Just wondering because me and my boyfriend have been together since last spring (2006) and he keeps bothering me about having sex with him, I told him I was trying to save myself until I got married, but he said if I gave him a bl*wjob that I would still be a virgin. Is that true ??
2007-05-07 02:08:00 · 48 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
lol... technically... yes, you'd still be a virgin... by definition a virgin is someone who has not had actual intercourse with another person. while a BJ would constitute ORAL sex; I don't believe it would take virginity.
2007-05-07 02:15:43 · answer #1 · answered by jbone907 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes. If you gave your bf a bj, you would still be a virgin. A virgin is someone who has not had sexual intercourse. If you had anal or vaginal sex, you would no longer be a virgin. As far as what your bf told you, make sure it is something you really want to do, and are not being pressured to do. Also, make sure that your bf does not have any STD's, and if he acts funny about that, it MAY BE an indication that he may have one. You can get several STD's even from giving a guy a ********. Make sure you are mature enough to handle what he is asking you to do. If you are not ready to do that, then do not. If you need furthur advice, and do not feel comfortable talking to your parents, talk to a priest, a guidance counselor, or call Planned Parenthood. They can give you advice and support, and they are a free phone call. Check out www. plannedparenthood.org for info. too.
2007-05-07 02:22:24 · answer #2 · answered by noviaskye 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
a bl*wjob is oral sex. Oral SEX. Oral SEX is SEX.
Any guy trying to pressure you into doing something you might not be ready for is a jerk.
Think about it this way - if you really are saving yourself for marriage, do you want to have done in on a technicality, or do you want to embrace the spirit of the idea. The spirit of the idea is to only be sexually intimate with your husband.
If you find ways to be sexually intimate with other people who aren't your husband without technically losing your virginity, have you really done anything to save yourself?
What will your future husband say? What would you say to your husband if he said he saved himself for you, except for all the other types of sexual contact he thought he could get away with.
Be true to yourself. Don't be pressured.
Best of luck!
2007-05-07 02:18:55 · answer #3 · answered by Karla 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No. It isn't true. He is just saying that so you wont feel bad about doing it. Stick to your guns, and your beliefs. If he truly loves you, he will wait. Simple as that. Giving a bl** job is not the same as having sex. If it doesn't go in where God intended, it isnt sex. Dont let him try to convince you that it is. It could be considered as oral sex, but it isn't the same not at all.
2007-05-07 02:15:17 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yeah you would technically still be a virgin, but you would turn into a bl*wjob ho. Don't do, if he respects you and everything else he will leave you alone and be happy with the simple kisses you give him.
2007-05-07 02:17:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What a jerk your boyfriend is. Tell him that by sticking to your values, you feel better about yourself. If you give him a bl**job, he feels better about himself... at your expense.
Despite what that hound dog ex-Prez Bill Clinton says, giving a bl**job or receiving one is having sex.
You can technically be a virgin but have had every manner of object thrust into your private area and still say, 'At least it wasn't a penis!' Yes, right.
You can be technically a virgin but have had your boyfriend basically f**k your face every day for a month.
Tremendously romantic, this boyfriend of yours. I'd lose him, fast.
Find someone who cares more about your feelings about yourself and the goals you have set for yourself.
2007-05-07 02:20:15 · answer #6 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
NO. if a man's body part goes inside of your's you are NOT a virgin anymore, if he really loves you he will not try to prerssure you into doing somthing that you dont want to do. Your making the right choice on waiting, dont let anyone get in your way!
stay strong! =D
2007-05-07 02:35:45 · answer #7 · answered by mAnDiE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lol yes that is true u will still be a virgin but the definetion of a virgin is a girl who hasnt been penetrated by a boy yet and a boy who hasnt penetrated a girl yet =P
2007-05-07 02:15:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
a virgin is one dat has no sexual experience or encounter with the opposite sex. after a bj u re literally considered a virgin cos there is no penetration to the vagina but bibilcally u re not cos u now know a man.
2007-05-07 02:17:56 · answer #9 · answered by joddie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I consider a virgin to be someone who hasn't had any sexual encounter. If you do that for your boyfriend, then it won't be long until he takes it further. Go with what you feel and don't let him pressure you. Save yourself, save your self esteem and your respect for yourself. Don't do it. You won't be able to say your a virgin without adding on "but I did ______" and that my friend does not sound like a virgin.
2007-05-07 02:20:19 · answer #10 · answered by hazyseptember 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋