I came home from work last nite after a physically exhausting day and he was cooking me supper which consist of steak, dressing, gravy, mashed potato's and sweet potato's.
There is no hope for him as a chef, so I was polite, ate it and told him I needed to go home, shower and take a hour long nap. I had to go back to work that nite at midnite.
Within 20 minutes, he was showered, drove to my house and crawled in my bed. He wanted sex, so I caved and I faked my way thru it and asked him if he wanted to nap with me for an hour and he said "no, because he would be up all nite"
He drinks so much the sex cannot be spontaneous. He has to plan it around his "coctails" which consist of about 10 drinks mixed with Vodka. He drinks an increadible amount, but no one can tell because he functions quite well except in bed.
I am sick of this. How do I tell him to knock it off? Is it worth it to put up with the misery for the good times and his financial worth?
2007-05-07 09:04:33 · 13 answers · asked by happydawg 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, it is not worth it to "put up" with a relationship where it doesn't satisfy you. Are you will to go thru "faking it" for the rest of your life if you marry this guy and after "making love" you have to go into the bathroom to finish pleasing yourself? You need to sit down and have a good heart to heart talk with your b/f, soon. Good luck and God Bless.
2007-05-07 09:08:08 · answer #1 · answered by tersey562 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-28 16:43:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You missed the worst part....Where were the greens in the dinner?
You need to decide. If you want him you need to set boundaries with him. Let him know what is ok and what is not. You can't be afraid to tell him, "I am going to go take a nap I need it I'll call you tomorrow" If it is too much then break up clean and tell him how you feel and that it's over.
2007-05-07 09:15:31 · answer #3 · answered by db14 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just enjoy his money and teach him how to cook. Come on is the sex really that bad. A lot of women would love to have their men cook for them. Also he should join AA and give up the heavy drinkin. Good luck
2007-05-07 09:11:49 · answer #4 · answered by JJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not just the sex that's the issue here. It's the booze. If you want to be with an alcoholic and deal with this....then that's the choice you make. Just remember....we all have a choice.
My advise is to find love somewhere else.
2007-05-07 09:10:36 · answer #5 · answered by -J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a mess. He is an alcoholic and needs help.
If you are sick of the relationship, leave. Tell him you hope he gets some help with his drinking problem, but you can't see him anymore.
2007-05-07 09:12:52 · answer #6 · answered by Rob 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. It's not worth it. There are a lot of guys out there that are a good time and have financial worth that would be more respective of your needs and more respectful and not boozers.
2007-05-07 09:09:00 · answer #7 · answered by just browsin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u kinda lost me somewhere along the way, but i would think u need to do something to take care of his drinking problem overall.
2007-05-07 09:19:58 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Infatuation 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you sound like you are miserable with this guy. I would break up with him and find somebody that is worth your time.
2007-05-07 09:14:09 · answer #9 · answered by binemaeuschen22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chiiiick, your enabling an alcoholic, thats really bad for your soul...
2007-05-07 09:08:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋