she wants me to have a church wedding because if you have your wedding outside god will not be there. in her church only people who are pregnant get married outside. but im not pregnant. i just want an outdoor garden princess wedding. she said she wont attend if i dont have it in a church. what should i do.
2007-05-07 03:58:30 · 42 answers · asked by Ethan's Mama 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You should do what you want, because it is your wedding. You need to do what will make you happy. If you're mother is that big of a ***** that she won't come to your wedding because it's outside, then you really don't want her there. I personally think she's bluffing, because there aren't many mothers that would really miss their daughter's wedding.
As for the god bit, doesn't she believe that god is omnipresent? That's what the bible claims, is it not? If so, then by definition, god will be there. Really, If you believe in god and believe that god created everything, wouldn't you think that god would be happy that you want to get married in a place where you are surrounded by his creations? Wouldn't that make sense?
Hopefully, you'll only be doing this once, so you owe it to yourself to not cater to anyone but yourself and your fiancee while planning your wedding. This is your day, and you need to do what makes you happy.
2007-05-07 05:10:33 · answer #1 · answered by eviltruitt 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Its hard to have it both ways..Have you thought about having the actual wedding inside and the reception outside? That way you can please your mom and still have an outdoor princess themed wedding? Some people are still very old fashioned in the way they do things and their beliefs. I personally would think that of any place God would always be present. Especially outside in the open air with a full view of the heavenly skies. Go with what you want in the end. Your wedding day is suppose to be the best day of your life so make it breath taking.
2007-05-07 04:03:59 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs. Cavazos 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First of all GOD is everywhere all the time. God never leaves you.
Second her throwing a fit over an outside wedding could be the beginning of a far deeper issue, Like trying to control your marriage. Put your foot down now. This is you and your fiance's wedding, My sister in law tried the same crap and we kindly moved forward and if she comes great if now oh well. My wedding is going to take 20 minutes for peat's sake. and my reception is inside.
So have your outside wedding but have an inside reception. Maybe she will go for that. But this is yall's day not hers but remember this woman is going to be your mother-in-law soon and she is going to be in your life for ever. So if you start letting her push you around now she will do it until ends time.
2007-05-07 04:43:26 · answer #3 · answered by Lizzie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter where you get married, just as long as you love each other. God doesn't ONLY live in the church. He is EVERYWHERE with you. Ask your priest/pastor if he will marry you at the garden (or wherever you decide). Usually they will accommodate if you'd like to do an outdoor ceremony. Don't let your mother's stubbornness affect your plans. Do what makes you and your fiance happy. It's your day.
2007-05-07 04:14:38 · answer #4 · answered by Renee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is there any way to compromise? Have a priest or minister officiate the ceremony?
Here is my answer to those who believe you have to be married in a church for it to be valid:
The God(dess) creature nature, man created church. No matter what your religion, God is everywhere. He created everything, right? The earth, moon, stars? If anything, IMO, a ceremony out in the great wide open is much more spiritual, and closer to (the) God(s) than a ceremony within the confinements of a stuffy building built by men.
2007-05-07 04:03:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you insist on having it outdoors, there you have two options, convince your mother that God will be there, or have the wedding without your mom there.
One thing you can say to convince your mom is that if God wasn't there, then you and your husband-to-be wouldn't be getting married.
Another option would be to have a wedding indoors, a smaller wedding, to please your mother, then have another, your fantasy wedding outdoors.
Another thing you could to, just have one indoors, and then on your one year anniversary, renew your vows outdoors.
Or, would she buy it if you had a "church" built, in other words, have a frame put up, with a cross on top of it, to signify a church, but have it where it would still be outdoorsy.
If you are having an outdoor wedding, do you have a back up plan if it rains on that day?
Good luck, and I hope you and your mom can work this out. It would be a shame that she doesn't attend your wedding day. It would be like you not attending her funeral because she wanted to be buried above ground, instead of below ground.
2007-05-07 04:09:23 · answer #6 · answered by George P 6 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Why do Mothers get this way with their daughters. She is trying to push her beliefs on you and this isn't right. You need to do what you want regardless. This is you Wedding and not hers. Remind her of that. God is everywhere. She needs to read her Bible. Ask her to show you where in the Bible it states that you have to get married in a church? People in the Bible days before they built the Taberbernacles were married. Where did they get married? This is just pure foolishness.
2007-05-07 04:23:07 · answer #7 · answered by hsmommy06 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is your wedding, do as you please. You are getting married because you are a consenting adult. They keep telling me that no matter where I am, god will help me if I pray to him. If you have to absolutely go to a church for your wedding, then god is a prisoner and cannot do anything outside the church making him not a god.
2007-05-07 04:12:59 · answer #8 · answered by THCAddict 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to have an adult conversation with your mother and explain how completely cruel that is and how damaging her refusal to attend your wedding will be to your relationship.
God isn't everywhere? That is obscene to me--doesn't the Bible start off with the story of God making everything on earth? Isn't God omnipresent? That means he is everywhere-including at outdoor garden weddings.
2007-05-07 04:12:58 · answer #9 · answered by melouofs 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can have your wedding outside, but have it blessed by your church minister or have the church minister perform the wedding rituals with just you and your husband and two witnesses and then you have the "ceremony" outside like you wish. If you ask me though your mom has it wrong. God is everywhere outside (just look at the brilliant blue of the sky, and the fluffly white clouds, and the gorgeous colors of the flowers, and the life everywhere (from itsy bitsy ladybugs to raccoons and birds (especially bluejays and cardinals with their brilliant colors) and the air we breathe - that's where God is every day (not just on sundays or for weddings or funerals). That's where my bible tells me my God is. Good luck to you and God Bless your marriage.
2007-05-07 04:23:19 · answer #10 · answered by tersey562 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋