Do you think arranged marriages are a good idea?

Question

I don't mean the ones where the parents FORCE their son/daughter to marry a particular person I mean the ones where the folks try to set their kids up with some family friend etc

Answer 1

arranged marriage still happens to this day, due to culture and tradition however in this day in age, divorce rate has sky rocketed perhaps it is due to this exact pratice...
i strongly believe that your soulmate is an individual that you personally connect with and not someone that is arranged for you.
many things go in a life long marriage that is why you must choose the best partner for you. regardless of race, creed, religion...

so to sum it all up.. aranged marriage is stll active today but a life long marriage needs more connection and more then just a simple arranged plan!

Answer 2

Yes and No. Forced marriages I'm against. But what you are talking about is the parents setting you up on a date and telling you if you like this person we have no problem if you two get married. That sounds okay, and I don't see a problem with that.

It is my understanding that arranged marriages have the same failure rate as love marriages. I think if more people married with their head (marry for compatibility reasons) rather than with their heart there would be less divorce. Just because you love someone doesn't mean they are good marriage material. (been there, done that)

I have been married for 7 years, and I didn't marry for love. I married for compatibility. I do love my husband (deeply), but that came after we married. This practice is common in my family, and I understand the majority of the people in the USA would not find this appealing.

Answer 3

I would say yes and no, though I thought you were referring to the arranged ones as in because of background/religion.
I would say yes to these and where parents sort it with fam,ily and friends as in your question (if it's what the bride and groom want) as the chances are the backgrounds will be very similar as will tastes and what the couple want from each other. Also the relationship will be based on friendship, and hopefully love rather than just lust.
I also think the couple woiuld be more willing to work at it, rather than just divorce the minute one disagrees with the other.
However I do believe we should be free to pick our own partner, and it is rarely the one our parents would have chosen as they go by their likes and dislikes so for that reason I say no. Only we know our real needs (being cared for, dominated, father, overbearing etc..) and despite what people say that will determine who we chose as a partner.

Answer 4

No harm in trying to do this but if this happens and a couple fall in love then it is NOT an arranged marriage. If it is to suit financial reasons etc then there is little likliehood of the marriage working and would no doubt cause grief all round and longstanding friendships possible lost.

Answer 5

Love still can happen if you atre introduced by your parents, but in my opinion its better to find your soul mate yourself. I would worry my husband was out cheating with girls of his choice after we were married, because there is something more "desired" if your partner wants you rather than it being encouraged. I would want to feel the sexual side was important aswel, not just that it was practical for the two families. However live and let live.

Answer 6

I think that parents and friends are a good source of help and advise when seeking a marriage partner. They are able to add an objective perspective. If they provide an introduction to someone they think might be a good match then all well and good. If it's forced then I'd have reservations.

Answer 7

As long as there is no pressure there is no harm. Why not met the person and judge for yourself?
Mostly its just harmless but when parents try guilt their kids into choosing a relationship then its going too far!

Answer 8

No ..u r wrong
I accept arranged marriages goes well when both guy and gal r accepted to it...
Forcable marriages r not good
But comparing to these dirty datings and leaving them having 100 women and 100 guys is really s h i t comparing to Arranged
It would be 100 % far better than this sh i t datings....
u will have parents support
they will tell u how life is...
they will support financially also if need..or advise everything

Answer 9

In my case i am assigned to marry a Prince of my town. This is nothing new with most countries in Africa and it sometimes works out well. Depending on the individual, the other option is to run away and break all links but where can i go to ?

Answer 10

well it depends on how both people are like but sometimes it is a really big failure if u arrange the marriage coz u dont get 2 knw the other person much and u will only c their different part of bahaviour later !!!!!!!!

so i prefer love marriage where u get 2 knw the person reallly well and it is much better if ur parents agree 2 it as well !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!