Is this weird or normal to anyone .. my girlfriend?

Question

my girlfriend broke up with me out of no where - had the best relationship, everything was going great - talking bout marriage, kids, moving in together etc - out of no where she calls me and says i need time/ space to myself and we didnt talk for 2 weeks - i gave her space, but i wanted to let her know that i am there for her no matter what - i wrote her a letter saying that and we could get through this together - she responded acting nasty and mean, when all i wanted to do was tell her that i am there for her - then she acts mad at me like i am the one who did something wrong - now i know that u cant go from loving someone more than life to 12 hrs later not wanting to talk to them ! does this sound familiar to anyone or is this common? could she be pushing me away because she is scared that i am the one for her or did something just go off in her head? opinions please

Answer 1

Too much intimacy can be scary, especially when you start thinking through all the consequences of changing your life. Usually it's the men who get accused of "fear of commitment", but it sounds like you've got a good case there. Although in women it's usually referred to as "cold feet", and is considered normal. Anyway, it's also common for a woman who knows she's in the wrong to behave like that - to try to shift the responsibility for her behavior onto the injured party. There's a sporting chance she's done something very stupid to give herself a reason to back out of the relationship with all its scary responsibilities, but it's likely that you won't find out unless she changes her mind. Your best bet to find out is to develop an interest in someone else, at which (if she's like most women) she'll suddenly realize that you were The One and desperately attempt to get you back. I'd say it depends how attached you were to her. Personally, I'd give her her space and move on; imagine marriage to someone like that...

Answer 2

My bf broke up with me at one time over something very trivial and blew up in a huge tirade. I did not let him go far. I gave him a day to relax and then called to say I miss you. We talked for an hour and got back together. Come to find out, he honestly did not believe he deserved me since he had a dysfunctional family past and wanted to push me away before he hurt me. I told him I am not that easy to get rid of and I have stood by his side through everything since. This may be similar to something she is going through. If it is, and you vow to stand by her, make sure you are ready to put your own feelings aside for a while and honestly help her. It all comes back in the long run. He has now realized what I have done for him and he appreciates me that much more. We now have a very strong relationship. Good luck to you.

Answer 3

well if been in this situation but the reason i pushed away my partner was because i had no real feelings for him and i didnt know how to get him away from me however i dont know exactly how long youve been together or how the relationship was. because if you guys were honest to each other and both showed loved towards each other than she might be scared of falling for u if not then shes pushing u away. Good luck

Answer 4

I have done this twice (back when I was a teenager), and I feel guilty even now. Don't quote me on this, because I'm a total stranger and could be wrong, but when I did this to a guy, it was because I found someone else I wanted to be with and just couldn't handle telling the truth.

Answer 5

Your ex-girlfriend really sounds like someone who has been hurt emotionally. She is pushing you away to avoid being the victim again. You sound like a nice person the right woman will come along.

kita.

Answer 6

Well, sorry to burst your bubble, but if she was or is not cheating behind your back or have found someone else then for sure she was either just using you or she has a severe case of depression.

Answer 7

Give her some time. Maybe you did something unintentional that may have angered her. Ask her straight out what is her problem and why she's acting the ways she has.

Answer 8

I'm not sure why she would do this. I mean, I know us girls can have our major mood swings but maybe she is just scared or maybe she heard some rumor that was a total lie about you and just assumed it was true. Are there any or her friends or family who don't like you and maybe they advised her to stop seeing you, and wanting to please them, she did or something. I don't know, maybe that is just my script writter in me talking but I hope that helps some?

Answer 9

She's seeing someone else. Forget about her and move on