i was due to got to a friends wedding on saturday but took ill on the friday nite and got progresively worse during the nite and was really unwell by that mornin .I decided not to got to the wedding as i would rather not be there than ruin it by being sick during the ceremony (its not like u can just get up in the middle and got to the toilet) I didnt want to bother the bride so tried phoning a few friends who where going but as all where busy gettin ready , i decided to leave a voicemail on a friends phone to let her know i was unwell and also left a message at the hotel reception . Its a few days on and everyone is pissed of at me and arent speakin to me , did i do the right thing or not ?
2007-05-06 23:06:32 · 20 answers · asked by miss_ninety_ukuk 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
oh and as the bride is on honeymoon i have left her an e-mail apologising and offering to pay for the wasted meals .I have also suggested that we take them out for a meal when they come home
2007-05-06 23:07:46 · update #1
i agree about true friends , i paid a fortune for an outfit my fiance bought a new suite and we chipped in 50 pounds each as the wedding gift as a bunch of us wanted to give her cash for her honeymoon although that was forgotten aswell .
2007-05-06 23:27:18 · update #2
You did the right thing by emailing the two people who matter & that was the bride & her husband.
Wait till they come back from their honeymoon before you worry about it too much. Chances are, its the last thing on their minds right now & when they get back will probably wonder what all the fuss is about.
As for everyone else, well, what does it matter to them anyways right? Forget about their opinions, what matters is that the couple whos wedding it was understands...and I am sure they will :o)
2007-05-07 00:03:25 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs D 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Poor you, I hope you feel better now, and what a nightmare that your messages did not get through. I would have thought they could have been a bit more understanding and you have made more than the usual effort to apologise and offered to pay for your meal. I am sure that they will get over it, you know how some brides can get all worked up over minor things, I would leave it as it is and when they come home arrange to go and see them and explain once again in person (although don't grovel or anything), if they really are your friends they'd be more concerned that you were well.
2007-05-07 21:02:51 · answer #2 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldn't question the card, i would question the gifts. if you don't have a specific gift you know is missing because of the giver, you may have an awful time trying to get this straightened out. Because of the feelings involved, your new wife doesn't trust your sisters. Is it a cause for a lifetime of awful relations. Ask her the things she "thinks" are missing. If you can, replace it, like a mixer, etc. Replace, go so far as to forge a card, as these are family things, include $10 cash, from your sister if she helped out a lot. You may be forging a thief's signature. For love, money, and peace. Fighting about a card isn't worth the time and trouble. Gifts are of value, and your wife is apprehensive. She may be anxious about other things, how close are you and your sisters. have they left you in peace following the wedding, do they call, or are things left without a good conclusion. Whom did the clean=up? Have a dinner, buffet, with your wife and sisters, you can figure it out. I would make the peace as soon as you can.
2016-05-17 08:27:36 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Under the circumstances there is not much else you could do and you seem to have done all the correct things as in trying to make contact. Only one little thing is niggling at me and I apologise in advance if the suggestion is sooooooo wrong but it doesn't seem to make sense that everyone is pissed off with you for being ill, it's is a situation that can happen to anyone. However, could it be you are in the habit of letting people down? If so despite this time it was genuine, could be a case of the boy who cried wolf once too often. If I am way of track then you have done everything absolutely correctly.
2007-05-07 05:10:16 · answer #4 · answered by Ms Mat Urity 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing after all you didnt want to ruin your friends wedding i would have done the same all you can do now is wait for the bride to come back take them out for a meal and just say sorry you didnt go and explain why im sure she will understand and will have no problems as you are friends after all. Dont worry.
Goodluck................
2007-05-06 23:38:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes of course you did the right thing.. no point in spreading tummy upset around... and you properly would not have enjoyed the day if you were feeling unwell....My guess is your friends were properly more aware you were not there than the bride was. And when she comes back from honeymoon she will get your e-mail and be fine about it
2007-05-06 23:17:17 · answer #6 · answered by Maureen K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You deffinitely did the right thing. Explain what you've said here plus you didn't want to spread it around, imagine the bride and groom getting ill on honeymoon then you'd have been even more unpopular. Also explain that you missed out too and really wanted to be there.
2007-05-06 23:22:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you did the right thing, and seeing how you even offered to cover the costs of your meal I don't think they have a reason in the world to be upset with you.
You where ill, it's not like that is something one wants to be.
If they really get pissed off over that, I'd reconsider how much of a friend they really are.
2007-05-06 23:19:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt the bride even noticed....unless you were in the wedding but even then any normal person would have prefered you stay home than vomit or worse in the middle of the ceremony. Don't worry about it. Whoever is pissed for whatever their strange reasons are will get over it. Feel better
2007-05-07 03:00:43 · answer #9 · answered by Cash, Gage and Jax's Mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For gods sake, YOU were ill tell them to all get over it, stop being paranoid, you;re friends should be understanding, what a palava. If they are so bothered about the wasted meal, forget it, You were ill, end of story, now stop apologising
2007-05-06 23:15:04 · answer #10 · answered by looby 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋