My daughter is almost five.
2007-05-07 03:47:10 · 5 answers · asked by socmum16 ♪ 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
If you are a parent who often says "Good job!", stop! Saying "good job" is an extrinsic motivator. If you are a parent who says "good job," your daughter will only care what others think about her instead of caring what she thinks about herself. Instead, say things like "You did that by yourself! You can run super fast! Look how high you can climb! You got dressed without any help! You worked on that for a long time! You used so many colors on you picture!" These phrases are GREAT confidence builders! I do this as a teacher, and I see amazing results in my students when it comes to building self-esteem!
Offering choices also helps boost self-esteem. "Should we have chicken or pasta for dinner? Should we walk or ride bikes to the park? Do you want to wear the green shirt or the blue one?" Children who are offered choices feel very powerful.
Have her help with "adult type" activities. Your child can help you with dinner, making snacks, cleanup, or shopping for groceries. She’ll love it!
By using these techniques, she is likely to gain lots of self-esteem!
2007-05-07 08:57:30 · answer #1 · answered by marnonyahoo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Use lots of encouragement. In fact, if you find yourself being critical or corrective of her behavior, use a 10:1 ratio and find ten positive encouragements for every correction you do. That is important to emphasize the positive things she does. Give her tasks that you know she can accomplish, that are not too hard, and encourage her and assist as needed. When she completes them, heap on the praise.
Let her know that you love and value her. Tell her how unigue she is and how "special." Have pictures/photos of her in her room, and tell her how unique and how special her "hair is or her "nose" and other things. This helps her feel unique and special.
2007-05-07 11:16:02 · answer #2 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen to her... give her positive feedback... you do not have to agree if everything she says but give her a reason why .. smile at her... hold her and hug her ...there is no such thing as yoo much... ask her to choose some of the activities you /she does.. involve her in decision making as is possible...always is hard....give her complimentsnot only about how she looks but also about good things she does for someone... but do not over do it either as you want her to be strong enough to take the knocks of life too... eg.when she is upset you can gently give her your feedback if she had any part in a quarrel with a friend and what she can do to rectify it....best of luck... also be honest with her... kids know hwen you are not
2007-05-07 11:02:34 · answer #3 · answered by p M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Allow her to do things on her own, like pick out her clothes. Let her help you do things like cook, clean, etc. Praise her, not for every little thing but when she accomplishes something new or does a good job. Give her hugs and tell her you love her. Let her know she can do anything she puts her mind to.
2007-05-07 11:53:54 · answer #4 · answered by angela 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She will be like you.
If you fret in front of the mirror every morning saying self deprecating things like, "I'm too fat for this." or " I wish I was prettier".... etc then she will be the same way.
Even silly comments like, "I'm not beautiful before my makeup"
She will learn these behaviors from her female role model, you.
So, tell her she is beautiful, smart, amazing, creative, good big sister....etc etc etc.
And she will be.
2007-05-07 11:05:51 · answer #5 · answered by Katie C 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋