She's been sick as of late and even before doesn't have a good enough job to be able to help out monitarily (which is what I think REALLY bugs her). What can I give her to do now that everything is basically all set? How can I help to to feel better about just being there for me on my day?What can I give her to do....?
2007-05-07 07:44:12 · 8 answers · asked by ♥Mommy to 3 year old Jacob and baby on the way♥ 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I tell her its okay she cant help monitarily but she insists its not....I keep trying to find her small things to help with....
2007-05-07 08:48:37 · update #1
There are tons of last minute things to do...assemble your programs, call no replies, make last minute calls to caterer, florist, etc...accompany you places...
My mom isn't in a financial position to help us-his family is paying for the reception...people do what they can...sometimes that involves money, sometimes it doesn't...just make sure she knows hoe important she is and how much you understand she can't help and that is ISN:T a big deal!
2007-05-07 08:33:32 · answer #1 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She can read a poem or something from the Bible during the ceremony, she can go with you when you get your fittings for your dress and help you make decisions on colors, cuts, styles of things, etc. She can just be there for you to bounce ideas off of or for when you get frustrated and need someone to listen to you vent, she can be there to give her opinion when you get your hair & makeup done to see if you like it (the test date), cake tasting, flowers, there are so many decisions that need to be made and at some point you really will need another opinion to help sway you because everything will just be swimming in your head! Tell her the day of the wedding it's really important to you that she help keep you calm by doing ....? Just think it out now so you're not worried about it later.
If you want to give her a project to get her out of your hair, buy all the supplies for your favors and ask her to put them together and tell her you really want them to be exactly this certain way. That will take a while, especially if it has a bow or two to tie! ;-P
2007-05-07 16:19:37 · answer #2 · answered by Marianne D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what is left to plan. You could sit down with her and have her look over color swatches for bows to go on the backs of the chairs at the reception, types of ribbon to be wrapped around the bouquets, even make stuff up just to give her something to do. Decide that you may want more favors (or different ones) on the tables and ask her if she could think up any other ideas for decorations. Talk to her a lot when you get stressed, mother's love giving moral support and stress advice.
2007-05-07 15:04:24 · answer #3 · answered by acollegeangel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit with her ask her about her mother, her grandmother, ask her about when she was first married, ask if it felt different, ask what the first year was like, ask if there is anything she wished she knew that would have helped going into it, ask what caused the rough spots, what helped what hurt. Does she see in you something you don't yet that you should know about....
In short set the stage for her to do what mothers have done for their daughters in the days when daughters cared to know these things. Let her give the gift of wisdom in retrospect. Let her feel this is more valuable than all the money in the world. That you appreciate her time with you, her insights and that SHE is your mom.
2007-05-07 15:06:02 · answer #4 · answered by bountifiles 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you having rice or bird seed thrown at the wedding that needs to be put in netting and tied with ribbon? This would be easy for her to do. Is she able to oversee the reception as far as making sure caterers or servers keep the food available. As far as the wedding and reception, she is honored as the mother of the bride and should relax and enjoy and only do anything required to take any stress off of you. Congrats
2007-05-07 15:00:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Calling relatives to confirm RSVP's
Organizing the seating charts and name cards
calling vendors and confirming details
Have her help pick the menu and attend the tastings
Stuffing envelopes for the invites
assembling progams for the wedding
assembling favors for the wedding
Have a her do a reading at the wedding
Have her be the officiant of your wedding
2007-05-07 14:53:39 · answer #6 · answered by Jessica S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can understand you but just let her help with the food and you know like when you dress just let her feel like she is not alone and tell her to help you out thats all .But it will be okay.
2007-05-07 17:22:58 · answer #7 · answered by Demtrist@Kim Silver 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i went through some what of the same thing with my mom on my wedding planning and she got really upset and i let her do whatever she wanted to do, from my experience let her help u get ready the day of your wedding, like letting her help you get dressed and with your hair makeup whatever she wants to do.
2007-05-07 15:03:14 · answer #8 · answered by jessika 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋