Need advice from Christians, real God-loving Christians?

Question

I love God, I believe in God, I know He exists and I know Heaven exists. I know there are certain things a Christian shouldn't do and certain things a Christian should do. I have fallen from grace and have acted in a way a Christian should not.
I am 18 years old, unwed and pregnant. My boyfriend is 21 and Jewish. I know the Bible says that it's best not to be unequally yoked and that marriage is to be everlasting and should not be taken lightly. I am aware of these teachings and the strength it takes to be with someone of a different faith. My parents are trying to convince me that being with him is against my best interest, against the best interest of my child. They continue to tell me that I am not a believer, I am not a Christian because of this. My mom is sending me bible verses every day, saying that she will not support my being with him if I live at home.

I need advice. I'm so torn and so lost. How do I disappoint them again? I respect them, but I don't agree with them. Help?

My parents weren't Christians when they married. They converted shortly after marriage. I understand they are by no means perfect as well, but in growing up they sort of fell from their religious ways as well. Church became almost burdensome. Life was more important. Religion was only brought into situations when it was convenient for them. God was never really a huge part of our household. Praying was never done in the open. Reading the Bible was always done secret. I feel that my parents had some sort of shame for being believers.

How is it that they feel they have the right to preach to me when they made the very same mistakes when they were young? How is it that they can preach to me on what to do with my life when they don't even have their lives or souls in order?

My boyfriend has a steady job, a full-time job, making 40+ a year. He is fully willing and ready to be a father and support me and our baby. He is so proud that he is going to be a father, despite the circumstances.

I feel blessed to be in a situation where I know that I have someone who supports me and stands by me. I know others have not been so fortunate.

Answer 1

BIBLE MARRIAGE AND OTHER

The man[or pair], will leave father and mother and cleave to each other as one flesh,
There’s not to be abuse, misuse and trouble, both works toward bliss and happiness,
The family needs a decent environment as clean and education in God’s word at best,
There must be a budget and strict care of it to have the good name no one is careless.
Matt.6:9-13[care for debts]; Matt.19:4-9[one flesh]; #1. Good common sense.
Decent employment must be a goal that is accomplished for every plan to be a success,
The present day location and time,surroundings as country, city, state for a safety list,
Make sure all things are in order and functions and goals for each day will pass the test,
Be sure to remember to devote the time needed to your helpmate first, to all others next.
Gen.2:20[help meet or help mate]; # 2. Fruits of Gods spirit or conduct becoming man.
If as for a believer or a non believer and your pleased to dwell together in marriage bliss,
The non believer is sanctified by the believer as God has taken care to assure you this,
The power of each other over the other and for most the woman is subjected to the man,
Her respect for him as is Sarah called Abraham Lord, most are sure to be holding hands.
1Cor.7:2-10[marry]; 1Cor.2:12-14[believer sanctifies both]; 1Cor.7:32 [unmarried];
1Cor.2:11,15[To part, do not wed]; 1Cor.7:33[Married]; 1Cor.7:39 [Spouse deceased];
Do not compete, be an individual, respect and allow others to be different, enjoy variety,
Sodom and Gomorrah’s sin was you have got to be like me, you must give me total victory,
We all know the LORD did not agree, but rather see all have good godly trust and morality,
Just be a human being and be all you can be, have respect
trespassing on God's territory.

Answer 2

You haven't fallen from grace just because you are in love with someone who doesn't have the same faith as you. You can still be a Christian and marry this guy, however, the Bible does say it is wrong to be unequally yoked. It is a sin, and Christians do sin. I would advise against marrying this man, but if you already have, or if you feel there is no way you can get out of it, then so be it. The Bible doesn't say that if you sin you are going to Hell, it says that if you don't have faith in Jesus then you are not a Christian. I don't think you should get married unless you feel it is okay somehow, but I think your parents have it a bit wrong and need to get their Bibles out. A crowd was about to stone a woman in the Bible for committing adultery and Jesus said to the crowd, "let he who hasn't sinned cast the first stone". No one threw a stone because they all had sinned. I think you need to decide what God wants you to do. Don't listen to your parents or the people on here or anyone else, not even your boyfriend. Study the Bible and decide what God is telling you to do. That is the best advice I can give. I don't think you or your parents are bad people, but there is no reason to be ashamed of being a Christian, and Christians should not condemn other people like they have some higher power, God is the judge over all, and he wants Christians to be loving people who show how great God is by acting like Christians and living by faith, not by sight. No Christian is perfect, but we should always be reaching for God's plan in our lives and trying to do his will for us. I hope that helps, God bless.

Answer 3

Wow! That is a pretty hard thing that is happening. You got yourself into this mess by taking your eyes off God, and now you are back to looking at everyone else again.

So knock it off! If your 'mate' wants to be a father, then that is good enough for me, not that I matter, but you at least will get support for your child.

Everytime I read what you wrote, I see you getting back into the same mess you started with. Your family says" Whatever!" It doesn't matter what your family says.

You and God are linked to eachother, right? I mean, if you can't trust him, then you have nothing.

But if you continue to listen to your family you will surely make this the worst case scenario. A train wreck. They have no idea what you and God can do together. Who made them mediator?

Your parents sound like a pain in the butt.

New Christians are typically that way. My sympathys.

You can IM me or e-mail me, as there are a lot of issues, and probably emotions that you are needing guidance on. I have become a sort of counsellor for certain people that come here. So if you think that what I have said makes any sense at all, then follow up and let me know. Okay?

Answer 4

God Bless You! I was once 18 pregnant and unwed. First do you love your boyfriend and does he love you and the unborn baby? If so then make it work with Gods help. He will bless you! God realizes we all make mistakes that is why he sent the ultimate sacrafice to us. We are human we sin we will always sin until we reach heaven. I believe God will forgive any sin if asked wholeheartedly. I also believe you can't keep commiting the same sin over and over. As far as your parents if you don't agree with them, go with what you believe and trust to be right you will be the one to answer for what you choose not them. "Work out your salvation", not your parents. God will let you know in peace if you are right. But let me give you a few verses that I dearly love and you being a christian i am sure you have heard them. Romans 6:14 "For sin shall not have dominion over you: for ye are not under the law, but under grace." Romans3:10 As it is written, There is none Righteous, no, not one." Romans 3:23 "For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God." I hope these are of comfort to you and they helped me when I was dealing with the same. Sin is Sin and it can be forgiven the devil has found a way to hold you back. Get back in there and don't feel torn or lost. You are a winner with God. Bless You. I will pray you make the right decision according to God. No disrespect but if I were your parents I would be questioning my own salvation for putting you through this they are not to judge anyones soul!

Answer 5

Faith is a one-on-one personal relationship between YOU and GOD!

There comes a point when you must break away and go with your own belief system rather than the belief system of your parents.

You are 18 and it sounds as if you are no longer living at home. Perhaps now would be a good time to make the break.

It sounds like your parents attitude will not be supportive unless you go groveling back to them and say, in effect:
"You are right, you are the only ones who know how to have a personal relationship with God. YOUR way is the right way and everybody else in the world must therefore be WRONG."

There are many paths to God. What did Jesus say to the sinners?

He said: "Go your way and sin no more."

I suggest that you focus on His first 3 words...

Go YOUR way, not your parent's way.
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Answer 6

Yes, we are taught to marry someone with whom we are equally yoked. It's not that it's destined to fail or somehow denying your Christian beliefs. The reason for that way of thinking is that marriage is ordained by God to be everlasting. It is already difficult enough without introducing different faiths. I know you think it won't matter, but faith will play a major role in your marriage. My husband and I are both Christians, but we are in very different places in terms of our walks of faith. I see the problems that is having...and again, we are both Christian.

Can your relationship work...of course, but it's going to take a lot of work.

The bigger issue for me is that you are both so young and you are looking to start a marriage with a baby. I'm telling you from experience...children add stress and pressure! Yes, you love them dearly, but they magnify existing problems in a relationship.

You mother is wrong in telling you that loving someone of a different religion means you are not Christian! It only means that you've opened up your heart and love without bias toward race or religion.

I would caution you against getting married right now. Stay together (not necessarily live together) and raise your child. Allow yourselves to get comfortable with being parents and mature a little. Then, after a few years, if you still love each other dearly and still want to marry, do it!

Best wishes to all three of you!

Answer 7

Not even your mother can tell you if you are a believer or not. However, emotions should not come into play when dealing with the Word of God. It did say that Christians should not be unequally yoked with non-Christians. It did not say "unless you love them, and are willing to take the difficulties that go along with it." If you go through with it, you have only yourself to blame for the result. But it doesn't affect your salvation. You're 18, and it's your mother's choice to support you or not. If you guys can't support yourselves, that's another reason you might not want to get married yet. Pray for your fiance. He may accept Christ yet, after observing your lifestyle and commitment to God.

Answer 8

Honey, you can't fall from grace. If you know you are a sinner and that Christ died to pay for your sin and rose again, you are God's child and nothing can pluck you from His hand.

You have done nothing that can't be forgiven and the baby is a blessing!

However, mixed marriages have an added stressor and living in one makes it harder to grow in your faith, this is why the Bible warns against it.

that said, it is important for your child to have a relationship with both parents and marriage is considered holy, even when someone is married to a nonbeliever thay are told to stay married to that person.

GOd will love you no matter what.

Answer 9

Not including you in Bible readings and saying Grace
before meals kind of voids any good example your parents wants you to fallow now. What ability dose
your boyfriend have to support you and a baby if he
was unable to afford protection for you. Most often
the "baby daddy" will be in the wind by the time the
child is born. All you can do is pry for the best in
Jesus,s name. Then if you prayed with a broken hart,
expect the best. So often all we can do is wait.

Answer 10

I feel for you -You do not say that you accepted Jesus as your personal savior but that you know and love God. If you have not asked forgiveness for your sins and do believe Jesus died (and rose again so we might also live eternally)-then you need to confess,repent of your sins and accept the Lord's forgiveness and you will be forgiven.

We want to please our loved ones but our Lord comes first always, not what people think or tell us to do but the Bible is His personal message (letter) to us.

If your bf is not a practicing Jew, possibly he too may become a believer, til then I just have to go by the unequally yoked scriptures. Do you know some pastor in you town you can talk to about this? It would be helpful if both of you went to one who truely teaches the bible and not just their thinking.

Don't worry about disappointing anyone but the One who died for your sins. I wish I were more help but am praying for you and your bf and prayer is powerful and dear, remember, nothing is impossible with God. He loves you with everlasting love unless or you reject the gift our Lord gave us on the cross.

You might remind your parents of how many people in the bible sinned though they believed. King David committed adultry yet he believed in God , and there are too many to name here. We can be saved and still sin-in thought,words, deeds because a sin is a sin is a sin,not matter what form it takes and we sin every day even as believers. Joy of joy, we can confess and ask His forgiveness and we are forgiven but we cannot deliberately keep on sinning just because we know He forgives. We repent and ask His grace to help us live as He intends and know that He loves and rejoices over us. Wow