Please, I don't want God to judge me. Is there any way I can go to Heaven?

Question

Though I have only had heterosexual experiences because that is what was expected of me, I believe I am lesbian. I am putting this question in this category because I want the opinion of Christians who might not go into the section for gays and lesbians. I am definitely a Christian with a full saving knowledge of the Lord Jesus Christ. I want to know if God will be able to forgive me if the time comes that I act on my lesbian desires. Like I said, at this point I have not acted on them yet. I just want to know for sure I won't go straight to hell if I meet another woman. I don't want to do anything like one-night stands. I am a relationship type of person and want to fall in love with a woman before anything happens. I believe in True Love Waits. However, after all I have been through trying to fit into a heterosexual world is tearing me up inside. I need to be myself just as God made me.

Wow I am overwhelmed by those who seem to care. I thought I would get bashed in this section. Thank you for not judging me. For further question, what if I do eventually meet a woman I want to spend the rest of my life with? Some Christians say homosexuality is a sin---period! Others say it is how God made me. I am more inclined to believe God made me this way and those who don't understand this must have been born heterosexual so they do not face this struggle. I do exhibit the fruit of the Spirit because I treat others well and do not judge. I help others tremendously and try to live as Christ did by understanding others. Remember...Jesus didn't hang out with the church-goers. He hang out with the "sinners" who needed the loving God in their lives. I, too, want to reach out to others in love.

To me, self-control means holding out for the right person. One person made it seem like I have self-control for not acting on being a lesbian. I just haven't met the right woman yet.

Answer 1

There is a website that explains about how to get to heaven in much better wording than I can. You say you already have a full saving knowledge of the Lord Jesus Christ. Well, that's awesome. This site can help you determine this for sure and help you know which direction to go in life. Everyone has some issue they struggle with and ultimately everyone has to make their own decisions. I commend the fact that you want to have a steady relationship instead of licentiousness. If more heterosexuals would commit to that, we would have less divorces and less marriage troubles.

You are truly the first possible homosexual (I assume you are since you mentioned lesbian) I have come across that seemed to really want a relationship with God. You are also the first one I have come across who wanted a steady relationship and believes in True Love Waits. You have helped my narrow mind see so much more than I ever realized because I have been so caught up in all the stereotypes and should have known not to believe them. Thank you for helping me by opening my eyes a little further. Hopefully I can also help you.


Who gets to heaven?
The answer is simple. The people who get to go to heaven are the ones who “get right with God” by beginning a relationship with Him through His Son Jesus Christ. Unfortunately, understanding how to “get right with God” became unclear as organized religion developed over the centuries. (Removing the various “changes” added by organized religion is one of the primary reasons for the existence of this site.) Although “religious people” have been telling others how to go to heaven for a long time, what they say can be distorted by their opinions. That is why it is vital to go back to the unchanging foundation—the Bible. For example, the apostle Paul refuted the false teachings of his day and told everyone how to “get right with God” using the first century version of the Internet—a letter. This letter is recorded in the Bible as the book of Galatians, and is available for all of us to learn from today.

As we said before, the one way to get right with God is based completely on the Bible, not our opinion. This can be verified by reading the Bible yourself. That is why we inserted the Bible link above. Now, if we are going to follow what the Bible says about getting right with God, we have to answer three important questions:
Question 1: Why do I need Jesus?
Question 2: How Do I Accept Jesus?
Question 3: How Do I Stay Right With God Through Jesus?

The big issues here are foundation, motivation, and consistency. If our foundation is the Bible, and if our motivation is being like Christ, and if we consistently seek to live like Christ, then we know that Jesus covers our sins, and we are still right with God. (See 1 John 2:5,6 and 1 John 5:13.) However, if we say that we know God, and yet do not consistently seek to live like Christ by obeying Him (that is, we continue to “walk in darkness”) God says that we are liars and the truth is not in us. (See 1 John 2:3,4 and 1 John 1:6.) Thus, if you make a decision to accept Christ, you must understand that it means a lifetime commitment toward seeking to be like Jesus in the way that you live. This is what “staying right with God” is all about—becoming more like Jesus! We certainly hope that you will choose Jesus!

Answer 2

From my standpoint, possibly you have got to take what's written in any bible with a pinch of salt. God, heaven and the fires and brimstone of hell are all guy made creations, written and re interpreted down the centuries and all within the title of controlling how our human minds paintings. It isn't unreasonable to consider that we're all right here for a motive and that all of us have a aspect to play within the higher scheme of matters. But if there's a better vigor, it's most probably past the comprehension of guy and are available 'judgement day' or something you desire to name it, possibly we will be able to have got to pass judgement on ourselves on how we dealt with our fellow guy and fellow creatures instead than whether or not we adopted a few fake ethical code. The bible might say many satisfactory matters and a supply of satisfactory relief for a few, however it's also a supply of satisfactory intolerance, inhumanity and atrocities when you consider that guy's obsession with notion and gods. Murder, torture and agony are very on the whole associated with guy's obsession and fanatical ideals and any god valued at his salt could have got to be judged on that himself. From my enjoy, I doubt that any people deserve ever lasting peace. For me, that sounds useless dull and I am comfortable to disregard god in my lifestyles and to are living to my possess values and standards, hoping that within the subsequent size I can do all of it once more, however possibly higher. I ain't scared of any judgement considering that even though I is also homosexual and an atheist, I don't have anything to reply for besides the frailties on my human self. And there cross the relaxation people it doesn't matter what we consider!

Answer 3

God doesn't WANT to judge you. Everybody has to deal with sinful desires, that's nothing special. It's what you DO with those that matters. As to whether or not you are lesbian, I have a simple test: Do you like playing with dildoes? If you don't, you might be right. But if you do, you just haven't found the right guy yet. He's out there, don't give up.

Regardless, assuming the 'worst', know that God does love you, and wants only the best for you. You could consider a celebate existence, (that'd be tough - I doubt I could do it.) Or you could study the Bible, looking for a loophole. (Not sure how much good that'd do...) You might simply focus on Jesus and what He has already done for you. What would you be willing to do to demonstrate to Him how you feel about that?

Answer 4

There are bad things that can happen due to sexual relations. You might have found that out already. It doesn't seem like it should happen, but it does.

But it's not about your sex life. Christianity that is. It might eventually be about your sex life, because God changes people. That's what it's like to be guided by God.

But what we are missing here is the fact that God calls those who he wants to be with him. If you are feeling that draw, then God wants you. You would not have that desire if it weren't for him pulling you towards him.

So that's a happy thought that happens to be true.

Ahh, but wait! What about sexual sins, and sins of desire? Let God work with you on those things. Risky stuff? What if God makes you a hermit? That's a risk that you will have to take. While I can think that it isn't likely that God would make a hermit out of you, I think that you could do better with him even if he did, than without him.

So the pull is getting to you? Good. Let it happen. Tell him that you are going to trust him from now on. And believe in his Son, that he raised Jesus from the dead, and that you believe in him when he promised to resurrect you too.

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Answer 5

The GOOD NEWS is that there is no HELL.
When we die we go to heaven (the other side) and we go to a level depending on how much our soul learned in this life. The lower levels have more learning and growth to do. Simple and easy as that.

Hell and the Devil are made by people and religion, NOT GOD.

God is forever loving and forgiving and you are his CHILD. He will not turn his back on you. You came into this life to learn something important for the growth of your soul. Possible it can be the love of another woman. To God there is no homosexuals or bisexuals or people of color or good religions and bad. We are his people with extrodinary Souls that need to learn and grow to do Gods work in heaven.

Do not judge yourself. Your soul has a path and many lessons to learn dont stop the learning process and starve your soul. God will not judge you for loving a woman. God wants you to Love and Live.

You charted your path and destiny this lifetime. For some reason you wanted to learn from this struggle between loving men or women. Learn from it and keep on the path. Homosexuals do not go to Hell or are judged anymore than anyone else is. Be true to God and worship him and pray to him.
All will be well for you.

Answer 6

Homosexuality is no better or worse than any other sin, and Romans tells us that we have ALL fallen short of the glory of God. In not acting on your desires, you have already demonstrated great self-control, which is a fruit of the Spirit. God is with you- take the matter to prayer. God bless.

Answer 7

Just because you are feeling inclined toward homosexuality doesn't mean you are on a one way ticket to hell. Keep reading The Bible. It is God's love letter for you. God hasn't given up on you. Don't ever give up on Him. He loves you.

I have a natural inclination toward certain sins myself and just because I struggle with those sins doesn't mean I am any less a believer in Jesus and all He taught. It's about the surrender. I have surrendered my life to Jesus and in that surrender He is making me brand new!

Now, if I try to take advantage of God's mercy and sin anyway, knowing full well that it is against His will in my life, then all I can suggest is that we reap what we sow.

And when I struggle with a repeated sin, I pray for a soft heart that mine would not grow hard and I praise God for any consequences that repeated sin may produce in my life knowing that He is trying to guide me away from that sin.

Also, remember that Scripture tells us in 1 Corinthians 10:13 that God will not allow us to be tested beyond what we are able and that with any challenge He has provided a way of escape.

That being said, if you are wrestling with the inclination toward homosexuality, know that God has equipped you to overcome and He has provided for you a way of escape.

Answer 8

The scriptures teach that GOD handed the job of judgement to Jesus. There's no way to get around that judgement, though. But, you don't need to worry about hell because Jesus forgives. All you have to do is believe in him and that he forgives us. Then you will never ever worry about Hell again. He'll even show you how to live, so that the strain of sin will be lifted from your life and soul. Jesus once taught that worry never added to a man's life. So I invite you to believe, and worry no more.

Answer 9

You dear are one twisted sister ! I picked up your answer to the "sex before marriage" dabacle question. What a load of hogwash in most of those answers! Using church, God, Sin etc to control people's behaviour is older than time itself almost ! A load of head warping mind wash all of it. If two, (or sometimes more than two) healthy consenting adults find intimate pleasure between themselves, it has nothing to do with God or any of that scripture rubbish. Jesus of Nazareth befriended Mary Magdalene and was closest to her than anyone. She herself was unhappy and unfulfilled by the fact she was caught up in selling her body to men. If people didnt create ridiculous forbodings then such misery wouldn't exist ! The point is Jesus reached out to the poor, the sick, the needy. He was less interested in the so called "good guys". He also set free those persecuted and accused of so called "adultery". Every single human has intimate desires and it is very unhealthy to surpress your feelings. Man has twisted the whole plot round to this "Sin" bullcrap. This is so that power freaks can control masses by way of "fear".That in itself is more evil than most things. It is your private affair...no one elses and as long as no minor or vulnerable person is in any way affected,and it is with mutual consent, then all is fine. Be yourself and be happy in sharing love with those who wish to share theirs with you. End of. IT IS NO SIN !! God will NOT judge you. I have several different partners and I am fine with God who understands me, and my needs to share widely, that which is not shared nearly enough.

Answer 10

God will not forgive you since you will have done nothing to offend him. There are bible thumpers by the thousands you will offend, but then they will not be the ones judging you. God made you the way you are, take his gift and live well loving those around you, which the bible thumpers seem to be lacking in.