My cat died and i want to die aswell and be with him.?

Question

My cat died 8 months ago i had him for 13 years and grew up as a childhood pet, he was part of my family and not just a cat.

he had vomitting and diarrea so i took him to the vets i payed $600 for a biopsy and it said he didnt have cancer and i was relieved and they gave him some medication and he perked up. then after some weeks i couldnt find him in the house, i thought he was hit by a car and for 3 days i searched the house. one evening i was checking the cupboard and i saw him sitting in their all stiff with a bad look on his face, he was alive but in extreme pain i could tell he didnt respond to my calls because he was in severe kidney failure.

i brought him out of the cupbaord and gave him water and he looked at me with sad and painfull eyes, and then sipped his water very softly and struggled to get up. i took him to the docs next day, they couldnt do anything for him, he was put down. life isnt worth living without him, i was already depressed before this, im in pain

the vet said renal failure, and pancreatic problems, he was viable for kidney transplant 2 years ago when they first detected something wrong but they put him on steroids which made his kdineys even worse but prolonged his life. i heard kidney failure was the no.1 or 2 killer of cats.

you dont realise what youve got till its gone, life is empty now, i dont have anyone all i had was my cat, i havent really faced it, im good at hiding myself. i cant imagine life without him, the pain just consumes me day in and day out. just damn

Answer 1

Im so sorry for you loss. I too lost a furbaby recently not in the same way though. It is devesating. They mean the world to owners. Just know that one day you will cross that rainbow bridge and see him again. My thoughts are with you and yours.

Answer 2

I know exactly how you feel, only too well. Throughout my somewhat long life I have had and lost many cats, the most recent one being Chloe last year at the grand old age of 19, I mourned her deeply but then decided to adopt a rescue cat from a cat charity. So now I have Mitzi a dear loving pussicat. She needed a home and I needed a cat and now she has become my dearest companion since my dear husband died only last week. Do consider adopting another cat - it will help you enormously to come to terms with your sad loss, I promise you.

Answer 3

My cat, Grady just got hit and killed by a car yesterday. We've had him since he was born and he is 3 and a half, now. We still have his mother, Giesha. She knows something is wrong, as well. They must be able to sense it. I'm having some difficulty coping too. I loved him so much...he snuck out the night before he got hit and I found him about 5 or 10 minutes after it happened. We have about 6 or 7 strays in my apartment complex...why did it have to be my cat? The one cat who had a loving home, food shelter from the weather, etc.

Answer 4

I'm so sorry, that is so sad. When I lost my guinea pig after 9 years, it broke my heart. I was also very depressed at the time and I had grown up with my guinea pig, she was very special to me.

Here is a poem that I hope will bring you comfort as it did for me:

Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.

When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge.
There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together.
There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.

All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor; those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by.
The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.

They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent; His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.

You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.

Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together....

Take care : )

Answer 5

I know how tough it is when you loose an a pet that's close to you. They are and always will be our babies, doesn't matter what anyone says. Have you got a garden? Maybe you can make an area dedicated to him. Some nice bright flowers, maybe a water feature. Then you can go there to think about him and his happy times.
Do you have anyone to talk to that will understand? A friend or relative. Talking may help you to get things off your chest. If not speak to your Doctor he can put you in contact with someone who can listen and talk though your feelings.
You will never get over loosing someone so precious, but it does slowly get better. Just remember how you feel is perfectly normal and talking does help.

Answer 6

THE BEST THING FOR YOU TO DO NOW IS... go get yourself another cat or dog..trust me..I had to put down my 2 labs on the day before valentimes day 3 years ago..and it was like yesterday..but I have a new lab immediatly she eases the pain.but it never really goes away it just fades with loving a new one. Thats the only thing that will help you.This is how I cope with my loss..they wouldnt want to you tob e miserable..you will see all those animals again one day..you do not have the right to take your life..God is you and he gave you life and you gotta stay here till he decides what to do with you. Pray and get yourself another kitty cat.

Answer 7

My Cairn terrier died a year ago March, he was almost 16 years old.
I was very close to my dog, I got him as a puppy. We used to go almost everywhere together, he climbed up the back of the car seat and sat behind my head while I drove the car.
He was the funniest, smartest and most unpredictable dog. He sat at my computer looking at the screen like he was going to use it. He loved to play with stuffed animals. He barked in his sleep, even when he was old. He loved to eat almost anything, once he growled at a jalapeno pepper. I took him to my mom's house, and he would eat all of the cat's canned cat food, and had horrible smelling cat food farts all the way home in the car.

He was laying on his back and I saw something didn't look right with his testicles. I took him to the vet and they said he had cancer. They removed his testicles, but he still acted like he had them, trying to mount my other dog, and so on.

After a while, his cataracts got worse and he was probably mostly blind. He walked around the house making sad moaning sounds, but he calmed down when I sat him next to me. He walked really slow, and he finally got to where he was too old and stiff for me to take him for a walk, which he loved more than anything when he was young.

He finally died quietly on my couch. I cried almost uncontrollably for about a year after his death. I strarted to cry a little while I'm writing this.

I missed him so much I could hardly stand it, but I am able to go on. I enjoy my other dog, but no other dog will ever be the same. I still hurts, but it doesn't hurt as much, and I take comfort in all the memories I have of him. In time, you will feel better.

Answer 8

aww i am so sorry... I have had my dog for about 13 years myself; since i was 7. I cry just thinking about that day...
I try to tell myself that when that day comes i will remember all the good times that i had with my dog, and all the comfort she brought. But that wont make me miss her any less...
And at least you cat is no longer in pain you know... Thats probably the most important thing i've learned with people as well... If we really love someone, including our pets, when they are in that much pain, we must let them go and stop their suffering...
I hope you are doing okay, i know it's a hard time for you. please stay strong!

Answer 9

My cat just died today. He was 15yrs old and I had watched im being born in our kitchen when I was 6. I'm heartbroken. I suffer with depression too so I can understand how you're feeling right now. Just give yourself time to mourn, look through photo's of your cat, think of the happy times you had together.

Are you getting any help for your depression? If not I'd recommend going to see a doctor, they can really help.

I'm so sorry for your loss, but it will get easier with time. Just hang on in there

Answer 10

I'm so sorry for you loss, I have been through something similar with my dog, I loved her very much. I know you feel empty right now, but things will get better in time.

I know he can't be replaced, but when your ready, the ASPCA has kittens and cats that need a loving home like yours.

Maybe you should speak to a physiologist or psychiatrist, he or she can help you deal with your loss. Take care.

Answer 11

You're going to be alright. This is a pretty profound loss. Part of your childhood died with this cat. Anyway, for what it's worth, he will always be part of you. You could experiment with trying to contact his spirit by leaving a tape recorder running on record mode with a blank tape on it somewhere you know he would be and where it won't be tampered with overnight. It could work. Eventually, you will learn to love another cat especially if you rescue it from the pound.