My mother in law wants to order a picture from a family wedding where my husband stood up and I did not. The picture is of him and his bridal party date alone. She said she wants to order it because she likes the bridesmaid dresses. My mother in law does not like me and has expressed this opinion to other family members. Is this appropriate and should I say anything to my husband or just leave it alone?
2007-05-07 05:18:23 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
dont sweat it...trust me , if she doesnt like u , you will have far bigger battles in the future. Choose them wisely. Let it go if she want the pic, let her have it....who cares...u probably dont like her either, huh?....
2007-05-07 05:26:16 · answer #1 · answered by foodaddict 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
She wants a picture of her son - he's all dressed up and just happens to be paired with someone in a nice dress. It's not a personal slight at you, even if she's slighted you in the past.
She's entitled to her feelings about her, and is free to dislike you just as you are free to dislike her. However, courtesy demands that you both respect the feelings of others, and keep the DISPLAY of this dislike to a minimum, and not make others feel uncomfortable or like they have to choose sides.
Try dealing with her directly, first, instead of putting your husband in the middle. Take her aside and tell her that although you know there is friction between you, and perhaps she doesn't care all that much for you personally... but that you both love her son / your husband very much, and you'd like it if you could both make a renewed effort to get along for his sake.
A little diplomacy will go a long way... after all, you're stuck with her.
2007-05-07 05:28:53 · answer #2 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was a family wedding, and the bridesmaid and your husband have never had any sort of intimate relationship, while she is probably doing it to irritate you, is not inappropriate. That is her son, so I can see why she would want a picture of him. It may be innocent, or her intentions may be malicious. If you decide to mention it to your husband, do it in passing, don't make a big deal out of it. What woman doesn't like a picture of her son all gussied up? Men usually look their best in a suit. On the other hand, if she doesn't have pics of the two of you on your wedding day on display, I would say something to him directly. Don't get too upset over it, some MILs are just miserable hags, and letting it get to you would be letting her win.
2007-05-07 05:22:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-30 13:34:52 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave it alone. What is exactly you are thinking is going to change or improve by you making a comment? How about a simple comment like "yeah that is a nice dress" and get on with your life. Don't feed into this crazy woman's lifestyle. You have your hubby that is all that matters.
2007-05-07 05:23:08 · answer #5 · answered by lily 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Leave it alone. What pictures she orders is her business. I know this is a blow to your pride, but you are just being sensitive. Focus on your new marriage and it's health and try not to start fights with the In-laws.
2007-05-07 05:24:53 · answer #6 · answered by Poppet 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Leave it alone, she can order any picture she wants for any reason.
You are not the "boss of her". Maybe you need to look at the reason she does not like you. I already have an idea.
2007-05-07 05:26:30 · answer #7 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would just leave it alone and ignore it completely just like I could care less. This would be the best way to make her feel like it didn't work out getting to you.
What goes around, comes around. Just bide your time.
2007-05-07 05:28:19 · answer #8 · answered by don n 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Trust me in-laws can destroy a marrige, it destroyed mine in less than a year. I am now remarried however, you need to let him know how it makes you feel and let him deal with his mother. I think it is ridiculous and inappropiate, however he is the one that needs to approach the subject, if you do she will just make it worse for you.
Your husband needs to talk to talk to her if this really bothers you, you have that right and if nothing else, she needs to know that it bothers him too.
2007-05-07 05:22:38 · answer #9 · answered by Interestedinknowing 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Is she going to put it out for display? If so, have your husband say something. My M-i-L still has my husband's prom picture on the wall - I think it's inappropriate, but my husband blows it off...
2007-05-07 05:34:07 · answer #10 · answered by KaseyT33 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋