I've been in relationships with older guys, I was 15 he was nearly 18 and I was 17 dating a 21 yr old, I was cautious and careful- it works. be careful and good luck

Answer 3

the reason you don't know this is because you haven't matured to an adult level yet....and this is why at your age it is not a good idea for u to date someone of that age....and i don't really mean that someone shouldn't date someone who is really older or younger than someone else i just mean that if one person is a lot more "grown up" or more mature than the other that things wont work out because you will be into very different things as the years go on......lets say (since u didn't give us an age) that he is 21......he's gonna want to drink & do a little partying ,after all he is new to the drinking age.....where do u come in to all that? your not old enough to drink,so your left at home while he's out with his friends...how long would that last before u get tierd of it? ok now lets assume he's 18....he should be going to college soon,how long do u think he is going to want to hang out with the younger crew(you) instead of the hot college girls he will be around everday....u have to think about things like that and then decide if you want to continue a relationship with this person.....not to mention the ever popular "he could go to jail for rape!).....regardless i wish u all the luck!

Answer 4

For the same reason that, at your age, you can't vote. It is assumed that a person isn't mature enough to make certain heavy decisions until he/she reaches a certain age (for some countries, it's 15, for others 18, and for others 21). You cannot date older men because, due to your age, there is a higher possibility that you will get duped and get into trouble. There are some things that can only be learned through experience and sadly, if you're too young, no matter how smart you are, you still lack experience (as well as emotional maturity).

It is just the law's way of protecting you.

Answer 5

Chica that is NOT that much older. BUT when you are 15 you are NOT legal that's why its a big deal right now. When your 17 who cares how old you date as long as they guy isn't 16 or younger. Haven't you heard of STATUTORY RAPE kid? WTH would a 18 to 21 year old have in common with a 15 year old anyways? Besides at your age older guys know they can manipulate your mind anyways because you are young and naive. They will probably only use you for sex.

Answer 6

There are quite a few good answers to your question. Even though you think you are grown up at 15, but in maturity mentally you are not. You also have to ask yourself," How come a guy 21 years old isn't dating someone his own age?"

You are only young once, this time is so short, enjoy being a teenager. This is the best time of your life.

Answer 7

I don't believe there is any law that says you can't date someone older - in most cases people are worried that an older guy will take advantage of you or try something illegal. You might try figuring out why you are attracted to older guys. Maybe talk to a counselor or someone who is not in your immediate family. If you are picking older guys because you think it is cool, you are wrong. If younger guys are too immature for you just be careful and be honest with yourself.

Answer 8

FYI, it's not necessarily illegal. In my state the law is 6 years older until 21. For example, a twenty-year-old can date a 14 yr/old and so forth. Not that I encourage that sort of thing, but a friend of mine is disturbingly well-informed about these laws.

Answer 9

I was 14 when I started dating my now husband who was 17 at the time. We married when I was 21 and have been married for 8 yrs. now and have 2 handsome little boys together. I don't think it is such a big age difference, it's not like your attracted to guys who are in their 50's or something.

Answer 10

because you are ASKING what could possibly be wrong with a 15 year old dating 18-21 year old guys.
because you're "attracted" to them. what does that mean, "attracted" to them?
scary...
you are a young lady still, when you become a woman and lady, you'll know why 15 year old young ladies shouldn't date 18-21 year old guys. notice i'm saying "guy" not "man". take a hint.
whoa guys, if it doesn't apply, let it fly. you know most 18-21 year olds aren't men yet. some are, but it's not the norm.