If you absolutely fall in love with somebody...but he/she was of a different religion...then..?

Question

1. how would you deal with it?

For example:
if you are an atheist and the love of your life is a christian? And vice versa.... how would you deal with this difference if you two were to go for the long run?

2. what would you teach your kids?

Answer 1

That my friend is something I always think about. And know there are lot of folks out there who do it. But you know I think they probably come to an logical understanding or they just ignore each other belifes. But that would be interesting though.

Answer 2

This may be why the bible warns of being unequally yoked. One of you doesnt believe in GOD, the other does. You may be able to overcome this difference between you two, but what about the kids? Will you leave religion out of the family so as to limit discrepancies? This will become a grand challenge for you two especially as the kids get older and become more aware of their spiritual side. I would just remain genuine to what i believe, even though you both have different beliefs. Then encourage the kids to look for their own answers, and embrace their own beliefs. As far as your christian mate, keep an open mind and never try to stifle their beliefs.

Answer 3

First things first. With the old adage that you only marry the people you date, I would probably only date people that I wish to consider for marriage in the first place. In other words, if I want to take the "risk" you might say, in dating someone of a different faith, you know that by not doing so you can avoid this issue all together. But with that said, I would want to be patient with my true love and let her see how my religion has effected my life. I would life my religion to the fullest and allow her to see how it can change, improve and create happiness in my life.
I would teach my children a mixture of both religions and encourage them to make a choice for themselves when the time becomes right.

Answer 4

Faith and religion are personal to the individual. We all have different views, taste's in music, opinions, faiths etc etc. That is what makes us all special.

If you two want to make a go of things for the long term, its about respecting her/him as a person. Talk to each other and share your views. You may not always get the answer you want to hear, but sometimes there is not always the answer. I didn't get the answers I wanted to hear, simply because my partner could not explain. By listening its shows respect and you may develop and better understanding of your partner.

Kids, kids have their own imagination, they choose what they feel comfortable with. All you can do is share information with them, they will choose what they want to believe.

The end of the day, you two are people. Don't let barriers get in the way if you two are happy together.

source : (life and relationships).

Answer 5

So what part of her are you in love with? If you are in love with her heart, mind and spirit, you should keep in mind that her heart, mind and spirit are shaped in part by the beliefs from the different religion, get it??? How you choose to go about addressing your relationship with the divine, or not, is nowhere near as important as if you both share a "world view", a way of looking at things, an approach to problem solving, or to people, or whatever. I was raised Catholic, and married a Jewish man. That had nothing to do with the breakup of the marriage though, we were just two different speeds of life, our world views were just too different, but I don't think it had anything to do with religion, but then there wasn't really a strong emphasis on that in our household. If the other person is compatible, and lives life the way you think people should live it, then that is what is important. You should teach your kids about both ideas, and let them explore whatever other ideas they choose to, and let them decide for themselves. I do think that children should be raised with some sort of religious education as a foundation to build from, and a sort of community re-inforcement of basic values you would want the child to learn, so if one in the relationship belongs to a church and wants to take them along, then let them, but whatever you wind up doing about it, you certainly shouldn't just leave them ignorant of religion, whatever your personal views on it. If I'd had kids with my Jewish partner, I would have allowed him to take them to a reformed congregation if he wanted to, I wasn't a practicing Catholic, I was exploring spiritually, and probably would have had diverse ideas to share with them as well, but I would have been fine with it. But I guess then it also depends on how set each of you is that your way is the only "right" way too.

Answer 6

I am an Atheist and I am in love with a Christian. I see this being a problem in the future especially raising children but I hope we are able to get through it and reach a compromise.

Answer 7

With the help of a psychiatrist, it's now easy to treat schizoid delusional mental disorder so the religious superstition can be disposed of.
The kids will receive a good education and will not fall into the trap of delusion.

Answer 8

I personally would prefer to date a Christian....although sometimes I think its okay to date an Atheist. You see, my dad was an atheist.
I have a Somali muslim girlfriend who got married to an Italian catholic man........ they have been together for over 2 years. Everything seems okay so far.

Answer 9

I'm agnostic, my wife is Catholic.

She can believe whatever she likes, and she respects my beliefs (or lack there of). I have no problem with our kids being raised Catholic, as long as any questions they have are respected, and if they decide to leave the church then their decision to do so shall be respected as well.

Answer 10

I didn't have to deal with an aethiest, so this was easier for me. I am Catholic. My husband of forever was reared protestant. I did the child going to mass/church part, so our sons are Catholic. Actually, my husband never really attended church, but, his family claims to be of a particular protestant type (none of them go to church). Normally, I think what the mother believes is usually instilled into the children.