Do I believe her? How can I tell!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!?

Question

Ok, long story short....my X of 3 yrs wants to get back together....i was her first she was mine...i have not been with anyone since. I spend my time playing yngwie malmsteen songs on guitar. She dated some guy, her and i didnt talk until this last recent few months, and she claims to have not been with anyone, but, cant prove it like i did. She says she no longer trusts me, and trusts some guy shes only known for a few weeks over me ? she knows i never lied to her, what should I do? basically how does she prove to me she didnt sleep around like all her friends claim ? do i take her word although she parties everytnight and goes to this guys ? someone explain thanks!!!!!

oh btw, the one that answered grow up, come on, your intept to reality. grow up wow, its quite apparent you are unable to read a paragraph, we were eachothers FIRSTS sooo not before,me but since me, get it right, 2nd off, its ur right to know who your mate has slept with, if you dont know who your husband slept with well then you probably have aids, trust is important, and if you love someone, tell them the truth, you have a right to know, if i slept with 1000 girls id sure like the love of my life to know, dang, honesty is the best option, not keeping that in the dark

Answer 1

I'm sorry, but, I don't believe her. If believing her is paramount to you returning to the relationship, then just write it off. There is no way to KNOW what did or did not happen and asking someone to PROVE it is just down right ridiculous. Even you can't PROVE that you didn't do something with someone else.

At this point, the mature approach is to just say that what happened while you were apart is better left in the past. Look to the future.

If she is still going to this person's house, she is still sexing him up. If she cared about your relationship, she would be spending the time working it out with you instead of partying with this guy.

Answer 2

Why does it matter to you?

When I met and married my husband, he didn't grill me on my past sexual history, and I didn't grill him on it either. What's most important is your relationship with her, not the ones she's had before you. Unless she has AIDS or something.

C'mon. Grow up.

If you both have trust issues, you need to just take it slow and be friends for a while. No sex. Just get to know each other again.