we don't have a problem with our age gap, but some people thinks he is too old for me.
2007-05-07 04:00:56 · 33 answers · asked by hazeleye45 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are of age - it is not important what others think.
The age difference may be difficult - and you may alienate people that have been close to you in the past. If you are prepared for that, and if you are happy with this man, then good luck. It is your choice, no one else's.
2007-05-07 04:04:49 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Indignant 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is nothing wrong with dating someone significantly older or younger than you, so long as both of you are of legal age. It can certainly be interesting first.
But I have dated women both very much younger than myself and much older, and what I have found that after a time, it is not the differences in our ages, but the differences in our cultures that got in the way. What I mean is, with a 20 year difference, the kind of music, television shows and movies that I was interested in and liked were different from hers.
In one case, my favorite movie for a time was rated R and my girlfriend was only 7 when it came out. In a case where the woman was older, she liked listening to music by artists I had never heard of and didn't like.
So, enjoy it while you can, but remember, it might not last.
2007-05-07 04:09:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yeah. It really is. I'm sorry. I think it would be different matter if you were 25. Someone in their forties is in such a different place to a person who is 21. Essentially they want to be your age, but they have learnt so much more about manipulating the world that they suck the life out of the younger people, even without thinking they are doing it.
Love your life. Don't let others live through you.
2007-05-07 04:07:45 · answer #3 · answered by Cendrie 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I hate to be a devils advocate, but here is my own personal experience. I am 42 years of age, and I would rarely date a woman any younger than 30 no matter how attractive or desirous. The reason? Life experience. At 42 years of age, I have experienced loss, gain, life, death, and other things that are only experienced with a man of my age. Like Dr. Phil says, "you can't know what you can't know." to date a woman ten years of younger than I am, she would have to be very mature.
2007-05-07 04:16:12 · answer #4 · answered by Raptor 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It isn't "wrong" to date him. It may be hard for others to understand, but if you love him then don't worry about it. If you don't care about the age then that is all that matters. never let other people make you feel like who you love is wrong. Honestly, the age difference would be too much for me. Then again, love has no age. Ignore those who question or oppose your relationship w/ him. Just be happy! : )
2007-05-07 04:09:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
is it wrong? no.. is it right? usually no.. here's the deal.. if you are just dating.. just having fun.. then this is just a learning experience.. so fine.. learn away.. in the end even if I told you you shouldn't do this you would anyway and would still have to learn for yourself.. so remember that you are learning.... now to the problem. (I just have to:P)
age is just a number.. but people that are very far apart will be chemically at different stages of life.. he may be about to hit his mid life crisis.. heck you may be his mid life crisis.. he may feel too old for kids.. or may be looking to have kids right now.. you may not be ready for that (either way)... statistically he has about 25 years of life left... you have close to 50... things of this nature are what the problem is..
in the end this will be like any other choice you have to make in life.. there will be both good and bad that comes from this.. you have to decide if the good that comes from it outweighs the bad.
I wish you luck
2007-05-07 04:09:37 · answer #6 · answered by pip 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think there are huge issues to come with that age gap; some that wouldnt even show up for another decade or so. If at all possible I would move on.
2007-05-07 04:05:32 · answer #7 · answered by barthebear 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Would it happen to be his kids that are your age that have the problem?
That is my issue with my mother (47) and her boyfriend (27) that is the same age as me!
If it were not my parent I wouldn't care but this guy is my age and I'm sure only cares about one thing! You can't tell me when she's in her 50's (IN A FEW YEARS!) and he's in his 30's he isn't going to be looking for someone younger!!
2007-05-07 04:13:52 · answer #8 · answered by Heather 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, I think it's too big a gap. You are either a very mature female or he is a very immature male. However, the decision is yours of course. If you get along great, then be friends. I would not have sexual relations though unless he married you, which I kind of doubt he would do.
2007-05-07 04:05:06 · answer #9 · answered by VW 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
welllll... it's weird. but in the overall picture, there's nothing wrong with it honestly. It's just not really socially acceptable. Neither is being gay, or a minority. So if you're willing to break a social norm and tolerate people talking about you behind your back... go for it. if you really like him. If not just think hard if he's worth it. I mean you wouldn't be asking if you were certain, so just make a decision. Is he worth more than being socially weird, or is your social well being more important than him. It's not really an easy decision though it seems like it would be.
2007-05-07 04:05:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋