She's the first girl I've liked, I thought I was straight before her. It's weird because I've barely talked to her..ever. I found out she has a boyfriend and it hurts..I feel like crying, love sucks..
2007-05-07 10:44:57 · 11 answers · asked by ButterflyAngel 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, that really sucks! I've been in that situation before (twice) and it is certainly no less painful than if the object of your affection were male. The way I see it, here are your options:
1. Befriend her; at least you'll be able to spend time together, even though it's not exactly what you want. This would be the best solution if you find she does care about you.
2. Forget about her; dwelling on a lost cause is NOT going to do you any good (trust me). If she doesn't seem to care that much about you, you are only going to get your heart broken. You need to be available for other people, which you can't be if you're hung up on her (I should speak for myself!) Obviously, you can't just forget about her all together. But try to talk to and get to know other people so you don't feel as crushed; knowing other people will help you take the blow better.
3. Declare your feelings. I strongly do NOT suggest this (take it from my experience). In some rare cases, it might work...but only if you think every sign points to her feeling the same. Having a boyfriend does not guarantee that one is straight! BUT it doesn't mean that she's into you either...
I think those are the only 3 things you can really do. Having been in this situation (2 different variations of it anyway), I suggest that you either be friends (if you already are) or just try to avoid her as much as possible (don't force yourself, but don't go out of your way to be with her anymore, it's just going to upset you and mess up your life...trust me).
I hope that whatever you choose, it works out. It sucks to feel like you care about someone more than they care about you...but chalk it up to life. I'm sure she's been on the other side of the issue when it's come to someone she liked. We've all been there, so you're not alone. :]
2007-05-07 11:01:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Feelings Suck, Love is Beautiful
2007-05-07 10:49:51 · answer #2 · answered by peliglad 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can feel bad, or you can go out and try to meet more people to find love and acceptance.
2007-05-07 10:48:50 · answer #3 · answered by Your Uncle Dodge! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try this, if she doesnt know that you are bi now, then take the bestfriend aproche, hang out with her alot as if you two were the best of friends, then you will both find out if what you feel is stronger than that..
good luck!
2007-05-07 10:56:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yea finding out the truth hurts but can sumtimes be for the best, would u rather it drag out over months. youll live
2007-05-07 10:47:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hun you prolly jus lik her really strongly as a friend and feel like you have to be with this girl. but its not like that if you have always been straight you prolly still r so jus be friends with her ok and youll get closer to her that way
2007-05-07 10:49:18 · answer #6 · answered by natrual flirt 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
@ least u know the truth up front..maybe you should network a lil..go out & make new friends in your "gay" community..a lil distraction never hurt anyone..good luck..
2007-05-07 10:55:18 · answer #7 · answered by resolucion 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately love does suck
2007-05-07 10:47:28 · answer #8 · answered by geminig 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a boyfriend.
2007-05-07 10:48:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Move on and find someone else
2007-05-07 10:47:52 · answer #10 · answered by kitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋