Okay here is the situation a male aquantance of mine also my sisters ex.bf who has a girlfriend for about12 months they were friends before they started dating so you would think the relationship was strong but she is possesive uses his cell more than he does, keeps track of everything, and practically lives with him .Anyway he has cheated on her with his ex.gf my sister 3-4 times.My sister is a very sweet/ nice/book smart but naive person(she is still in love with him)! he was her first love and everything else.He told her not to call his cell knowing she would anyway plus he always calls back.To top matters of the last time they had sex did not use a condom she is on the pill but is very forgetful about taking it.She does not understand that his gf would come after her and hurt her if she found out!She also acts like pregnancy will never happen to her !How can i talk to her about this in a way she would listen? She is 18 but very immature.
2007-05-07 03:48:28 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
My sister is not responsible at all she acts like a 16 yr old and she has thus far not listened to my warning advice hints.
2007-05-07 03:55:30 · update #1
This is going to be hard to do, but back off and let her make her own mistakes. She is obviously not wanting advice, and is probably in the mind set that she knows everything and has the entire situation under control. Just be there for her when she needs you.
2007-05-07 04:01:19 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Instantkarma♥♫ 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds as though she is living for the moment and not the future. You can tell her all you want to but ultimately she will have to make her own decisions. A wise man once said "Wise men do not need advice and fools don't take it". All you can do is make sure that she has all the first hand knowledge and experiences that she can to help her make an informed decision. Talk to a counselor of some kind or try to find one of those life like baby dolls that cry all the time unless you insert a pin from a bracelt that you wear and make her take care of it for a week or two. Also, try to find some one with first hand knowledge to help her realize that what she is doing is dangerous because you never know how people react when they find out that they have been emotionally violated by some one cheating on them. Ask her how she would feel. Ultimately she will have to let go. she is too young and naive to understand that if he cheats on his GF with her...he will cheat on her with some one.
2007-05-07 04:31:37 · answer #2 · answered by zimzigger 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Speaking from my past experience, we will just do what our minds think is okay at that time. Don't worry i am no longer that way. Since i had my little one i have changed a lot. She is not going to look at it as you are. At this point she is happy and regardless of the out come she is getting what she desires. To be honest there is really nothing that can be done. My mom use to always tell me i should not do some thing but i did. i could not learn from her mistakes i had to learn from mine. All i can tell you is to keep warning her but if she does not care you are talking to a brick wall.
2007-05-07 04:14:20 · answer #3 · answered by liz 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get your parents involved. Tell your Mom and Dad that your sister is being extremely lax at birth control and let them lecture her. I know it's not nice to rat on her, but just think about what the atmosphere in your house will be like once she "accidently" gets pregnant!
Nuff said.
2007-05-07 03:59:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I agree with telling your parents.Better she should be mad at you for a while than for her to be pregnant.
2007-05-07 04:09:16 · answer #5 · answered by thirsty mind 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋