Strange 'straight' behaviour please explain............?

Question

As part of my work on male gender & sexuality with straight men, when I brought up the issue of man's sexual need for men with young unmarried men, who had not yet 'established' their manhood (since they'd not reproduced as yet)............ they were extremely open to the idea & say they all have such feelings. They refused to label men who had sex with men as 'homosexual' even if it was exclusive (since homosexual in my society means a non-man, a transgendered, a ****** (i.e. one who takes in anally/ orally). Of course they also make advances towards me............. that's the done thing.

But when I raised the issue with married men, some of them (though they're a minority, others just remain silent) would say all kinds of derogatory things about male-male sexual need........ even call them 'homosexuals' ( a great term of abuse in our society) but still make advances towards you.

Of course the advances are made in a disguised/ indirect manner.

What's the deal here?

Can u explain?

Answer 1

Dost what are you trying to prove? That homosexuality is actually the norm? I'm afraid again the issue is so much more complex then that. Your still doing the samething the strait people do and thats put sexuality into a black and white arena. Also you need to be careful representing a case study like that. Or rather not doing a proper case study and then using that information like it is a proper case study. Also, there is no way in heck that every male you talk to made adcances toward you! I mean were did you go a gay club? Come on. Also your missing the really problem with human sexuality or rather the fact that sexuality is something that matures over time. Weather your sleeping with this person or this person doesn't matter, true sexual experience comes from ones ability to relate with their personal experience of the sex. This makes it posibly for someone to have a tree fetish, sexuality is just that colorful. So you were darn right in the other post about history/sexuality but come on these people are not going to bite on this stuff! Even if they could understand your point there not going to know enough about there own personal experience with the subject to give you and conjecter or feedback. Whats this really come down to? Because driving the point that we are natural met to be homosexual is not going to sit right with people in any day and age after christianity..... also darn you some people just are not going to enjoy having another guy suck them off or bang them anally. I really have never had a fanasy about it, yet I'm able to have close intimate relationships with guys.... hmmmm wow you can have close intimate relationships without sex? wow what a concept! How does that calculate into this?