Adultry and fornication as a sin in the bible...?

Question

Adultry is sex with someone who is not your spouse, right? But then
"But I say unto you that who so ever looks upon a women with lust in his heart has commited adultry already". Seems a bit extreme...
And, I mean, how is fornication completely wrong? We would have died out. But, if its just sex with someone you're not married to...well, back when the bible was written, there wasn't actual MARRIAGE it was "I will give you 3 camel for your daughter" So, is marriage in the eyes of God, just being in love? When God sees two people as one, then are they married in his eyes?
I mean, I am a christain, yet I think if you are completely in love, and know the other person is the only person you have ever/will ever have sex with, then its alright. I think God recognizes that...I mean...when you're in love, its kind of like your hearts and souls are married, right?

I just want other Christains opinions on what fornication is in the bible, and such.

Answer 1

that means all christians are guilty of this.

and

they are all going to hell.

Answer 2

What you believe is completely irrelevant. Adultery and Fornication are sins.
Adultery: voluntary sexual relations between a married person and somebody other than his or her spouse

Fornication: sexual intercourse between two consenting adults, who are not married to each other

"But I say unto you that who so ever looks upon a women with lust in his heart has committed adultery already". Seems a bit extreme..." it may be to you but to anyone that has moral values it isn't

marriage during Biblical Times was a religious ceremonial event and remains so today for most people. However, there are some reprobates that opt of marriage at the Elvis Chapel in Las Vegas.

Answer 3

The Greek word porneia (from which we translate the word 'fornication') indicates any type of service that you could have solicited from a harlot in those days. That was basically any sexual act involving the genitals of @ least one of the parties.

Fornication is therefore any type of genital stimulation/manipulation between two people who aren't married.

Marriage would count as any union that is recognized throughout the land where the couple stays. In the United States, that requires obtaining a marriage license, but not necessarily going through the ceremony. In other places there might be some simplistic practices involved, but it is valid as long as everyone around would easily be identify the couple as wed.

Answer 4

No. Adultery is not sex with someone who is not your spouse. Adultery is sex with anyone else when you are married.

If one is not married then one is not committing adultery. No matter whom one is having sex with.

Fornication is sex with someone who you are not married to.

It's like comparing love and lust. Two strictly different ideals.

Sex is good. But sex is meant to be between two people who love each other enough to be committed to one another.

A person leaves their parents to be with their spouse. The two become one. Bone of my bone. Flesh of my flesh.

Today people are too shallow to commit. We want "right here" and "just for now." No time for building a sound foundation for the future. Which is fornication. Fornication is lacking in love. Fornication is using someone else like a Stairmaster. They may as well not even be there.

Answer 5

Sex is God's eyes is the act of marriage. So when you have sex with more than one person, you are committing adultery on the first person you were "married" to. An example of this is you read it saying, and he went into her, and they were married. Also when Jesus tells the woman at the well to go get her husband and she replies, I have no husband, he tells her, You are right when you say you have no husband. You have five husbands and the one you are currently with is not your husband.
I have a big issue with the way you negate scripture with an "I think". Not that thinking is bad, but taking your opinion over God's is what is dangerous. Just remember, "there is a way that SEEMS right to a man, but in the end it leads to death." Make sure you immerse yourself in scripture and don't just listen to people on here who try to give their own opinions about what is right.

Answer 6

That is the problem with so many people who claim to be christians quoting the bible... The bible is to be interpreted and not a black and white text book with all the answers, but somewhere along the line we (as in christians, as I myself am) have decided that we need answers so we will try to pull everything out of these pages that, even if were inspired by God, are not God's words, that is very different. The number one commandment is to love, yet you have people hating homosexuals, different races, different religions, etc. So in your personal relationship with God you have to ask your own individual questions. God made us all different and cherishes that in us, so in your own conversations with God talk about this situation, you will know what is right. You can only decide right and wrong, not someone else's interpretation of the bible or your relationship with God.

Answer 7

You've received a couple of biblically sound answers so far, so I won't bother.
However, it sounds to me like you are wanting to have sex with someone that your intending to marry before you get married, and you're trying to justify it as being ok.
Part of your personal integrity demands that you abstain from marital activity until you officially commit. If you can weasel your way into justifying premarital sex, you'll also find it pretty easy to weasel your way into extra-marital sex given the right conditions. Show your potential future partner that you have self-control and integrity and wait until you're married. Marriage has been the most widely understood proper context for sexual behavior for thousands of years. In some cultures, getting a blessing from dad was all one needed. However, in our culture, it requires an official commitment recognized by the state. In order to maintain a good testimony to them that are without, I'd stick to that pattern. If you start having sex within your own little secret marital arrangement, you'll be another statistic added to that group of people that atheists are referring to when they say that they don't come to church because it's full of hypocrites.

Answer 8

First of all, when Jesus said that if you look upon a woman lustfully then you have committed adultery with her in your heart, he was teaching us the Spirit of the Law. Jesus said that He came not to abolish the Law, but to fulfill it. The way He did that was by showing us how the Law would be kept when it is done out of love. So no, it is not extreme. If you keep the Law because you love Jesus, then you will not even look upon a person lustfully, let alone commit adultery.

No we wouldn't have died out if there was no fornication. For crying out loud, we're overpopulated as it is!

Oh my goodness... Three camels? Girl, do you read your Bible? Jacob and Rachel were IN LOVE! It wasn't just three camels for your daughter.

You really need to educate yourself before posting things like this.

Anyway, let me tell you a story.

I was engaged to a man for a year and a half. I was sure I was going to spend the rest of my life with him. I am a very loyal person by nature, and I just couldn't imagine backing out on a promise like the one I had made.

But do you know what? I backed out 2 weeks before our wedding. I realized that it wasn't right, and it wasn't what I wanted. I realized that I was letting my emotions control me.

Emotions are strong. You can't make judgments by them.

God sees a couple as one after they have sex. Just like Jacob and Rachel in Genesis; the ceremony happened, and then they went in their tent and consummated the marriage.

It's comparable to your relationship with Jesus. Your baptism is like a marriage ceremony. It's a public profession of a commitment that you are making. Your intimate relationship with Jesus, which is the part that makes the big difference, is like your intimate relationship with your spouse.

So, if you have sex, then decide that you made a mistake, it's easy to get out of it because you haven't publicly committed yourself to that person. But God still sees you as married.

So basically, if you marry someone else, or even just have sex with someone else, you've committed adultery.

That's the chance you're taking.

Answer 9

God said it and it is true!!!
God is the most perfect and holy thing there is. He is life. And he created perfect laws. So if one breaks these laws in the SLIGHTEST way we are OUTside of his life. And if he says which he did the wages of sin is death. It is. We need a savior. And he gave us Jesus. And Jesus told every single person who wanted to be saved REPENT and Believe. Repent- turning from your sins.....
If we as people continue in something that we know is sin without making any attempts to change, well God sees our hearts. If we believe in an All powerful God wouldn't we want to love Him through our obedience???



19 Now the works of the flesh are evident, which are: adultery,[c] fornication, uncleanness, lewdness, 20 idolatry, sorcery, hatred, contentions, jealousies, outbursts of wrath, selfish ambitions, dissensions, heresies, 21 envy, murders,[d] drunkenness, revelries, and the like; of which I tell you beforehand, just as I also told you in time past, that those who practice such things will not inherit the kingdom of God.

DONT CONTINUE to practice these things He tells us that!

Answer 10

Fornication is a mistranslation. It should not read that sex is bad. The word translated as "sexual immorality" in the New King James Version of Matthew 5:32 and 19:9 is the Greek word porneia. Without exception, the King James Translation uses the word "fornication" every time the Greek word porneia is found. Other versions of the Bible translate this word in a variety of ways. Moffatt and the Revised Standard Version translate porneia as "unchastity" in both passages. The New International Version translates porneia in both passages as "marital unfaithfulness." Goodspeed and Weymouth translate porneia as "unfaithfulness" in both texts. Take a look sometime at Studylight.org's definition of porneia. If you read definition number one, you see the mainstream concept: illicit sexual intercourse. However, read definition number two and you will note the metaphor is for idolatry, just as we see with Strong's Dictionary. The sub note on number two reads, "of the defilement of idolatry, as incurred by eating the sacrifices offered to idols".

Answer 11

Marriage is Mark 10: 6-9.
If you are having sex you ARE married in the eyes of God.
If you are fornicating, you are doing it wrong or the wrong person!