i stayed with ex-bf right now because im new to the place where i worked,i felt so awkward but his family offered me to stay with them so as a respect i grab it.then i observed that he still like me and so do i but i dont want to love him again considering all the painful things he did to me before....I wanna hate him but i cant,then my question is should i follow my heart which to love him again or follow my mind in which strongly says NO! im confused!
2007-05-07 05:19:18 · 27 answers · asked by bless deiannierra 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like you don't have relationship goals.
Bond with yourself ... set your goals: Where to live ... where to work ... how much to earn ... what do I want from a relationship ... what is healthy for my physical and mental being ... then post these goals on your bathroom mirror ... GET THE GOALS!!!
2007-05-07 05:28:56 · answer #1 · answered by Giggly Giraffe 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a girl but from my perspective do the second, go to her house and tell her how you feel or better still try to meet up with her somewhere. Make sure its romantic though and not in front of her parents. I have to be honest chances are she'll reject you so be prepared but now she will know the truth as soon as this happens leave and give her time to consider it. Don't bombard her with texts and things but if she says she doesn't want anything to do with you leave her alone. If she says she still has feeling for you or she will take you back.. Well you're on your own from this point
2016-05-17 10:05:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always, always follow your first mind,, if you don't you will probably regret it. You can be nice take the place to stay until you get on your feet but let your ex--- know that this is what you plan to do. make sure you pay your own way while there so that there are not hard feelings after you gone like you just used them. Then when your able move around as quickly as possible,, let him know that you want to be nothing more than friends if that is even possible if not then so what he made his bed,, and from the sounds of it you given him all the chances that he needed to figure out if he truly loved you back or not, let him know that you are valuable and your feelings are not meant to be hurt over> and over again,, >>love you as a person but,,, I cant do the relationship thing with u anymore.. if he doesn't want that then so what again,, cause he doesn't deserve that either.
move on don't look back at things that are not promised a lot of men like to play games like >> I wonder if I can still get her back,, then when they get u they don't know what to do with you.. soo don't waist another minute of your precious time..
good luck,,
peace and blessings.
2007-05-07 05:50:28 · answer #3 · answered by pumkin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think about it like this:
when you learn math, and you forget it, its generally really easy to learn it again right.
ITs the same thing with relationships. Love is a learned thing. You think you might have been over him and you probably were, but been around people who remind you of him and being around him could bring back the memories or feelings of what you WISH the relationship could've been.
Let me tell you that if you get back with him, you will end up dealing with the same problems just like you are dealing with the same good emotions.
Its your choice. If you do get back, dont get mad at him when he hurts you. Get mad at yourself because you already know him and that puts in an advantage. So expected the good with the bad.
2007-05-07 05:30:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People do change, not always but some do - maybe he has changed his ways... By staying with him you may have sent the wrong signal to him and you may just have to have a conversation with him about this.
Sometimes Love can't be controlled but your heart will lead you to places you can get hurt, if you have a strong head it won't lead you down the path..
2007-05-07 05:26:16 · answer #5 · answered by Interestedinknowing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going through the same situation i do love him in my heart but in my mind it says no and all my friends tell me not to fall in love with that jerk again. so this was my solution i tried dating other guys and doing things to keep occupied and now that i don't see him or hear him i am finally realizing that i only loved him from the heart because he was always in my life but now that he is gone i can finally move on and live my life maybe you should move away from him try something new.
2007-05-07 05:26:04 · answer #6 · answered by sk8ter_gurl_157 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if u dony want 2 be hurt again then u cant get back 2gether, and why do u want 2 put urself through that again? u should move on, if he says he has changed dont believe him, because in a year or 2 hes going to do the same thing, and put urself through it agian, ur better off with out him!!!!!
2007-05-07 05:27:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't need to hate him to move along with your life. And you don't need to stay with him because you have feelings for him either! If he mistreated you in away that is unforgivable to you, then in all honestly it is time to go separate lives. Your emotionally well-being isn't worth any person on this planet. And if your question your intentions most likely you already know the answer yourself!
2007-05-07 05:30:01 · answer #8 · answered by SDC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out of his family's home (jeez girl, what on earth were you thinking when you went there!) get out of his life....or pay the consequences. Sounds to me, you're a glutton for punishment, you want to have a bad time in a relationship. If I'm right, stay put, if I'm wrong -leave! Right like NOW!
2007-05-07 05:23:45 · answer #9 · answered by Ya-sai 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whatever he did to hurt you before, he's capable of doing it again, don't give him the time of day and find yourself a real man. You'll fall in love again and with someone who respects you. Tell him that you're not interested in a relationship with him and just want to remain friends, he'll have to get over it.
2007-05-07 05:24:38 · answer #10 · answered by moosies 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Get out on your own...If you stay there you will be right back where you were all over again. Once you break up you have no reason to stay there. Also seek some professional help. It can help you more then you believe.
2007-05-07 05:23:29 · answer #11 · answered by Lookin-2-Talk 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋