were 14, nd had oral but he keeps pushing for more..
then he will suddenly start fighting..
i dunno if i shuld have sex with him or is it to early and to far?
plz advise me
2007-05-06 23:26:13 · 13 answers · asked by frizzhopalong 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh my god! You guys are still 14 yet you do oral?!?! Anyways, sorry for my my reaction... i was just SHOCKED. lol.
Let's be serious now. First of all, what you kids are doing is already considered to be a form of sex. I guess your referring to have an intercourse/sex with him? HELL NO! Don't give it up to that senseless guy. Keep your values strong! One main reason is that you guys are TOO young. Besides, don't tell me that your guy "loves" you. Real love does not recquire the proof of having sex. He should not PUSH / FORCE you to do what you KNOW is WRONG. Though this may sound aweful, it seems that he's just using you. Overtime, you might probably pile to the girls he'd "used" for "experience" and not pile to the women he loved. And, if he really "loves" you...he should know how to respect your being as a young woman who has a GOOD future ahead of her. I also guess that at the young age of 14, true love is still far ahead. Don't lose your virginity until the right time comes ( marriage ) to the right man.
Having sex now is NEVER COOL as it seems to be. Sex is a serious thing. At your young age, you may receive terrible consequences such as unwanted pregnancy or get diseases. Imagine, that you've got pregnant at a young age. Your SCHOOL life , FAMILY relations, social life may be shattered. Your guy will probably leave you because he can't help you.You might even think of abortion which is very cruel.Virginity, once lost, can never be taken back again. RESPECT yourself as God's child, or if you don't believe on God, the Loving and the Creator... then, RESPECT yourself as a woman.
P.S. I know you're smart so do the right thing!
2007-05-07 00:05:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont even think about it! You dont have to do ANYTHING you dont want to do, especially if its sexual. If you're not ready to have sex dont do it. If he's a true boyfriend 1. he wouldn't be pushing you for anything, 2. If you said No, he would respect it and accept. If he's not doing these things you need to consider whether he is right for you. Remember, ur boyfriend is someone you should feel comfortable and yourself with, and he should respect your wishes. Tell him its not what you want and you dont feel comfortable going further. If he starts fighting with you again hun then get out of that relationship. You don't deserve that. And you're young - thers plenty of time to get the right guy, there are PLENTY more fish in the sea :)
2007-05-07 06:34:11 · answer #2 · answered by victim_of_mind 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oral sex at 14, what do you want a baby at 15, another at 16 and so on, vicky pollard what a role modle, get a life dump this bully, he should not be pushing you to do anything at 14, be with mates your own age, grow up slowly, if you let him push you into sex what then, will he leave you tell everyone your easy, what will he bully you for next, stand up for your self,
2007-05-07 06:32:14 · answer #3 · answered by ♥**•.¸¸verbalkint♥**•.¸¸ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it he sounds like an A$$hole. If he loved you he would wait until you are ready, I know how stupid a cliched that sounds but its true. He gets angry when you say no?? Get a new man one that respects you. Loosing your virginity is something you will remember for ever make it pleasant don't have it filled with regret. I was in love with a wonderful partner, whom I'm no longer with but still great friends with 12 years later, do you really want your first time to be aggressive and forced with someone who has no respect for you?
2007-05-07 06:33:28 · answer #4 · answered by kalihas_mum 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"Too far" is anything you don't want to do that makes you feel uncomfortable. You don't have to have sex with your boyfriend if you don't want to. He is NOT entitled to your body just because you are boyfriend and girlfriend. Don't let him tell you otherwise. Frankly, fourteen is too young to be doing anything sexual with a boy. Make sure he respects your boundaries or break up with him. Don't do anything that you're going to regret later.
2007-05-07 06:32:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until you are sure that there is more to the relationship than just sex. If he truly cares about you, he will be patient. If he continues to fight you about it, then tell him that if he is so anxious to have sex, go find him a whore and leave you alone.
When you do decide to have sex, be sure to use protection to prevent disease and pregnancy.
2007-05-07 06:33:11 · answer #6 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get away from him. this is rape in the making. oral sex is still sex. you are too young for any kind of contact like that. you already went too far.
2007-05-07 06:35:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh wow .tell the ****** no.damn...if he starts fight ing knock him the **** out.dont eva let a guy force you to do **** you dont want to.you r u so tell him off.if he wants a ho tell him to go look on da cornner. u dont need that crap expeshaly when your 14.wow i didnt even do anything like that till i was 16.well im 17 now but i found the one for life(2yrs now)dont let the bastard force you.bye babe ;)
2007-05-07 06:32:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl too far is anything thats you aint ready for
you are just 14, you dont even know who you really are
and you are definately not ready to face any consequences of your actions
quit
even oral sex is not neccessary
get another bf. or hobby
2007-05-07 06:32:24 · answer #9 · answered by glowing 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
he keeps pushing for more.. That means your not ready. The answer is clearly no sex...
2007-05-07 06:33:52 · answer #10 · answered by tech3901 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋