I have recently met a guy and we started dating. There is a part of me that really likes him, another part of me that thinks he is really ugly and looks like a loser. I am ashamed of myself for being so shallow, but I think I would be embarassed to introduce him to my friends and let alone my family. I know that looks fades, and I am pretty but no model. So why am I so concerned???!!!!
2007-05-06 23:16:11 · 15 answers · asked by Jodie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You know, it would be really easy to say youre shallow, or something along those lines. but, thats not true. You have to be attracted to him. bc what will happen is, youll date him TRYING to get over those things, and you wont. Youll focus on it so much that it will be more about if you can stay with him, and not if you really like him. You want to be attracted to the person you like, and not feel ashamed of them. Dont mess with it. It wont work. But, good luck! I hope this helped!:)
2007-05-07 13:05:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whether someone is attractive, in the middle or ugly is someone's opinion. Actually, I think Kim Kardashian, Natalie Portman and Kate Perry are ugly. I saw one picture of Olivia on the net and thought she was ugly. I saw Jennifer Lopez on TV and didn't think she was pretty. Heidi Klum is ugly. So is Christina Aguilera and Lauren London is ugly. I don't judge guys.
2016-05-17 08:29:29 · answer #2 · answered by joann 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the main reason that you are so concerned is that, you are worried about how others will percieve you because you like to have pride. This is quite a normal reaction but you have to consider if you want looks more than love. If I was you I would definatly want love more. It is the love cares for you emotionaly and looks are a bonus, but are something that can't contribute to supporting your emotional state.
If he treats you with the love and respect that you have always wanted, stay with him and love him for who he is. Also think of it this way, if your friends are going to judge you for the way your bf looks, then they are the shallow ones and not you.
UGLY PEOPLE NEED A LITTLE LOVING TOO!
2007-05-06 23:29:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's hard dating someone you don't find very attractive. I dated someone for 5 years who I never considered great looking... he is what many would call ugly, I suppose, but he had a great heart and was as loyal as could be. A great boyfriend! If it's something you can't get over, then it may be a problem. However, if you start feeling more comfortable with him, then it probably won't be a big deal anymore!
2007-05-06 23:20:49 · answer #4 · answered by Cochy 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I suppose for you it is very important what other people say. Maybe that could be the reason. But, I think, a part of you that is telling you you like him isn't the loud part or isn't big enough. What I'm telling is-if you really liked this guy it wouldn't matter how he looks. So ask yourself how much you like him, before you go deeper into relationship and hurt someone.
2007-05-06 23:29:36 · answer #5 · answered by E.T.O. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Generally, if you date a person for awhile, and they are good in every other way, the looks will become more attractive to you. Don't be so shallow, give the guy a chance to prove how wonderful he is in other ways. You may have a diamond in the rough and don't realize it.
Plenty of girls have attractive boyfriends that are worthless human beings.
2007-05-06 23:26:12 · answer #6 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well hon" I am very beautiful and i date a guy that people say he's too ugly but remember beauty is in the eyes of the beholder it means the heart never mind what your friends think or family are they going too take good care of you no so smile and walk proudley up too your friends and family and say this is the man i love.P.S. I am a professional model
2007-05-06 23:24:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
if u love him enough... u will love his look too!! there is on such thing as ugly if there is true love.. for example:
no parent will feel ashamed to introduce their children's to others no matter how ugly they are and i don't think u will too! that's because they truly love them.
i think u don't love him that much yet, i think u only like him la.
if he is a great guy to date.. by and by u will find him attractive in many ways and of cause that's include of his looks too!
don't worried and just be yourself.. o.k
2007-05-06 23:28:13 · answer #8 · answered by nightowls 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The guy that I was in my longest relationship with was a guy that I wasn't even attracted to! He was such a sweet guy though. He did things for me, he opened doors, pulled out chairs, he just made me feel GREAT about myself! Sometimes, there's more to a person than looks. You just have to dig deep to find it.
2007-05-06 23:32:22 · answer #9 · answered by ..... 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are too concerned with what people think, rather than how he feels about you. let him find someone who doesn't mind that he isn't perfect looking.
my hubby isn't gorgeous, but to me, he is great, simply because his heart is the most attractive part about him. he takes care of me, and treats me like a princess.
2007-05-06 23:30:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋