The the new age of instent messageing and profiles and everyone "dateing" on line why is everyone so nagative about long distence relationships not working out. I have one that is tough I must admit, but its working so far. i guess you really have to keep the expections low and be real about what goes on when you are not on line talking . And say you have been talking for almost a year, is it ok to meet them someplace not so public? for the first time. Cause everyone says to meet in a plubic place. Or is this just opening up more doors to dangrerous relationships?
2007-05-07 03:36:10 · 9 answers · asked by nicole l 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
never ever meet someone for the first time in a place that isn't public. That is dangerous and as much as you think you can trust somebody, you will never know that until you meet them. You've already waited a year to meet them, have a little more patience and meet them for the first time somewhere public then you can take it from there. The number one priority is that you are safe, don't risk something just because you think it might be ok.
2007-05-07 03:48:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The meeting in a public place thing is for safety reasons. Online people can say anything they want to. I could say I look like a supermodel and have giant boobs. How would you know this isn't true?!? I could really be a crazy person that wants to kill all men.
Now, for your relationship. Nobody says all long distance relationship are bad, but the odds are against you. Also, you do admit it is tough - just because it is long distance. If you guys care so much about each other why don't you move closer together?!? Or are you not willing to make that commitment?
2007-05-07 10:43:55 · answer #2 · answered by binemaeuschen22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On line relationships CAN work. Of course meet someplace public. I met my husband on line and we just celebrated our 11th wedding anniversary this past Saturday. He was from Australia, so, I met him in Chicago at the airport. You can't get more public than that! After talking on line for a year though, I would think if they had a hidden agenda, you would have known by now. Try and spend lots of time speaking on the phone as well. Reflect back over the past year and try and recall if they have kept their word about different tings. If they have, then you truly have a great chance of being a success story. Good luck to you.
2007-05-07 10:46:40 · answer #3 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's definately opening up more doors to dangerous relationships. So what if you know that person for a full year? What if they say they are 22 and they are really 73? Do you never watch that show on TV about the people going on and posing as kids, and having the sexual predators go to the house, and then they get busted? This sh*t really happens. A online relationship -so you think- may work, but only for a period of time. How do you know that one person is being just as faithful as you? How do you know that they aren't "faking"? What if you desperately needed them one day, and they couldn't be there because they lived so far away. How are you ever going to see them? Do you really think that your relationship online is going to be the same in person? Definately not. People change, they have different sides of them. All I have to say, is that this is JUST MY OPINION. Do what you want, I just hope you, amongst everyone else who meets people online, stay safe.
2007-05-07 10:42:20 · answer #4 · answered by jesa ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They don't work out because your online persona is only a fraction of your real one. You can't see the emotion on their face when they talk and you don't know how they react in different situations. Regardlses of how long you've known them you should meet in a public place because it's safer and because you can see how they act in a public environment. In my experience, long distance and online relationships never work. People are always different than what they seem to be. Plus, you might be different from what they expect because you're only showing your good qualities. There is no opportunity to show your bad qualities, so how can you make a legitimate character assesment without really know the true person?
2007-05-07 10:41:20 · answer #5 · answered by Bood 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Personally, I don't have experience with this. I think spending so much time online then in the real world is keeping you from real companionship. I met my wife at work (more traditional). I have some friends out of state that I talk to online, but I know them in person as well.
2007-05-08 11:19:50 · answer #6 · answered by Your #1 fan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on the situation where you met on line and how much you have entangled him with your life including his parents and yours, that is also essential in an long distance relationship.I would not be biased on where it happened the important thing here is where it leads and where is it going to end!There has been good and bad endings in every relationships , just keep your eyes open and be wary!All the best!
2007-05-07 10:42:26 · answer #7 · answered by cool_honeybabe 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make public and if you can have a friend near by. You don't really no him at all if all it has been by email.
2007-05-07 10:39:40 · answer #8 · answered by jay_d_skinner 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i could do but some people couldnt cause they need stuff. but if u talk all the time thin u could but me yes i could
2007-05-07 10:39:48 · answer #9 · answered by mandy m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋