What the hell.........Why do men speak in riddles?

Question

There is a man who I am really good friends with and have been for quite some time (years). We flirt quite alot, very much so actually, but nothing more has ever come of it. He told me the other day "you know I love you to death right" I blew it off (ie yea whatever) he said "no I am serious I love you to death" Well he did this in front of all his friends etc.................I was taken a little off gaurd and certainly didn't expect it. Was he serious or not? Was he referring to in love or I care for you as a friend?
I need mature answers..................Not teenagers, Please.

Answer 1

Hmmmmmm.......I might ask..."Why do women keep changing their minds ?" lol

You said "no teenagers" and also wanting mature answers".

Yet, it seems you yourself, are quite immature and using words a teenager would use also.

It seems you have a wonderful relationship with this guy and he wants to take it to the next level but you keep "blowing him off"...!

Teasing and flirting can result into a temptuous situation and does have its limits while also can it reveal a steadfast love that many never find.

Assuming you both are not teenagers, I don't think you even realize the gifts you share. If you can tease and flirt as such and enjoy eachother doing so then you can be sure it will be a lasting quality of youth because it is part of the personality factor.

Of course he was serious and saying so amidst his friends was his public declaration that he is serious and wants to move on to the next level. He was not saying it to them...he was saying it to YOU and making it known.

If you "blow him away" again, it may well be your last time doing it because all men do have limits and won't wait forever. This does not mean he loves you but only means he is serious about you and wishing a love will grow with you.

Now, isn't this much nicer than a hotpants jockey that promises love while his interests flow only thru his zipper...?

The next move is yours, so loosen up a little and test the waters. You have everything to gain and nothing to lose as he will always be a caring friend regardless of the outcome.

I wish you well !

Answer 2

What you are talking about here, as in the riddles and metaphor, is the way in which the esoteric language is revealed to us. The Light and the Wisdom is right before us all the time. It is freely available. It is simply that we are blind to it. The esoteric is hidden from us because it can only be revealed as we evolve Up to it's level of vibration. Our own vibration....our conscious awareness is an example of this, brings to us that which we can understand it any given moment. Therefore, when we come across Truths that we don't understand, those which others speak of but which we don't get, simply means that we haven't opened ourselves within (as in the open heart...of absolute non-judgement, for example) enough to comprehend. When this happens there is a barrier presented....a non-comprehension set in place, to protect the Power from being misused through ignorance of the unprepared mind. Esoteric information has its own language. It is a stepping up to vibrational/ conscious awareness which is required before one may proceed further into this perceived Unknown. This is termed Initiation. It is a maturing. It is a Must. One may not go further without having Passed the Initiation. This is purely because there is a Responsibility attached to Knowledge of this kind. Only those who have reached Inner maturity, to the level where the information is no longer riddle but is Understood, may use such information. Many come into this incarnation with a great deal of experience of having had Responsibility in matters that concerned large numbers of souls reaching their next Level. (I use the word level to simplify understanding). They are now in a position to assist others, to show them the Way, so that more may be empowered Within.

Answer 3

It could go either way. My best friend is a guy. we've known each other for 12 years, and have been extremely close most of the time. He tells me he loves me all the time, leaves it on my voice mails, etc. We are all flirty when we're together, whether other people are around or not. And we're 26 and 27 years old.

But you know, what, I know it's not the "I love you and want to marry you" kind of love. We know how we feel about each other. We're too good of friends to be more. It could ruin what we have, you know?

Maybe you just need to talk to your friend about it. The only way you'll ever know is to ask him.

Answer 4

lol...I could ask the same question about women!! From what you have posted here. One could surmise that he means that he loves you more then just a friend,But not enough to be a lover. My friend Mimi and i are like that. We are closer then friends ,And both of us are married.( Not to each other.) I would say our relationship is more like very close family then friends. Our family's have even gone on vacation together. Was he serious? I think so! You should take him aside and talk to him about it and let him know that his statement confused you , And you would like some clarification. I hope that helped, And Best of luck..

Answer 5

sounds like he doesn't have the guts to romantically ask you out, which is kinda understandable since you guys are already friends and your not just "some girl" he saw at the gas station. it might be weird for him to try and bridge the friends to boyfriend girlfriend gap. i bet he does want you as more than a friend, just give him some hints that you need him to let you know like a man. just say it.
guys don't speak in code.
i will say that girls will twist the things we say into things that we didn't mean, but that doesn't mean we speak in code.

your guy friend is just testing the water with you. if you react the right way he will prolly be more straight forward.

Answer 6

It is hard to tell. You really should ask him to clarify. I have female friends that I love but it is only the love of a friend and nothing more. This could be what he means. Or he could mean that he wants to take the friendship to another level. The only way to find out is to have him clarify what he meant.

Answer 7

If you want maturity, he shouldn't be blurting out his feelings in a large group of people.

Have a private converation with him about what he said especially if you want to take things to the next level. If you want to keep things as friends then never mention it to him again until he brings it up.

I'm leaning toward he loves you as his friend and might want to see if there is anything else there.

Answer 8

Some men dont know how to show their feelings at times and I do believe he meant he is in love with you. Spending time with someone over years and flirting and talking about different things in life sometimes brings people closer and makes them realize they are in love with that person. Are you in love with him? Ask him if he was meaning hes in love with you or just as friends. Dont be afraid to ask.

Answer 9

I would think he meant that I love you till the day we die. Not sure if he meant as friends or lovers. You should talk to him about if you are worried. You have been friends for a long time so you should be able to talk about this issue.

Answer 10

Well how do you feel about him ? you dont say ? do you like him or would you like to get to know him alot better ? in love that is ? do you value your friendship with him too much to take the chance of loosing that friendship if you were to have a relationship with him ? you sound like you might like to have a go with him ?