2007-05-07 03:20:26 · 33 answers · asked by gEmInI 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
don't spoil the fantasy
2007-05-07 03:22:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
No one can tell you if it will work or not. The question is: "Do you want to explore it?" If you answer, "yes," exercise caution and move forward with no expectations.
Unfortunately, the Internet is the perfect place for predators and posers. It is so easy to hide, you see. A lot of these guys are married and/or not fit for human consumption.
It's a numbers game really. Out of one hundred guys, perhaps one is who he says he is. Then you may or may not be attracted. I think there are better ways to meet people. At the same time, there are those who find love on the Internet.
If it does not work with your MSN pal, then it is time to get up off your chair, go out and meet people that old fashioned way. You learn so much knowing people within the context of their lives.
I wish you well.
2007-05-07 05:53:38 · answer #2 · answered by Dove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, have you ever met this person in real life or is there a chance you will ever meet him? If not, it's just fun and nothing serious anyway. You don't know the person and just project something into him that probably isn't there. You might be very disappointed getting to know him in real life. If this whole thing is getting to hard for you, I would stop because you are going to miss out on a real relationship just to wait for a virtual guy.
Now, if you know him or could meet him in real life, I would go for it just to see whether your impressions of him can hold up in real life. However, don't go alone to the first date. Do a double date kind of thing and don't ditch the friends. Just for safety!!
Oh, and if meeting is possible right away, you can always call.
2007-05-07 03:29:06 · answer #3 · answered by binemaeuschen22 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Until you meet the person in real life, I would slow down on the emotions. You have No idea what he is even like on the other side of that computer screen! He might be an 85 year old man just flirting with you. Maybe he's unhappy in his marriage and is looking for someone to cheat with. Or ( heaven forbid.) He is some pervert pedophile that plans on kidnapping and killing you after abusing you. Until you meet the person you will never know!! If you do make plans to meet him , Make sure it is in a public place and bring a friend as well for your own safety. Best of luck..
2007-05-07 03:30:54 · answer #4 · answered by master_escrimador 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You'll never know unless you try it...and you only live once.
My only advice is to be careful, make sure he is who he says he is and that the first time you meet him face to face its in somewhere public.
I've had many relationships off msn and they have worked out fine, my ex i met off msn...we were together for 20 months and it was special.
So no, don't stop, just go with the flow
2007-05-07 03:26:57 · answer #5 · answered by Yellow 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Omg, thats happening to me too...
The only way it would work is if you guys meet up - i didnt start anything with the guy i fell for because the distance between us is ridiculous, we wouldnt be able to see each other very often at all.
If you can meet up with him (be safe by the way) and he likes you back, why not try something...it happens all the time; people meet and fall in love over msn!
2007-05-07 03:25:22 · answer #6 · answered by Miss Terious 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello
hi i am in the same situation..i have fallen for a girl in my area 10 mins from my house..who i meet online...we have known each other for almost 4 months now...and we have spoken on the phone to each other all the time.. and even on msn.. she has asked me before if i could meet up with her..and i just ignored it and just moved to next question...and now we have fallen apart from each other and it really hurts me cause i have really enjoyed talking to her and meetin her...
so what i'm trying to say is hurry up and meet the person..cause if like me you will miss your chance to try and have a go at it..but be carefull if you meet him before..atleast talk on phone so you know its a boy and not a girl..
but i hope it works out for you as it did not for me..but i will keep trying cause i really like her...
Good Luck
x x x xx x
2007-05-07 03:31:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i recently fell 4 an msn contact and it turned out that he was a complete looser! he was really nice on msn but when i saw him in person he was a player and was all talk! so i personally would leave it alone.
2007-05-07 03:50:23 · answer #8 · answered by burn baybee burn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave it at nice to chat with, but don't go and ruin it by meeting. Nothing good will come of it and not to mention all the dangers at there.
Does he use his real name for email or is it just a handle. If you can't say who you really are and hide behind a handle you are only biting off trouble.
2007-05-07 03:26:56 · answer #9 · answered by jay_d_skinner 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont express your feelings if she doesnt live at least 20 miles from you...internet romances are a waste of time...you may never see this person, it's easy to fall in love with someone over the net, you are just basically expressing feelings, sharing things, joking around, it's nothing that you are sharing personally, that's what really matters, having real human contact...you might be wasting your time, energy, money even too...so i wouldnt really bother telling her how you feel if you are never really going to see her in person...find someone in your circle of friends or in your community that you can fall in love with and tell them in person...it might be hard or not the same to meet someone in real life bc it's different, they are more judgemental and vain, but at least it's real...emailing, Instant messages provide a comfort to not get hurt, to really get to know someone but at the same time it's all a fantasy, you are creating or imagining this perfect person in your mind, but you really have to know them in person to prove this...before that just keep it simple...relax, have fun, she's just your internet pen-pal...If you try to take it further, you'll only end up stressing yourself, hurting yourself and that other person emotionally...you are basically just playing and acting on emotions, there is nothing physical or tangible from any of this, instead of spending time making "imaginary" friends online and falling in love with them...spend your time instead joining a club, doing something that you are good at and enjoy and give your best, focus on that and this will attract other people to you and you can have a real relationship...
2007-05-07 03:40:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know... most of these people are telling you to watch out, or don't do it, wake up...
But I have been in an Internet relationship for a few years, it is working out. Its a bit harder then a face to face, you don't get to see them, you don't get to hang out, but its a better way to get to know someone.
Ask yourself these questions:
Do you know the full name?
Do you know age and birth date?
Do you know any of his relatives, have you met any of his friends on line?
Has he ever invited you to visit?
Has he ever made you feel uncomfortable?
Does he ask you personal questions?
Really, there is no more danger then dating someone irl, save that you might see an irl person more often, and know their habits. introduce him to your friends, people you trust to tell you what he says, if it might threaten you.
2007-05-07 03:34:55 · answer #11 · answered by peace.ofmind 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋